Michelle.Winchester Posted October 23, 2018 Posted October 23, 2018 My ex broke up with me before 2 months because he had hard times and even I don't know why. Last week he told his best friend that he miss me and he wanted me back. I see that he is not better without me... He started to drink again and gained some weight. And I still love him. One week passed and I'm waiting for him. And I don't know that to do? Do I have to talk with him?
Normm Posted October 23, 2018 Posted October 23, 2018 If it was me I'd start with adding "do" to the title of your thread. After that- do nothing. It's out of your hands. 1
Author Michelle.Winchester Posted October 23, 2018 Author Posted October 23, 2018 I'm trying to edit it
Normm Posted October 23, 2018 Posted October 23, 2018 You can't. The forum software is configured to disallow editing your post if a subsequent post has followed. So my post telling you that your post needed editing prevented you from editing it. You're welcome.
kendahke Posted October 23, 2018 Posted October 23, 2018 My ex broke up with me before 2 months because he had hard times and even I don't know why. What exactly do you mean by "hard times"? Last week he told his best friend that he miss me and he wanted me back. I see that he is not better without me... He started to drink again and gained some weight. And I still love him. One week passed and I'm waiting for him. And I don't know that to do? Do I have to talk with him? No. He broke up with you. There's nothing to talk with him about. He doesn't believe your presence in his life makes a difference. If he did, he's be working through this with you, not in spite of you. I'd stop waiting for him. That would be a good start for you.
Redhead14 Posted October 23, 2018 Posted October 23, 2018 My ex broke up with me before 2 months because he had hard times and even I don't know why. Last week he told his best friend that he miss me and he wanted me back. I see that he is not better without me... He started to drink again and gained some weight. And I still love him. One week passed and I'm waiting for him. And I don't know that to do? Do I have to talk with him? Michelle, I'm a little confused. You were only dating this guy for 2 months? If that's true, he really wasn't your boyfriend, he's just a guy you dated for 2 months. He ended things with you. You'll be better off if you just leave him alone.
smackie9 Posted October 23, 2018 Posted October 23, 2018 He's a hot mess before he broke up with you...now it's even worse. Sure he misses you, but his present condition has nothing to do with you. It's best to stay away from instability....whatever his deal it, don't make it your problem too.
d0nnivain Posted October 23, 2018 Posted October 23, 2018 You can reach out to him if you like but at this point he's going to pull you under. He ended your relationship for a reason. Has that reason been resolved? If not, there is no sense going back to something that wasn't working. He misses you because having a GF is easier / less depressing then being alone but that doesn't mean he wants you back; he's just saying that because times are tough for him. Do you really want to be his fall back position, to know even if he did take you back it was only because he couldn't do any better rather than because he genuinely wanted you back? If he really cared, he knows how to get in touch with you but he's not. That failure to initiate contact speaks volumes. He doesn't want you back as much as his words alone indicate otherwise. If you do reach out, you will ultimately end up more miserable then you are now, attached to a heavy drinker who is with you out of pity. IMO you'd be better off alone. 1
preraph Posted October 23, 2018 Posted October 23, 2018 I wouldn't reach out. He knows where you are. He may have just been drunk-talking to that friend and the friend shouldn't be interfering. If your friend told your ex something like that, would you like it? Wouldn't you be telling your friend, If I wanted to get back with him, I know where to find him, and not sure that's what i want?
Author Michelle.Winchester Posted October 24, 2018 Author Posted October 24, 2018 (edited) Michelle, I'm a little confused. You were only dating this guy for 2 months? It was an year. He broke up with me 2 months ago Edited October 24, 2018 by Michelle.Winchester
Author Michelle.Winchester Posted October 24, 2018 Author Posted October 24, 2018 What did he do to make you break up? He just changed. He started to get pissed off over everything. He lied me too... And then we broke up.
Author Michelle.Winchester Posted October 24, 2018 Author Posted October 24, 2018 I wouldn't reach out. He knows where you are. He may have just been drunk-talking to that friend and the friend shouldn't be interfering. If your friend told your ex something like that, would you like it? Wouldn't you be telling your friend, If I wanted to get back with him, I know where to find him, and not sure that's what i want? I told my multal friend with his best friend that I miss him, but I wouldn't clean his mess... And I don't think that reached my ex.
Author Michelle.Winchester Posted October 24, 2018 Author Posted October 24, 2018 What exactly do you mean by "hard times"? I mean depression. I tried to help but he didn't told me the reason.
d0nnivain Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 As the SO you can't fix somebody else's depression. If he lied to you, why do you want him back? He's just going to lie again.
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