cappucinomix88 Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 For the last 7 years I was in a relationship with “Bob”. We had lived together for 6.5 years. We were more or less like a married couple. We also have a business together. I was only happy about 50% of the time and we fought almost daily for years. The last 1.5 years had been the worst. About 2 months ago, I bumped into a friend’s ex, “Steve”, that I’ve known for years. He told me he had been checking me out (before I said “oh hey, thought I saw you over there at the gas pump!) and said we should get coffee sometime. I couldn’t stop thinking about him. 2 weeks later, I heard from my friend (they have a child together) that they had gotten in a fight about the child. I told her what I thought of the child’s situation even though she didn’t like it but she and I have the kind of relationship where we straight shoot and no one is mad. Anyway, I then messaged Steve and said I heard what happened and hoped he wasn’t too upset that my friend yelled at him. It was really just my ploy to talk to him and I didn’t badmouth her. Anyway, he invited me over for coffee the next am. I went and we had fun and talked for awhile. Nothing happened between us but he wanted me to call him later. I went home and fought again with my then-boyfriend who told me to “kill myself”. I was pissed and called Steve who again invited me over. This time we hooked up (not sex, just kissing and such). The next day we had plans to meet again but he texted me and said it wasn’t a good idea because I was still in a relationship and that he wasn’t going to let it go further. I asked him if we can talk about it but he never replied. Two weeks later I have finally broken up with Bob. He found out about it through my friend and message me to confirm. Still kept his distance for the next week. Finally we met up and I slept over, again no sex. This was my choice not his. I see him here and there because I babysit for their child, but we just act polite and talk a little about random things. About another week goes by and he barely speaks to me but that Sunday my friend invited me to his house because they were having a family get together to watch football. I went and ended up hooking up, again not sex, with him that night. We made plans to hang the next day. The next day however texted me to say that he was too tired to hang out. I asked him when he would be free But he never replied. About a week later I called him and he didn’t answer I made it look like a butt dial. He texted me the next day and asked if I meant to call him and was friendly. I replied that it was an accident. That was the last I’ve heard of him. I’ve asked him many times why he’s playing hard to get and he said he likes it when I chased him. He said he’s not ready for something serious. That my friend messed him up pretty badly even though it’s been three years since they split. He said he doesn’t know what he wants and that he’s confused. I asked if we could just hang, be friends, hook up, see what happens and he said yes. He never Calls, texts. I’m kind of confused not sure what’s going on. I know I haven’t done anything wrong. So it’d be nice to know what he’s thinking and doing!!
RedHead5 Posted October 23, 2018 Posted October 23, 2018 Never chase a man. This guy is only looking for a hookup. If you actually like him, run fast in the other direction. You are going to get hurt. 1
preraph Posted October 23, 2018 Posted October 23, 2018 When you can't tell if a guy really wants you or not he probably doesn't want you that bad. but anyway to cut all this really short anytime someone is just confusing you and you don't know if they're on board or not you just keep dating other people.
greymatter Posted October 23, 2018 Posted October 23, 2018 He isn't interested because you cheated on your boyfriend with him by going to his house to be alone with him, kissing, etc. He doesn't want anything with you, you were just a momentary distraction and you are stroking his ego by chasing him. 2
Mardelis Posted October 23, 2018 Posted October 23, 2018 He isn't interested because you cheated on your boyfriend with him This. He sees you as an unreliable cheater and he isn't going to risk having done to him what you did to Bob. Your actions define you. And he likes the attention, as the poster above stated.
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