Would she call me back? Girls, what do you think?

[shizzle_84]

I went out with a friend last night, and met this beautiful lady bartender/waitress. She gave my friend and I the menu when we got there, then just as I was about to make an order, another waitress replaces her.

 

So I told the other waitress that I'm still looking at the menu. Later I called back the beautiful bartender girl, and gave her our order... and asked her if she could send the drinks over herself, indicating my interest in her at the same time. She said she would and she did.

 

So when she came with our drinks at the table I asked where she's from etc. The sexual tension was palpable. I then asked her what time she gets off and if she'd be interested to drink with us after hours. At that point she moved away almost smilingly.

 

As my friend and I were having our drinks, I couldn't help looking her way and I thought she like the little bit of attention. Then suddenly a group of people (male and female in the group) came to the bar and one of the guys in that group immediately asks for phone number. She put her number down on his phone I think.

 

At this point some of the people at the bar, and my friend had a visible reaction. With my friend saying like "Oh, well there she goes with another guy. They're exchanging numbers now." I did my best to keep my cool though.

 

So after some time, when I finished my drink and therefore had an excuse to call this beautiful waitress over - she walks past and sort of ignores me. So I call the hot waitress' friend over instead - and asks her to help call the hot waitress over to our table.

 

Hot waitress comes over, and I tell her - "I meant to ask for your number before." Then for some reason I had my hand around her waist and I said, - "can I give you my number instead? And if you don't want to call me - you don't have to. It's up to you."

 

At this point she might have been smiling but - she does the best thing and pulls a pen out for me to write my number on a serviette. And as she's about to go ... she seemed very specific when she said the words, "I'll call you." I think she must have smiled too.

 

When that was over I went over to the bar directly to pay for my drinks. Other bartenders saw what went on and they seemed kind of shocked. She probably made a point not to look my way and I also didn't want to you know spoil that moment... So I paid anyways and walked off into the sunset... well it was already 2am in the morning then. So not sunset... but you know what I mean.

 

I'm usually not confident at approaching women, but with this woman - for some reason I felt like I had my John Wayne boots on or something.

 

Anyways, I really like this girl and I think that sexual tension I felt when talking to her was there. Only - you know a sexy girl like her - working at a bar, must get hit on a lot.

 

And I'm kind of bothered as to whether she'll ACTUALLY call me... Seems 50/50. I'm thinking the other guy at the bar might have put the number on her after I left... who knows... there was like 30 minutes left till closing time.

 

I'm really interested though to get a girl's opinion on this? Ladies? Do I sound like an a$$ here?

 

Thanks!

Edited October 13, 2018 by shizzle_84

[dancingintherain12]

I went out with a friend last night, and met this beautiful lady bartender/waitress. She gave my friend and I the menu when we got there, then just as I was about to make an order, another waitress replaces her.

 

So I told the other waitress that I'm still looking at the menu. Later I called back the beautiful bartender girl, and gave her our order... and asked her if she could send the drinks over herself, indicating my interest in her at the same time. She said she would and she did.

 

So when she came with our drinks at the table I asked where she's from etc. The sexual tension was palpable. I then asked her what time she gets off and if she'd be interested to drink with us after hours. At that point she moved away almost smilingly.

 

As my friend and I were having our drinks, I couldn't help looking her way and I thought she like the little bit of attention. Then suddenly a group of people (male and female in the group) came to the bar and one of the guys in that group immediately asks for phone number. She put her number down on his phone I think.

 

At this point some of the people at the bar, and my friend had a visible reaction. With my friend saying like "Oh, well there she goes with another guy. They're exchanging numbers now." I did my best to keep my cool though.

 

So after some time, when I finished my drink and therefore had an excuse to call this beautiful waitress over - she walks past and sort of ignores me. So I call the hot waitress' friend over instead - and asks her to help call the hot waitress over to our table.

 

Hot waitress comes over, and I tell her - "I meant to ask for your number before." Then for some reason I had my hand around her waist and I said, - "can I give you my number instead? And if you don't want to call me - you don't have to. It's up to you."

 

At this point she might have been smiling but - she does the best thing and pulls a pen out for me to write my number on a serviette. And as she's about to go ... she seemed very specific when she said the words, "I'll call you." I think she must have smiled too.

 

When that was over I went over to the bar directly to pay for my drinks. Other bartenders saw what went on and they seemed kind of shocked. She probably made a point not to look my way and I also didn't want to you know spoil that moment... So I paid anyways and walked off into the sunset... well it was already 2am in the morning then. So not sunset... but you know what I mean.

