Lack of kissing from my girlfriend

[guy45]

Hi everyone,

Me and my gf are both 26. We have been together for almost 3 months now. The first couple of weeks were great. Over time however we started kissing less and less. I know that a relationship cannot be in the honey moon stage forever but my gut feeling is just telling me something is wrong. I feel like my gf has no desire to kiss me. If she does kiss me it only feels like its to cheer me up.

 

The messages we send each other now are also pretty lame. We rarely say I love you or even I miss you anymore. She seems more and more careless as time goes on. Sometimes she'll even text customers while she is with me which kinda bothers me since it shows she doesn't value our time together.I feel like I'm the only one trying honestly. She says she wants to be with me and all that stuff whenever I bring it up, but her actions speak louder than her words.

 

I just don't feel any affection from her. She does touch me and hold my hand a lot but I'm not sure if that really means enough. I feel really stupid for being with her. Please give me some advice or an explanation for what is going on and why she is like this.

 

I think I already know this relationship will not work but I just want a second opinion. Thanks in advance

Edited October 23, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[d0nnivain]

If you are already unhappy a mere 90 days in & feel neglected / unappreciated what is the point of continuing? If it's this bad during the HM phase it will only get worse.

[Juha]

Seems like time for a little talk about the relationship with you gf.

 

Maybe she does not know she is doing this as she is comfortable with you now or she is not feeling it anymore but feels guilty about saying anything or that is just her relationship style.

 

Have to talk and communicate to see where you two stand, otherwise it's all guess work.

 

I wish you luck

[alphamale]

is your gf a prostitute? that may explain the aversion for kissing

[ElKay]

This happened to me before and it meant the person was no longer interested, but didn't have the courage, nor kindness to simply break it off.

[Art Anderson]

I don't want to be piling on you, but there is something not right. You haven't been together long at all so maybe it's something particular you two can sort out and move along in the relationship.

 

However, when it comes to actual kissing, there's something telling about that, from my experience. A woman could still be having me staying over on weekends, having sex, but outside of bed there wouldn't be any kiss on the lips for hi or goodbye. She (they) would maneuver so it's a kiss on her neck while we hug.

 

After 3 relationships I look back on that went that way, from a few months to a few years, it is a sure sign that you're on the way out of their life. Like guys, they'll keep you around for sex until they've got all the other pieces in place to dump you.

 

So to repeat, if it's not just something you do that's bugging her and it could be fixed, brace yourself and chalk it up to bad luck and you'll grow another layer of thicker skin.

[Scarlett.O'hara]

Three possibilities spring to mind.

 

Firstly, it might be a oral hygiene/smell issue but she may is too polite to say anything. Try popping a mint and see if that makes a difference.

 

Secondly, she may not be overly affectionate by nature and tried for the first couple of weeks to let you know she was into you, but it was too hard for her to maintain.

 

Thirdly, she has simply lost interest/attraction but likes having a boyfriend for now.

 

Trust your instincts.

[Logo]

In all likelihood, she's already emotionally checked out of the relationship and it's only going to get worse. Don't stick around to find out how.

 

Since this happened in less than two months, get out while the getting is good. Break up with her and move on. The longer you stay, the more emotionally painful it's going to be.

Edited October 23, 2018 by Logo

[smackie9]

Sorry but it's over......have the strength to move on.