speedyturtle Posted October 13, 2018 Posted October 13, 2018 (edited) my ex bf watched my instagram story the other day. we don't follow each other so he must've searched me up. he initiated the unfollow first a week after the break up. is this a sign of curiosity? i know it probably doesn't mean much but i was pretty surprised as he was the one who broke up with me and cut me off on social media. it's been 2 months of NC. are the tables starting to turn or am i just overthinking it? Edited October 13, 2018 by speedyturtle
ExpatInItaly Posted October 13, 2018 Posted October 13, 2018 It's probably just curiosity, yes. Curiosity isn't the same as wanting someone back, though. Why did he break it off?
bbsp Posted October 13, 2018 Posted October 13, 2018 Same here. The woman I dated for about 5-6 months broke things off with me recently, but she's still been viewing my instagram stories. I realize it probably doesn't mean anything, but it still gets me feeling confused and all over the place. I also don't want to be petty and block/unfollow her. I'll tell you one thing-- social media does not make this heartbreak thing any easier.
Author speedyturtle Posted October 13, 2018 Author Posted October 13, 2018 (edited) expatinitaly: he broke it off after we had a big fight saying he felt like he lost himself and that we were having too many fights. you can read more about it on my other thread. bbsp: yeah same, i'm confused. even if it doesn't mean much, they had to have searched us up in order to view our story. if they didn't care why would they look right? i mean no one knows the answer other than our exes but it is definitely confusing. yeah i agree with no blocking but i unfollowed cause i didn't want him to think i was still pining on him (even tho i am still hoping for a reconciliation). i think unfollowing also shifts the power a little. Edited October 13, 2018 by speedyturtle
ExpatInItaly Posted October 14, 2018 Posted October 14, 2018 With exes, it really should not matter if the power shifts. It's already over. Searching for an ex online really isn't that unusual. People get curious and have a look. Unless they're actually reaching out and implying they would like to reconsider the split, it doesn't generally mean anything more.
bbsp Posted October 14, 2018 Posted October 14, 2018 expatinitaly: he broke it off after we had a big fight saying he felt like he lost himself and that we were having too many fights. you can read more about it on my other thread. bbsp: yeah same, i'm confused. even if it doesn't mean much, they had to have searched us up in order to view our story. if they didn't care why would they look right? i mean no one knows the answer other than our exes but it is definitely confusing. yeah i agree with no blocking but i unfollowed cause i didn't want him to think i was still pining on him (even tho i am still hoping for a reconciliation). i think unfollowing also shifts the power a little. Well you gotta remember how social media algorithms work. If at one point you were in constant contact with someone-- messaging, liking their posts etc, then their content is usually gonna be up front on your timeline, stories will be the first to pop up on, even if you hit search for something else they'll be shown in the search bar. Unfortunately, the Instagram algorithm does not take breakups into account. Its kind of the main thing setting me back at this point... Im considering removing her from my IG completely as I type this.
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