 

I'm usually not confident at approaching women, but with this woman - for some reason I felt like I had my John Wayne boots on or something.

 

Anyways, I really like this girl and I think that sexual tension I felt when talking to her was there. Only - you know a sexy girl like her - working at a bar, must get hit on a lot.

 

And I'm kind of bothered as to whether she'll ACTUALLY call me... Seems 50/50. I'm thinking the other guy at the bar might have put the number on her after I left... who knows... there was like 30 minutes left till closing time.

 

I'm really interested though to get a girl's opinion on this? Ladies? Do I sound like an a$$ here?

 

Thanks!

 

She has to smile to get good tips. I think if shes interested, she'll get back to you. So she got your number or did you get hers?

 

If she got your number, the ball is in her court.

 

If you got hers, you could call her.

 

You have nothing to lose either way.

 

The hands on the waist thing is a little too forward. I, as a woman, would not like that from a complete stranger and customer.

[Rotn'roses]

You sound optimistic, up-beat, and care-free...I hope she digs it, but your type of romancing may or may not get you where you want to be with the hot bartender. Some women like to be objectified in public, and some prefer it behind closed doors, some a little, and some a lot...and some-not at all. Good luck and be safe having fun.

[lavenderandvelvet]

Why did you put your hand around her waist. So inappropriate for that setting.

[Jamess1]

You sound optimistic' date=' up-beat, and care-free...I hope she digs it, but your type of romancing may or may not get you where you want to be with the hot bartender. Some women like to be objectified in public, and some prefer it behind closed doors, some a little, and some a lot...and some-not at all. Good luck and be safe having fun.[/quote']

 

You know nothing . .

[MidwestUSA]

You're lucky she (and the other girl serving you) kept her cool. I'm sure that's because they're used to dealing with players.

 

You didn't take the hint when she walked away the first time, and then your hand ended up on her waist somehow? Smiling means nothing in the service industry - it's a requirement.

 

As for sexual tension, I'm assuming you got a woodie? Is that how it's measured?

 

She probably gave the other guy a fake number. As to your two questions - no, she's not going to call you, and yes, you were an a$$.

[shizzle_84]

I feel like most of the time - on these forums, people write back to take their anger out? Not to listen...

 

I think I only got one sensible answer here... from dancingintherain12

 

... again I'm asking women here - not men...

[shizzle_84]

You're lucky she (and the other girl serving you) kept her cool. I'm sure that's because they're used to dealing with players.

 

You didn't take the hint when she walked away the first time, and then your hand ended up on her waist somehow? Smiling means nothing in the service industry - it's a requirement.

 

As for sexual tension, I'm assuming you got a woodie? Is that how it's measured?

 

She probably gave the other guy a fake number. As to your two questions - no, she's not going to call you, and yes, you were an a$$.

 

SEXUAL TENSION like butterflies in my stomach teenager kind of tension. I'm not Brett Kavanaugh.

[MidwestUSA]

 

... again I'm asking women here - not men...

 

And you have all female responses, except for James.

 

As for sexual tension, however it manifests itself, it's one sided. It doesn't mean she's obligated to help you with it.

 

Your answer came early, and you ignored it:

 

"I then asked her what time she gets off and if she'd be interested to drink with us after hours. At that point she moved away almost smilingly."

 

She's quite used to dealing with these situations.

Edited October 13, 2018 by MidwestUSA

[shizzle_84]

She has to smile to get good tips. I think if shes interested, she'll get back to you. So she got your number or did you get hers?

 

If she got your number, the ball is in her court.

 

If you got hers, you could call her.

 

You have nothing to lose either way.

 

The hands on the waist thing is a little too forward. I, as a woman, would not like that from a complete stranger and customer.

 

We were looking each other's way a couple of times so that indicated to me she may be interested. So basically the subtext of my communication to her was - hey if you're interested here's my number... because I AM DEFINITELY VERY INTERESTED.

 

You're probably right about the hand on the waist thing btw, I wasn't too sure about that move as well.

[shizzle_84]

And you have all female responses, except for James.

 

As for sexual tension, however it manifests itself, it's one sided. It doesn't mean she's obligated to help you with it.

 

Your answer came early, and you ignored it:

 

"I then asked her what time she gets off and if she'd be interested to drink with us after hours. At that point she moved away almost smilingly."

 

She's quite used to dealing with these situations.

