Smurf1 Posted October 18, 2018 Posted October 18, 2018 Hi everyone, it's been already 2 months my first, big love dumped me for someone else (even if she keep saying he's nothing to do with our break-up). We started dating when we were both 17, and have been together 4 years and some months. I've got to admit that things are already going better (I'm not even close to feel, but I don't expect it right now), and you guys on Loveshack helped so much, but I think I need some more help/advice. First of all, I don't want to get her back, really, I thought a lot about it, and I dont'think that's a good idea to me. Well, since she has left, I tried to go NoContact, but it's just too hard, simply because we attend the same university. To be honest, it wouldn't be a problem to me, the problem comes, once again, from her. She has very few friends (and some of them are not even trustworthy), and she's going through a tough personal crisis (i.e. she doesn't know who she is, what she want to do with her lifand stuff like that). I know I could help her, and she knows that too, and when we meet each other, she starts talking about herself, her new relationship (sounds crazy, I know) and all the problem she's having at home, at university and so on. As I said, I dont' wanna get her back, mostly because our relationship turned out as a (strong) friendship, on the other hand, I'm not over her yet. I'm stuck in this position, between "I'm not over her" and "I really care about her", and I don't know what to do. Plus, she has never wanted to have sex, due to religion and other reasons. I respected that. Two weeks after the breakup, she slept with the guy she dumped me for. It's driving me and my self-esteem crazy. I got these two problem, and I'd be so thankful if anyone could give me some advice, as you've read, I'm not an expert, this is my first serious break-up. Thank you so much
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