mortensorchid Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 On Friday I had an internet date with this guy. Without going into too many details, I liked him. I liked him enough that I would like to get to know him a bit better before I make any rash decisions. I didn't hear from him yesterday (Saturday) which is somewhat understandable as it's Saturday during the day and night. It's now Sunday morning. It's been my experience that if you have not heard from the man within 48 hours, you will not hear from him again 90% of the time. He might contact you a few days later (be it phone call or text), you might have a second get together with him, but he'll just be a friend and he doesn't really care if you say yes or no to the second request. I'm … Interested enough to at least reach out with a text and say "Hi how are you had a nice time on Friday hope we can do it again". Is that bad of me to do so? 1
Logo Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 On Friday I had an internet date with this guy. Without going into too many details, I liked him. I liked him enough that I would like to get to know him a bit better before I make any rash decisions. I didn't hear from him yesterday (Saturday) which is somewhat understandable as it's Saturday during the day and night. It's now Sunday morning. It's been my experience that if you have not heard from the man within 48 hours, you will not hear from him again 90% of the time. He might contact you a few days later (be it phone call or text), you might have a second get together with him, but he'll just be a friend and he doesn't really care if you say yes or no to the second request. I'm … Interested enough to at least reach out with a text and say "Hi how are you had a nice time on Friday hope we can do it again". Is that bad of me to do so? What happened at the very end of the date, when you parted ways?
Ruby Slippers Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 I'm glad you had a good date! I agree that if he really likes you, you'll hear from him the next day, and every day from then on. You can text if you want, but personally I wouldn't bother with a guy who's not into me. I'd focus on the fact that the dates are getting better, you're getting warmer. I had two awesome dates with the last man, then didn't hear from him. No big deal - though we clicked in a lot of ways, there was very little physical chemistry. But I felt I was getting so close! Now I just went on an amazing 14-hour (!!) second date last night, and I already feel strongly he could be The One. We're doing a couple costume and going out for Halloween next weekend, and he's already thrown out the idea of a tropical island vacation around Thanksgiving. This is after only a month or two of dating after a year break. Be positive, have fun with it, and you'll keep getting warmer. Good luck, honey!
BaileyB Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 What happened at the very end of the date, when you parted ways? This is the question... There is no reason why you can't send him a text. Did you at least both say that you had a good time and indicate that you were interested in getting together again sometime?
Author mortensorchid Posted October 21, 2018 Author Posted October 21, 2018 What happened at the very end of the date, when you parted ways? He walked me to my car and he said he liked the evening. I said I did as well. He also said hope we talk soon. I said yes. Then we hugged and I got in the car and drove home. No text from him after I had gotten home or since.
smackie9 Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 Did you not text him and thanked him for the date or said you had a great time and would love to see him again? If not, he's thinking it was a bust because he didn't hear from you. Some guys simply need a kick in the pants to get it. 1
Logo Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 Did you not text him and thanked him for the date or said you had a great time and would love to see him again? If not, he's thinking it was a bust because he didn't hear from you. Some guys simply need a kick in the pants to get it. Smackie9, I'm quoting you too much today. Hope you don't get the wrong idea, but.... What she said. He walked me to my car and he said he liked the evening. I said I did as well. He also said hope we talk soon. I said yes. Then we hugged and I got in the car and drove home. No text from him after I had gotten home or since. Drop him a hint. This whole, "Hope we talk soon" is annoying me. He should have initiated it. 1
smackie9 Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 Everyone has been so burned, ghosted on, flaked on, etc that it has come down to the old Mexican stand off, where it's the other thinking, if they don't text me I'll take that has them not interested....I give up. NEXT! 2
LauraXX Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 I'd say it's not a good sign that he hasn't texted you yet. In my experience, guys who are really interested will definitely follow-up after a date. However, if you really liked him and want to see him again, I don't see a problem with sending him a quick message. If he doesn't reply you can still delete his number and let him go.
Gretchen12 Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 If you like a guy it's always a good idea to send that "thank you had a good time would like to do again" text the same evening or next morning, when it's very natural to just be courteous. That way you put the ball in his court so you won't be wondering if you've done enough or if he's shy and you avoid having to reach out a few days later which is awkward because by then it would appear like you've been waiting.
Author mortensorchid Posted October 22, 2018 Author Posted October 22, 2018 Ok will send him a text saying I had a good time on Friday, hope we can do it again. I hope I get a response even if it's just "thanks I did as well". I will update if and when. 1
hippychick3 Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 I have found that when the guy is really interested, he will want to see you again regardless if you send or don't send a "thank you" text after a date. I always thanked the guy at the end of each date and never saw the need to initiate a follow up text saying thank you again. Most of the men I went out with asked me out on a second date despite this. The ones who did not, there just wasn't chemistry on the first date. I guess it can't hurt to send it, but my thought is he isn't that interested.
Author mortensorchid Posted October 22, 2018 Author Posted October 22, 2018 I have found that when the guy is really interested, he will want to see you again regardless if you send or don't send a "thank you" text after a date. I always thanked the guy at the end of each date and never saw the need to initiate a follow up text saying thank you again. Most of the men I went out with asked me out on a second date despite this. The ones who did not, there just wasn't chemistry on the first date. I guess it can't hurt to send it, but my thought is he isn't that interested. I agree. I didn't need you to tell me that, he won't respond to my text because he's not interested enough. It's been 48 hours and ... That's that. But hey life goes on. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 ^ That's right. This puts you one step closer to Mr. Right
hippychick3 Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 I agree. I didn't need you to tell me that, he won't respond to my text because he's not interested enough. It's been 48 hours and ... That's that. But hey life goes on. It happens to ALL of us. It's important to not put too much thought or energy into any guy after just one date. Just keep moving onward and upward. The right guy WILL come along for you.
Author mortensorchid Posted October 22, 2018 Author Posted October 22, 2018 Well he responded sometime in the early morning. I have to be at my first job at 7 am and he texted me (in response to the one I sent the night before) saying he had a good time as well and hopes we can see each other before he leaves for the west coast for a business trip. I … Don't know here. My guts are telling me this is not … Just not. He should have taken some initiative and didn't and I don't like that. I think I will let it stand.
Gretchen12 Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 Your date was Friday. Today is only Monday. I'm actually more wary of the too quick chasers that have this thing down to a formula. Those usually don't stick around more than a few months because they live a life of grabbing new dates from the 'net and processing them using the formula. 1
Author mortensorchid Posted October 24, 2018 Author Posted October 24, 2018 Your date was Friday. Today is only Monday. I'm actually more wary of the too quick chasers that have this thing down to a formula. Those usually don't stick around more than a few months because they live a life of grabbing new dates from the 'net and processing them using the formula. Yes, I agree. I was hoping he would be interested but he's not that into me. A man who's interested in a woman will contact her somehow and not put other things on hold. Once again, the 48 hour rule is in effect. A man is either interested or not interested in you. And he's not interested enough. He says he is but actions speak louder than words here. Next.
alphamale Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 time to move on to the next prospect mortensorchid
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