confused83 Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 (edited) My partner has gone on a mini holiday with her 2 best frienda and their partners. I couldnt go due to work. I assumed we'd talk like we do when we are at home, shes alwaya got her phone on her and i just assumed we'd touch base. Shes been gone 3 days now and hasnt text me once. Its still in the UK so no coverage issues. Plus ive put a couple of photos on facebook which shes isntantly liked... which kind of shows me shes always on her phone but doesnt msg me. She also said before she went that it isnt a drinking holiday... So Tonight i text her 'would you like to ring me later id love to hear how its going, gutted i had work' she replied 'no its not the best idea as we are going out' Am i completely wrong to be annoyed by this? She's with 2 other couples so surely theyd be asking about me? Surely id be on her mind at least once in a day when she is watching these other couples. Im worried now that somethings not right as if i was away id jump at the chance to call her when i got back to my room. I trust her and dont assume anything seedy, im more concerned at her lack of missing me. Id be sending her photos of our days etc. An update... i replied to her text and said ok thats fine... she replied 'ill talk to you when im home' which makes me even more worried. I dont know if this is insecurity as shes away or that im missing some huge red flag here. Edited October 22, 2018 by confused83
smackie9 Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 You complain about how she treats you.....date those who treat you the way you want to be treated. Obviously she isn't that into you enough to be in constant contact of any kind. Sounds to me you are casually dating which doesn't require such commitment. If you don't like it, say something. But IMO you should have kicked her to the curb by now because this isn't working for you the way you think it should.
Frillianlillian Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 How long have you been dating? How long is she going to be gone for? Honestly it's only been three days and she is away on holiday with her friends. She hasn't ignored your messages and is still liking your stuff on social media (if something was up she wouldn't). You were invited on the holiday, so its not like she planned it to go meet someone else. Let her be to have fun with her friends, maybe she is just taking it as a fun get away to catch up and spend quality time with them on her own. If nothing else its some time to miss each other. If she were ignoring you or going online and not liking your posts maybe I would smell smoke, but I don't see any reason to be concerned here. Don't be that jealous needy guy that needs her to check in with you while she is away having fun, you are her boyfriend not her mother. Let her miss you and show her that you are confident and trusting in your relationship.
d0nnivain Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 People do tend to put a bit more distance & a little less communication when they are away but basically radio silence & her ignoring you when you reach out seems over the top. She should have 5 minutes for you. I wouldn't be worried so much as annoyed. You will need to have a face to face discussion about things when she gets home.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 Going by your posting history about her, she's always been a little more distant than you'd like. It seems she is comfortable keeping this more casual, no?
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