bc72fgbjbc Posted October 19, 2018 Posted October 19, 2018 So I met this girl online. We had a lot of great conversations by texts on many things like music and the voyages we did and the ones we'd like to make. So when I came back from my vacations I invited her on a date. We took a walk in my neighborhood and stopped at my house since it was on our path. We spent a really good afternoon, played guitar together, watched some television and then kissed. When it was time for farewells we hugged but nothing more, I was okay with that maybe she wasn't really comfortable to kiss again on a first date. So then she texted me that she had a great time, but also said that she was sorry that she didn't kiss me at the end of the afternoon. She said that she wasn't really expecting to kiss on a first date so I just said that it's okay and there is nothing to worry about. However since we saw each other for the first time yesterday she seems soo more distant than usual, I'm really stressed out. She still answers but she takes a lot more time and it's a lot of one word answers like she wasn't really interested in having a good conversation with me. Anyway it has only been like one day and a half so I'm not pushing it but I'm starting to worry. What do you think?
ExpatInItaly Posted October 19, 2018 Posted October 19, 2018 Give it a little more time, OP. She might be busy and distracted for reasons that have nothing to do with you. If she was uncomfortable with the kiss, she could have spoken up in the moment too. It happened, and I don't feel you have necessarily done anything wrong. You went with what seemed comfortable and what seemed okay with her too, at the time. Don't stress, in any case. You have only met her once so it's best to keep your options open anyway at this point. 1
Author bc72fgbjbc Posted October 19, 2018 Author Posted October 19, 2018 Yeah you're probably right. I had a conversation with her this morning and everything seemed fine. She's going on a trip with friends this weekend but she said she wants to talk to me anyway and that I never bother her. Should I? Or should I avoid texting her when she is busy with other people? I know that sometimes what people ask from you and what they really want is not exactly the same thing so I'm wondering. Should I text her anyway during the weekend like we usually do or should I just leave 1 or 2 messages to plan our next date?(We already talked about maybe next week)
d0nnivain Posted October 19, 2018 Posted October 19, 2018 It was one date yesterday. You are being your own worst enemy & letting your insecurities control you. Calm down. If you don't you will lose her for sure. Stop measuring how long it takes to respond. She is not required to be glued to her phone. Call her up. Set up another date. Do something less lame then taking a walk & hanging out at your house.
Author bc72fgbjbc Posted October 23, 2018 Author Posted October 23, 2018 So there's a big update on my situation. We saw each other today and she anounced me that when she met me, she met someone else at the same time and she really doesn't know who she should choose but want to keep seeing us both until things get clearer. I was kinda upset but didn't want to get in an argument so I politally said I needed to get back home. However I realized that finally I wasn't feeling that sad so I texted her later and asked that if we continue to see each other, if I would be allowed to keep my options opened too, since she has two options. She said that it seems fair and accepted so we will probably see each other in a few days anyway. Am I doing the right thing? I really don't know it feels a bit weird tbh.
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