 

I never said she's obligated to help me with anything... Maybe she was not interested to begin, but she did look my way a couple of times after she moved off. So I thought it's possible she's on the fence.... or playing hard to get.

 

Hence my giving her my number... This girl was so cute, I couldn't just not say anything or even try. You know...

[shizzle_84]

Someone told me she definitely won't call the next day... and said to give the cute girl max 4 days to call/message....

[Kelliousme]

She might or might not have been interested. Honestly though, she probably come across guys like you quite often. If you had a 50/50 chance at this point.. you probably ruined it by putting your arm around her waist. It's actually very disrespectful. And she might think you do that to all the girls you hit on.

 

What you can do is this: if she doesn't call back.. and you really want to have another shot with her.. then go to the same bar and apologize. You can also tell her that you've never been like that before, you just find her to be beautiful. Something along those lines.. you get it.

[shizzle_84]

She might or might not have been interested. Honestly though, she probably come across guys like you quite often. If you had a 50/50 chance at this point.. you probably ruined it by putting your arm around her waist. It's actually very disrespectful. And she might think you do that to all the girls you hit on.

 

What you can do is this: if she doesn't call back.. and you really want to have another shot with her.. then go to the same bar and apologize. You can also tell her that you've never been like that before, you just find her to be beautiful. Something along those lines.. you get it.

 

Doesn't that come off as a bit desperate though? Anyways I am quite sure she's not going to call me ... if there was any feeling - it must be gone by now.

[smackie9]

I have 4 years experience working in a night club....Sorry she's not going to call you.

 

 

 

And yes you do sound like an _____.

 

 

 

I'll give you credit tho, you did step up and took a chance......just not able to read the body language right and know how to adjust your approach.

[Haydn]

That`s your approach?

 

I suspect she felt very uncomfortable.

 

Good luck.

[shizzle_84]

That`s your approach?

 

I suspect she felt very uncomfortable.

 

Good luck.

 

Take the piss out on someone else bro... Didn't ask for your opinion

[shizzle_84]

I have 4 years experience working in a night club....Sorry she's not going to call you.

 

 

 

And yes you do sound like an _____.

 

 

 

I'll give you credit tho, you did step up and took a chance......just not able to read the body language right and know how to adjust your approach.

 

Obviously your observation is spot on. And thanks - I honestly don't regret giving it a go.

Edited October 14, 2018 by shizzle_84

[greymatter]

Take the piss out on someone else bro... Didn't ask for your opinion

 

You did ask for opinions by posting here and obviously you can't take the heat.

 

I suspect the server was smiling at your fumbling attempts to come off as cool and appealing.

[shizzle_84]

You did ask for opinions by posting here and obviously you can't take the heat.

 

I suspect the server was smiling at your fumbling attempts to come off as cool and appealing.

 

The title of this thread says - "Girls what do you think?" So there you go.

[ElKay]

As a woman, I wouldn't call back someone that was that cocky to put his hand on my waist at work.

I doubt you'll hear from her. She deserves better.

[shizzle_84]

As a woman, I wouldn't call back someone that was that cocky to put his hand on my waist at work.

I doubt you'll hear from her. She deserves better.

 

She's probably sleeping with that guy right now. But to be fair to myself here - because it is the truth... I had my hand lightly touching her back.

[basil67]

She's probably sleeping with that guy right now. But to be fair to myself here - because it is the truth... I had my hand lightly touching her back.

 

No, she's not sleeping with him right now. If she's hot, she will have to deal with guys coming on to her every single time she works. The fact that she plays the game doesn't mean that she's going home with all the guys who hit on her. The guys she supposedly gave her number to, he's not special. You're not special. To her, you're just guys at the bar who she makes a living out of waiting on.

 

She's probably got a boyfriend at home....and no, she's no obliged to share this information with you.

[shizzle_84]

No, she's not sleeping with him right now. If she's hot, she will have to deal with guys coming on to her every single time she works. The fact that she plays the game doesn't mean that she's going home with all the guys who hit on her. The guys she supposedly gave her number to, he's not special. You're not special. To her, you're just guys at the bar who she makes a living out of waiting on.

 

She's probably got a boyfriend at home....and no, she's no obliged to share this information with you.

 

If she has a boyfriend - he's a long way from home... cause she's not a local

[greymatter]

The title of this thread says - "Girls what do you think?" So there you go.

 

Sure but you don't have the right to limit the post responses to women only (i.e. "girls," your name for women). You wouldn't have said that to him if he had agreed with you. Your approach and attitude toward women is probably not helping you, but best of luck to you.