manifestsunshine Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 My cousin is a mutual friend of my ex. My ex mentioned he would still stay friends with my cousin, although I haven't spoken to my cousin at all (usually see him 3-4 times a years)..and has no idea what my ex did to me in regards to stringing me along and the break-up. Should I share the details with my cousin? I would be seeing him in November at the earliest, but I could text him. After telling him, he could decide if he wants to remain friends with him or not. At the same time I want him to be mindful if my ex approaches him about me in any way. I really don't want my ex to know how I'm doing and etc. He doesn't deserve to know but he could always ask him. Not sure if it's my place to tell my cousin to not say anything or limit what he says. The only thing I can control would be to limit my convo's with my cousin and not really stress how I'm doing so he wouldn't have any good updates for my ex. I appreciate any help here- thanks!
ExpatInItaly Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 You could give your cousin the heads-up that you are no longer together, just to avoid any awkward conversations later, but I would not get into details. I know you are very angry with your ex, based on your other threads about him, but I would leave you cousin out of this. It's between you and your ex.
Author manifestsunshine Posted October 23, 2018 Author Posted October 23, 2018 You could give your cousin the heads-up that you are no longer together, just to avoid any awkward conversations later, but I would not get into details. I know you are very angry with your ex, based on your other threads about him, but I would leave you cousin out of this. It's between you and your ex. I think sooner or later the whole family will know. I would probably tell my closer relatives what happened- if they asked. I think if my cousin asked, then I would be more inclined to tell him...otherwise would keep my mouth shut. I doubt he would hear through the grapevine bc he's out of the loop. Yeah it's hard bc as much as I am hurt I don't want to give everyone the impression he was the good guy they remembered him as. Emotional manipulation is not OK. You have been extremely helpful! Thank you!!
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