brokenheart901 Posted October 20, 2018 Posted October 20, 2018 Hey guys, I had been in NC with my ex that had broken up with me about 5 months ago. The first month sucked but then I started to feel better and focused on myself. She did me really bogus, and now when I reflect on the relationship, I realized how toxic it was and all the red flags that i missed. A month ago she texted and left a voicemail crying saying she still loves me and wants me to come back. I'm not sure what the intentions were but I ignored her. Now a month later, this past week I've been feeling weird. Like I miss her all of a sudden despite the way she treated me. I want to reach out but I know thats not a good idea. Part of me thinks she genuinely wants me back cause she was crying and texted me multiple times asking for forgiveness, but part of me doesnt trust her anymore due to the fact she chose someone over me and completely shattered me.
Redhead14 Posted October 20, 2018 Posted October 20, 2018 (edited) I had been in NC with my ex that had broken up with me about 5 months ago. The first month sucked but then I started to feel better and focused on myself. She did me really bogus, and now when I reflect on the relationship, I realized how toxic it was and all the red flags that i missed. A month ago she texted and left a voicemail crying saying she still loves me and wants me to come back. I'm not sure what the intentions were but I ignored her. Now a month later, this past week I've been feeling weird. Like I miss her all of a sudden despite the way she treated me. I want to reach out but I know thats not a good idea. Part of me thinks she genuinely wants me back cause she was crying and texted me multiple times asking for forgiveness, but part of me doesnt trust her anymore due to the fact she chose someone over me and completely shattered me. You are grieving the loss -- plain and simple. Feelings will wax and wane over time and especially if you've had contact with her periodically. It's always best to go no contact after a break up and stick to it. No contact is a tool for YOU to heal and not a manipulative tool or an affront to her. - You need to realize that she is going through the same process. She, however, allows herself to act on her emotions rather than step back and realize that the break up was for the best. After 5 months, she's likely just not feeling validated by a man since the break up and is using you as an emotional tampon. Go no contact and stay that way forever for your own sake. Edited October 20, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Truncate quote
Recommended Posts