Could there be something in the air between us or am I overthinking this?

[anxiouswreckk]

There's a guy at work I'm very interested in, but I have been internally debating whether he feels the same way for a while now and the ambiguity of his feelings for me is driving me insane. My gut tells me yes, he does, because of our friendly interactions, but another part of me wonders if I'm misinterpreting a nice, friendly guy's behaviors. He always initiates the conversation and when it gets quiet (which happens all the time since I'm kind of reserved around him), he just finds something else to talk about.

 

Note: we are both cashiers in our early 20s and I only just started working at this place 2 months ago. Our shifts tend to overlap 2x a week, but it's very hard to just talk to him without any interruptions bc it can get busy.

 

Anyways. Some things he's done that make me wonder...

-Before we started talking to each other regularly, I bought some things and he asked if the 2 boxes of sushi were for me. (Answer: no, they're for my sister.) Then he nodded towards my 5 boxes of strawberries, are these all yours? (Answer: yup.) Could this have been a subtle attempt to see if I had a boyfriend?

-On the topic of Halloween, he brought up a haunted house that was an hour away, have I heard of it? He told me more about it and in the end, I was like, oh I should try going to one.

-On a different shift, he asked if I had a facebook or Instagram, then he teased me after I said that I didn't have either of those.

-Offered to drop me off after finding out that I was going to take an Uber. Then, on more than one occasion, he walked with me to the break room to get our things.

-Offered to make a weird alcoholic beverage in celebration of my 21st next year

-Quietly asked the manager when I was getting my break after he came back from his and I had made it apparent that I was tired

-While I was waiting for my ride outside one time, he was setting up his bike (honestly idk what he was doing since he was behind me). Four minutes in, he asked me if my ride was close. (Yes, it's a minute away.) He then got on his bike and said good night and left.

-Came on a day I was working to buy groceries (which is nothing out of the ordinary) but then conveniently had to talk to the manager about his schedule right behind me for a few minutes

 

Now, if I knew how he treated his other female co-workers, it'd be easier to see if he acts this way to every girl or if I'm the only one who gets special treatment from him. Someone suggested that I ask if he's single because it seems like he's "testing the waters." But is he really? I can't tell. I wish the signs of interest (or lack thereof) were more obvious so I can decide whether to act on my feelings or not.

[Mardelis]

Sorry not seeing anything pointing to real interest on his part. The only way there's something in the air between you is if someone happens to pass gas.

[dispatch3d]

To me some of it shows light interest, the last one is him talking about his schedule it has nothing to do with you for sure....

[basil67]

I'm not seeing anything here which is outside the realms of friendly conversation. But that doesn't mean it can't happen if you improve your conversational skills. Him coming up with a new topic when you go quiet is known as 'holding up both ends of the conversation'. If you want to drastically improve your chances with a guy, you need to know how to hold up your own end of the conversation. Ask questions. Probe deeper. Share without being asked.

 

-Before we started talking to each other regularly, I bought some things and he asked if the 2 boxes of sushi were for me. (Answer: no, they're for my sister.) Then he nodded towards my 5 boxes of strawberries, are these all yours? (Answer: yup.) Could this have been a subtle attempt to see if I had a boyfriend?

 

Did you tell him why you have all the strawberries? Perhaps you have a great coulis recipe. Or you love them on a pancakes. And surely he'd plead guilty to overbuying something if you asked

 

 

-On the topic of Halloween, he brought up a haunted house that was an hour away, have I heard of it? He told me more about it and in the end, I was like, oh I should try going to one.

 

To keep the conversation going: Oh, where do you hear about this kind of stuff? Do you have friends who are also interested in haunted houses?

 

 

-On a different shift, he asked if I had a facebook or Instagram, then he teased me after I said that I didn't have either of those.

 

To keep conversation going: I know I'm a luddite. What is it about social media which you really like?.

 

 

-While I was waiting for my ride outside one time, he was setting up his bike (honestly idk what he was doing since he was behind me). Four minutes in, he asked me if my ride was close. (Yes, it's a minute away.) He then got on his bike and said good night and left.

 

What are you doing over there? Building your bike from scratch? *laughs* Hopefully he will joke back to you.

 

You need to flirt and improve your conversation.

Edited October 23, 2018 by basil67

[anxiouswreckk]

Sorry not seeing anything pointing to real interest on his part. The only way there's something in the air between you is if someone happens to pass gas.

 

Haha that was kind of funny, but thank you for replying.

[anxiouswreckk]

I'm not seeing anything here which is outside the realms of friendly conversation. But that doesn't mean it can't happen if you improve your conversational skills. Him coming up with a new topic when you go quiet is known as 'holding up both ends of the conversation'. If you want to drastically improve your chances with a guy, you need to know how to hold up your own end of the conversation. Ask questions. Probe deeper. Share without being asked.

 

-Before we started talking to each other regularly, I bought some things and he asked if the 2 boxes of sushi were for me. (Answer: no, they're for my sister.) Then he nodded towards my 5 boxes of strawberries, are these all yours? (Answer: yup.) Could this have been a subtle attempt to see if I had a boyfriend?

 

Did you tell him why you have all the strawberries? Perhaps you have a great coulis recipe. Or you love them on a pancakes. And surely he'd plead guilty to overbuying something if you asked

 

 

-On the topic of Halloween, he brought up a haunted house that was an hour away, have I heard of it? He told me more about it and in the end, I was like, oh I should try going to one.

 

To keep the conversation going: Oh, where do you hear about this kind of stuff? Do you have friends who are also interested in haunted houses?

 

 

-On a different shift, he asked if I had a facebook or Instagram, then he teased me after I said that I didn't have either of those.

 

To keep conversation going: I know I'm a luddite. What is it about social media which you really like?.

 

 

-While I was waiting for my ride outside one time, he was setting up his bike (honestly idk what he was doing since he was behind me). Four minutes in, he asked me if my ride was close. (Yes, it's a minute away.) He then got on his bike and said good night and left.

 

What are you doing over there? Building your bike from scratch? *laughs* Hopefully he will joke back to you.

 

You need to flirt and improve your conversation.

 

Thank you for your input. Yes, I am aware of my poor social skills and they’re something I’m trying to work on, especially with him because I do want to get to know him better. There’s a billion questions I want to ask him, but I never seem to get a chance to ask him a whole lot bc we only get to talk to each other the last hour or so of our shift. What’s unfortunate is that after we part ways, I always end up thinking of things I could have said, but didn’t because I got nervous or it got too busy at work. That’s probably the worst part, not having said something.

 

Hence why I would love to get his number so we can have more in depth convos, but that’s too soon I think, asking for his number for no legitimate reason I mean.

 

I’m starting to feel more comfortable around him, which is a first because it’s been a long time I felt that way. I will admit that I haven’t had a friend in a long time and getting back to the whole meeting new people and socializing has been hard. But I’m trying my best here to really push my limits and get better at this.