Teknoe Posted October 17, 2018 Posted October 17, 2018 Two months ago, my then girlfriend of 11 months dumped me. Although the feeling was mutual, it still hurt. I knew it was for the best and I knew we weren't meant to be, but it still marked the end of an era, and that always comes with heavy emotions. I gained 40 pounds in the year we dated, and since the day my ex broke it off, I vowed to lose those 40 pounds and then 30 more. I'm currently about 25 pounds down with my eye on losing 45 more. But I've been dating since my ex broke up with me because I was ready to date again and find a more suitable match. Been on a few dates but it didn't pan out. These two ladies wanted 2nd dates but I couldn't go on because I knew neither were good fits. Then last week a woman reached out and I felt an instant connection reading her profile. I was on vacation in LA last week and we spent one night texting for 3 hours straight and the next night 4 hours straight late at night while I was lying in bed back at the hotel. I never felt so much chemistry with someone before like I felt with her. It seriously felt like we had known each other all our lives. We met up this past weekend after I came back from vacation and luckily, our in-person chemistry is just as strong. Our 2nd date is next week and although I know this is probably a little premature to say, based on our interactions I can honestly say... this is definitely heading toward an exclusive relationship and she could be the one. I know some or many people may say I'm being way too optimistic but sometimes you just meet the right match and you know it's different from every other relationship you've had. My latest dating interest checks a lot of the boxes I'm looking for, and she really is like an improved version of my ex in many ways. For examples, as silly as this sounds, my ideal match would love horror movies and video games. My ex said she loved both but she really didn't. This current one does, and it goes beyond that. Anyway, my encouragement is this: It may look bleak now but keep living right and improving yourself. You might find the best match of your life when you least expect it. I know it's cliche, but everything happens for a reason. If my ex hadn't dumped me I probably would be dragging along with her right now, missing out on a person who is a much better match. Live your life, do you and strive to be the best version of yourself everyday. Cheers! 2
Logo Posted October 20, 2018 Posted October 20, 2018 I read your post and kept waiting for the part where you ask for encouragement, but I couldn’t find it. Oh well. Maybe next time. Just kidding. You’re right. And I would add that sometimes it’s not only the perceived improvement that gives us what we were looking for, but also that confidence and self-love we get from a sense of accomplishment. Have fun on your second date and the rest of them after.
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