Awesome guy with loads of baggage

[FaithInTheDark]

Ive been dating this guy for the last 6 weeks and we both really like each other.

The guy carries a lot of baggage and its surfaced recently. His friend passed away, plus experiencing the damage from a recent divorce. (5 months ago) he is also dealing with the loss of a child involved. Once he raised but now has left with the ex wife.

Yesterday i told him i wanted to see him more often because its only been once a week. He told me hes in a really tough spot in life in which makes him introverted.

The discussion involved him saying how much he cares and likes me but doesnt know if he can give me what i need. He also said he understood if i wasnt willing to wait aroud to find out. But mentioned me didnt want me to give up on him but also doesnt want to hurt me.

I told him i have boundaries but require effort from him or else ill cut my looses.

Deep down im sad because we were really good together but i really cant put myself through the disappointment and hurt.

I told him to meet me tomorrow to talk face yo face and we are.

Does anyone think this will work? Should I just stop talking to him?

Any advice

[Gaeta]

Never date a man freshly out of a marriage or relationship. He's a train out of control. He'll need a couple of transition girlfriends before he gets his head back on so don't volunteer to be used as a band-aid. When they finally move on they rarely do it with their band-aid gf.

 

 

 

Baggage isn't bad, at a certain age it's preferred. We learn from our past experiences and it's making us smarter and wiser. I would not date a man that doesn't have baggage. That being said there needs to be peace made with that baggage, not the case here.

[TheFinalWord]

Ive been dating this guy for the last 6 weeks and we both really like each other.

The guy carries a lot of baggage and its surfaced recently. His friend passed away, plus experiencing the damage from a recent divorce. (5 months ago) he is also dealing with the loss of a child involved. Once he raised but now has left with the ex wife.

Yesterday i told him i wanted to see him more often because its only been once a week. He told me hes in a really tough spot in life in which makes him introverted.

The discussion involved him saying how much he cares and likes me but doesnt know if he can give me what i need. He also said he understood if i wasnt willing to wait aroud to find out. But mentioned me didnt want me to give up on him but also doesnt want to hurt me.

I told him i have boundaries but require effort from him or else ill cut my looses.

Deep down im sad because we were really good together but i really cant put myself through the disappointment and hurt.

I told him to meet me tomorrow to talk face yo face and we are.

Does anyone think this will work? Should I just stop talking to him?

Any advice

 

 

Abort. He knows he's going to hurt you...

[lurker74]

but doesnt know if he can give me what i need.

 

When people tell you who they are, believe them.

[dancingintherain12]

I'm going through the same thing (minus the baggage) seeing him once a week and wanted to see him more. I gave him an ultimatum and regret it. Read my thread and read the advice. Hopefully that helps.

[FaithInTheDark]

I'm going through the same thing (minus the baggage) seeing him once a week and wanted to see him more. I gave him an ultimatum and regret it. Read my thread and read the advice. Hopefully that helps.

 

I will read them thank you

[Redhead14]

Ive been dating this guy for the last 6 weeks and we both really like each other.

The guy carries a lot of baggage and its surfaced recently. His friend passed away, plus experiencing the damage from a recent divorce. (5 months ago) he is also dealing with the loss of a child involved. Once he raised but now has left with the ex wife.

Yesterday i told him i wanted to see him more often because its only been once a week. He told me hes in a really tough spot in life in which makes him introverted.

The discussion involved him saying how much he cares and likes me but doesnt know if he can give me what i need. He also said he understood if i wasnt willing to wait aroud to find out. But mentioned me didnt want me to give up on him but also doesnt want to hurt me.

I told him i have boundaries but require effort from him or else ill cut my looses.

Deep down im sad because we were really good together but i really cant put myself through the disappointment and hurt.

I told him to meet me tomorrow to talk face yo face and we are.

Does anyone think this will work? Should I just stop talking to him?

Any advice

 

This guy is being straight up honest with you. He can't give you more right now. And, it's going to take much longer for him to "recover" from all of this. Your dating goals are different than his for sure right now. He's not looking for a committed long-term relationship. Why is he dating then? He's lonely, he's hurting, he wants intimacy, he wants a casual relationship.

 

You want more than he's offering, it's best to cut ties and move on. It's never really a good idea to date a recently divorced man anyway when you are looking for a relationship.