Fair Posted October 13, 2018 Posted October 13, 2018 I think it's a sign he's cheating if he never mentions you to his friends, never makes plans with you, never takes you out. Is there ever a legitimate excuse for doing that? ie. health/family issues, etc. Or is a guy like this on the percentage scale just more likely to be a plain old rat and a cheat? I mean, even providing he's 'going through a tough time,' why would personal problems be a justifiable reason to treat a woman like a secret? Dating and it's drama. I'm ready to throw in the towel, folks. 1
Shining One Posted October 13, 2018 Posted October 13, 2018 I think it's a sign he's cheating if he never mentions you to his friends, never makes plans with you, never takes you out. Is there ever a legitimate excuse for doing that? ie. health/family issues, etc.I've been a couple of secret relationships. Their families would have disowned them for dating me, so our dates were limited to my place and hotels. I'm sure there are a few other legitimate reasons, but that's been my only experience.
Dis Posted October 13, 2018 Posted October 13, 2018 Keeping their partner a secret is a sign they're cheating My 2 ex's that were cheating never posted pics of me or that they were in a relationship with me...I should've known better With that said, it's not a tell tale sign I've learned if you want to know if a person is cheating on you, there are many signs that you need to connect the dots with such as... 1. Being secretive with their phone 2. Leaving to go to the gym or mom and dad's at weird times 3. Unexplained scratches on the body 4. Being evasive about social media The list really goes on and on but what I'm saying is one thing that seems off doesn't mean a person is cheating But at the end of the day Fair, you just got out of a break up, of course things look bleak right now. That's normal. Take some time and just focus on you...not what douche bags some people can be. Not everyone is like that. *hugs*
ExpatInItaly Posted October 13, 2018 Posted October 13, 2018 It can certainly be a sign of cheating, yes. Other explanations are usually the exception rather than the rule. However, I think this also depends on the length of the relationship. If we're talking a month or two, then no, it's not necessarily evidence of cheating. It would be reasonable that someone just isn't ready to open up in a such a short time frame. I think it also depends on the health of the relationship. If it's always been shaky, for example, then it would make sense to me that someone doesn't want to bring that partner to meet their families when they're not even sure the relationship is going to last. Never making plans with you is generally just indicative of a guy that's not that into you, though. 1
Logo Posted October 13, 2018 Posted October 13, 2018 (edited) I think it's a sign he's cheating if he never mentions you to his friends, never makes plans with you, never takes you out. Is there ever a legitimate excuse for doing that? ie. health/family issues, etc. Or is a guy like this on the percentage scale just more likely to be a plain old rat and a cheat? I mean, even providing he's 'going through a tough time,' why would personal problems be a justifiable reason to treat a woman like a secret? Dating and it's drama. I'm ready to throw in the towel, folks. I typed up a long response based on my own experience with a cheater, but after reading it I decided to leave you with the only conclusion I have come to after the demise of the relationship. Why? Because there are no clear cut answers. It would be a waste of your time and energy to play detective. At the end of the day, if you don't feel comfortable, are not enjoying the relationship anymore, don't have trust and are making most of the effort to make things work, then the best thing for you to do is walk away. A healthy relationship should make you feel good and happy, not miserable. He's giving you vague answers and is playing games. Why are you wasting your time with him? If he can't be bothered to be part of a relationship then he's not worth it. Now I know that there is no point in playing detective or psycho-analyst. Sometimes, especially early on in the relationship, it's best to just walk away. Who needs the headache? And don't throw in the towel just yet. Just leave while the leaving is good. Delete, block and move on. You'll feel better. Edited October 13, 2018 by Logo
RedHead5 Posted October 13, 2018 Posted October 13, 2018 I think it's a sign he's cheating if he never mentions you to his friends, never makes plans with you, never takes you out. Is there ever a legitimate excuse for doing that? ie. health/family issues, etc. Or is a guy like this on the percentage scale just more likely to be a plain old rat and a cheat? I mean, even providing he's 'going through a tough time,' why would personal problems be a justifiable reason to treat a woman like a secret? Dating and it's drama. I'm ready to throw in the towel, folks. If he never makes plans with you and takes you out, are you dating? How long have you been together?
Hopeful30 Posted October 13, 2018 Posted October 13, 2018 It doesn't necessarily mean hes cheating, but its obvious that hes not serious about you. If serious is was you want, hes obviously not the person to do it with. Ive kept secret boyfriends and never cheated on them. I cheated once and it broke the guys heart (I confessed everything). Couldnt do that again, it broke his heart and I felt like sh*t. So ive been single for 4 years and had sex only once this entire time (fling, and tiny penis, was disappointing.) What a sacrifice just to be a decent human being lol!! Its honestly very hard to find similar minded and bodied people to connect with.
elaine567 Posted October 13, 2018 Posted October 13, 2018 I think it's a sign he's cheating if he never mentions you to his friends, never makes plans with you, never takes you out. That sounds more like he is cheating with you as opposed to cheating on you.
Chilli Posted October 13, 2018 Posted October 13, 2018 Not sayin he isn't but it doesn't have to necessarily be cheating. A few mths is nothing to lay low about someone new . Especially if things have been touch and go anyway some people just don't like any fuss until they see where things are at. just sayin , that could be a thing . How has it all been are you very close get along really well or all a bit touch n go ?
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