Love2015 Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 Hi! Yesterday, I had a good first date. We had scheduled it in advance and I was going to cancel it but then we started talking on the phone and he asked again to meet for coffee so I said yes. We met in the end for dinner but because he said he was hungry and from get go we hit it off. When seeing in parking lot we both hugged and then proceeded to go into the restaurant together. We talked about so many things and he was trying to be affectionate. That was a little bit awkward for me because I tend not to do anything on first dates but I did feel comfortable. After dinner, we went to our cars and he was still trying to be affectionate (hold hand, hug me). He wanted to kiss me and kept on kissing my cheeks. I was leaving and I don't know what happened to me ...I just kissed him. We kissed and then I went home. I had a great date and today I talked to him over the phone many times. He was working if not we would have met I had a good date. Any comments or advice for future dates with this man are welcome.
PRW Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 "Coffee Dates" are a fast track to the friend zone (usually the woman friend-zoning the guy),...it was good that you changed it to a regular dinner. A regular dinner has a more proper atmosphere. Talking on the phone is better than texting. So that is Ok. But keep contact between dates to a minimum until you have agreed to being exclusive. Practicing this will do several things. It means that anything you have to talk about will be saved for the date which makes the date better. It will help build anticipation for the date so you both look more forward to the date. Most importantly it will weed out any insecure, needy, clingy, "scarcity mindset" people on either side because they just won't be able to handle doing that. Sometimes it can even weed out the future cheaters/players because they tend to gravitate to where ever they get the most "immediate attention" (instant gratification), so if they don't hear from you constantly they will move on to another. He seemed a bit creepy to me. Kissing on the cheek (during a first date) is always creepy. Kissing on the cheek is for kissing grandma or other family members. That whole "kept kissing me on the cheek" thing just screams words like clingy, pushy, desperate etc. A well balanced guy who knows what he is doing is not ever going to kiss you on the cheek,...it will be on the lips and it will only be when he can clearly see that you are open to it by reading your mannerisms, you are not going to feel like you've been "attacked" by a pair of lips. Sometimes the neediness/clingyness fades after they get to know you better and feel more comfortable,...but a lot of the time it doesn't,...so be on guard for it. The needy clingy types also become stalkers.
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