James.G11 Posted October 15, 2018 Posted October 15, 2018 Basically several months ago I confessed to a girl that I liked her. Although I got her number, she did reject me. Her reasons were because she recently gone through a break up, and also needed to focus on her studies, as exams were nearing. However, she told me she would be open to the idea after her exams. So, after exams had finished, she started to follow me on social media, which led to us to start messaging each other. After about a week of texting I felt there was interest, so I asked her out again. But once more she rejected me, by claiming she still wasn’t ready. Then she stated her rejection was due to timing. Although, I wanted to believe her, I did feel she was just being polite and didn’t want to cause a situation if she said no. So, as I didn’t want to bother her, I questioned whether she was at all interested, and If not, it was ok to tell me no. Yet, she told me she was interested and reiterated it’s solely down to timing. So, after this, as I’ve asked her out twice now, I felt it was up to her from now on. However, fast forward a couple of months to now, I stupidly asked her out again. Last week, I was out with a few of my mates and I drunk text her, asking her out. So, the next day when I sobered up, I looked back at the message, which showed she had seen it. Though, I regretted sending it, I didn’t have much choice but wait for her reply. But I didn’t get a reply at all. A week went by still nothing, and then on Friday, she unfollowed me on social media. Now, I feel like an idiot. I know I’ve ruined any chance with her, but I feel like maybe I should message her apologising if I made her uncomfortable. So, would messaging be a good idea or should I just leave it be
BaileyB Posted October 15, 2018 Posted October 15, 2018 I would just leave it be... As they say, "she's just not into you." Sorry.
Marc878 Posted October 15, 2018 Posted October 15, 2018 Id leave her alone. Your chasing after she told you twice pushed her away.
olivetree Posted October 15, 2018 Posted October 15, 2018 Don't send an apology text!! Just take her silence as another no and move on from this one. And delete her number so you aren't tempted to contact her again, sober or otherwise.
BaileyB Posted October 15, 2018 Posted October 15, 2018 To be fair, it probably wasn't the drunken text that changed her mind. To decline once because it wasn't the right time, it's understandable. But, when she declined the second time, that pretty much tells you where you stand. If she was really interested, she would have accepted your invitation to go out. She would have made it work... 1
d0nnivain Posted October 15, 2018 Posted October 15, 2018 If you want to do something useful to you with her phone #, delete it out of your phone 1
BeenThereDoneThatttt Posted October 15, 2018 Posted October 15, 2018 (edited) What is there even to apologize for. If she had gone for your invite--stranger things have happened by the way--you'd be patting yourself on the back for a job well done and rightfully so! Let it be. She wasn't harmed from your text, just as you weren't harmed from her telling you that she was interested but 'needed more time' when in fact she was not. You can't make an omelet w/o breaking some eggs. And it's not like she would be dating you if you hadn't sent her that text. Edited October 15, 2018 by BeenThereDoneThatttt
Logo Posted October 16, 2018 Posted October 16, 2018 The best and really only thing to do right now is to delete her phone number and not contact her anymore. She said no a couple of times. It's time to move on. She wants to be left alone. You'll know it when you meet her (The woman for you); the right person for you will let you know, unambiguously.
smackie9 Posted October 16, 2018 Posted October 16, 2018 Stop wasting your time with girls who say no not now, maybe, let me check my schedule, I'm really busy, I just had a bad breakup, I have exams, I have family issues to deal with, my dog is sick, my grandmother just past away,.........get it? All those excuses mean "no I don't want to date you". I agree with the others, delete her number.
alphamale Posted October 16, 2018 Posted October 16, 2018 I know I’ve ruined any chance with her, ... you never had a chance to ruin. move on to the next girl
Rotn'roses Posted October 16, 2018 Posted October 16, 2018 What is the harm in apologizing? Just make sure that you forgive yourself first for whatever mistake(s) you feel you may have since it seems you are troubled over it a bit. This way, your apology is sincere in heart and therefore, motive, and her response will not be for attention-seeking from you.
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