confused&inneed Posted September 10, 2005 Posted September 10, 2005 Ok, i have been dating this guy for two months. I like him and all, i just dont want to be with him anymore. I really think that we are better friends than a couple. For about the past 2 weeks i have been wanting to break it off, but i dont know how to do it. The guy i am with is really sweet and sensitive. So i dont know how to say it with out crushing him. Plus i am his first gf, though he is not my first. But i know the sooner i do it the easier it will be. i am partly trying to do things so that he will break up with me, but i keep failing. Mostly because i end up giving in if its an argument, which i have tried to start and failed at. I dont know how to do it. I dont want to loose the friendship, because he is one of my bestfriends, i tell him everything, and he the same. I just dont know what to do???? or how to do it. I really want to stay friends with him. Help Please!!!
Merin Posted September 10, 2005 Posted September 10, 2005 Be honest with him. Tell him that he is one of your Best Friends and while you really like him so much as a Friend, you don't have those romantic feelings for him that he deserves. He may not want to remain friends right now, and if he doesn't then let him have his space.... all I'm saying here is if this is really your friend don't be hurtful in trying to start arguments with him this, that, the other... all it does is confuse people and piss em off.
whichwayisup Posted September 10, 2005 Posted September 10, 2005 Merin's advice is perfect! This doesn't have to end in a bad way at all...Just be honest with him and make sure you DO tell him how much you care about him. Hopefully, in time, he'll want to be friends with you but I'm sure he'll need some time and space to deal with the feelings and get past it all. Good luck and keep posting.
confused&innedd Posted September 10, 2005 Posted September 10, 2005 alright thanks to both of you!!! I just cant find the words, we hung out lastnight and i wanted to say something, and i just couldnt....I really like him as a friend, and we have fun together and all...i just dont want to be with him. I am just not physically attracted to him, like he is me..... I really dont want to hurt him. but i know know matter what, someone always gets hurt.
Author confused&inneed Posted September 10, 2005 Author Posted September 10, 2005 Thanks to both of you!!! I just dont know how to do it. we hung out lastnight and i wanted to say something then, but i couldnt. I really dont want to hurt him, but i know that that is impossible, someone always gets hurt. i really do care for him, like i have said before, i am his first gf, which is weird for him being 26 i know. But trust me, i really am his first. i just dont know how to do it. before with the other guys i have dated it was much easier to end the relationship, but with him, its all different. I dont know what to do. I am just not attracted to him like he is me. ......sighs....
933KJL Posted September 10, 2005 Posted September 10, 2005 Text him: "Sry Charlie. Not gonna work. CUL8TR"
Jayhawks Posted September 10, 2005 Posted September 10, 2005 Have you had sex with him yet? If you have then the friendship is screwed.
Hungryhorse Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 you might need to put a break in seeing him first, tell him your are busy, etc, then drop him the bad news, it will make him realise something is up and be easier to tell him
Author confused&inneed Posted September 17, 2005 Author Posted September 17, 2005 i did it monday night, i feel like crap!!! we both cried. we talked online last night and a little tonight, i think we might beable to be friends. But it is still to early to tell. i hope things work out well.. Thank you all for your words of advice, it helped. Thank you
cutieflaca05 Posted December 22, 2005 Posted December 22, 2005 I ve be dating this guy for almost 1 month, dni think it's time to get out of it! we were kinda friends when we started going out, mostly flirting alot! when we decided to go out iwas happy for the first two weeks. But now its just plain boring. He doesn't hug me or ascts like he wants to be with me. And I want to be with some one who atleest shows the same affection for me. BuT NOW IM STUCK WITH GUILT. Cause he'srobaly thinking about me now and im plotting to break this thing off. What should I do. I just want this to end with me and him in one peice! Signed, Just get me out of here Girl!
Author confused&inneed Posted December 27, 2005 Author Posted December 27, 2005 Well the first thing that you should do is try telling him how you feel. See if trying to spice things back up will work. If not then tell him that you have tried and that you think it would be better if the two of you were just friends. You could start the conversation off with something along this line. "I have been feeling like things are not as hot as when we first started dating or before that, I miss some of that flirting and holding each other." wait and see how he responds. and if he says that he didnt realise that he was doing that and that he'll try, give him time to try. If your feelings are still the same then it will be time to break up, but this way you can at least say that you tried. I did this with my friend too, if you read my first posting. I broke it off after the second month, i couldnt take it longer than that. It was the same as when we were just friends. Even now we are still friends but we dont talk as much as we used to. Things will work out by how ever you want them to work.
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