Gaeta Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 sigh.... This morning I hear the bathroom door open and bf exclaiming: OMG my day is ruined!!! I rush to him and ask if he hurt himself? No he didn't, he broke his gold chain in the shower. I try to reassure him it's something minor and I'll drop it at the jewelry store on my way to work. Any other person would have gone on with their day but not my bf! Nope!, he keeps on with the my day is ruined, why does this happen now, he'll be in a bad mood all day etc etc etc. I tell him he's reacting like a 7 year old boy! and out of any day why he picked today (my birthday) to act like this! He accused me of dismissing his feelings, if breaking a gold chain is a terrible moment for him then I should simply support and encourage him proportionately to his level of distress. So today is not about my birthday, it's about his broken gold chain that will be repaired by noon I should mention. . 1
PegNosePete Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 Was it given to him by his late mother or something? That's really the only reason I can think of why someone would put a gold chain above their GF's birthday!
j402 Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 Sounds like you are with a toddler. Not even a 7 year old.
Author Gaeta Posted October 12, 2018 Author Posted October 12, 2018 Was it given to him by his late mother or something? That's really the only reason I can think of why someone would put a gold chain above their GF's birthday! He didn't say if the chain had a special meaning. My bf's hates birthdays and holidays, I don't expect him to make anything special on those occasions. My daughter organized a birthday dinner for tonight and I am surprised he said yes to the invitation. Maybe this morning he's feeling the pressure and he's unconsciously rebelling.
coolheadal Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 sigh.... This morning I hear the bathroom door open and bf exclaiming: OMG my day is ruined!!! I rush to him and ask if he hurt himself? No he didn't, he broke his gold chain in the shower. I try to reassure him it's something minor and I'll drop it at the jewelry store on my way to work. Any other person would have gone on with their day but not my bf! Nope!, he keeps on with the my day is ruined, why does this happen now, he'll be in a bad mood all day etc etc etc. I tell him he's reacting like a 7 year old boy! and out of any day why he picked today (my birthday) to act like this! He accused me of dismissing his feelings, if breaking a gold chain is a terrible moment for him then I should simply support and encourage him proportionately to his level of distress. So today is not about my birthday, it's about his broken gold chain that will be repaired by noon I should mention. . Wow! But we men act strangely over things we wear or posse. Just make sure he understands he'll get a replacement but not today because it's your day to be happy with him. Oh Happy Birthday to you end joy your that comes once a year! 1 1
Malin889 Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 Who wears gold chains anymore? I’m kidding. Yeah he sounds like a baby. While you’re at the jewelry store getting his gold chain fixed, pick yourself up something nice. 1 1
Author Gaeta Posted October 12, 2018 Author Posted October 12, 2018 Sounds like you are with a toddler. Not even a 7 year old. It sure sounded like it this morning. Hard to believe but my bf is a very solid and grounded 51 year old man.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 No perfect man exists. Believe me, I've been looking for him all my life 1
coolheadal Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 Who wears gold chains anymore? I’m kidding. Yeah he sounds like a baby. While you’re at the jewelry store getting his gold chain fixed, pick yourself up something nice. Your right who does? I am not into gold anyway... LOL I do agree with what you have said her makes sense. But men will be boys!
Author Gaeta Posted October 12, 2018 Author Posted October 12, 2018 Who wears gold chains anymore? I’m kidding. Yeah he sounds like a baby. While you’re at the jewelry store getting his gold chain fixed, pick yourself up something nice. haha, yes good idea, nice earrings comes to mind. He's a black man so his bling-bling are important ;-)
2much4 Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 Happy birthday! I remember this has always been an issue with him. Birthdays can be incredibly triggering for some people. Whether it be past family or relationship issues. Forget about him for today, have fun for your special day:) you can deal with his temper tantrum tomorrow. 1
Andy_K Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 If he reacts like this over a gold chain, how's he going to react when something genuinely serious goes wrong in his life? 1
Author Gaeta Posted October 12, 2018 Author Posted October 12, 2018 If he reacts like this over a gold chain, how's he going to react when something genuinely serious goes wrong in his life? I am not worried one bit. We've been together 3 years. Like I said he's a solid and grounded man, reliable, hard working, and he's faced many trials in the past 3 years that he handled as a solid and grounded man. There is a little crying baby in him that he let out once in a while.
Author Gaeta Posted October 12, 2018 Author Posted October 12, 2018 Two words: drama king I prefer crying baby.
Versacehottie Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 Happy Birthday!!!! *don't know what to say about the boyfriend (we really need an eye roll emoji lol). 1
No_Go Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 Happy Birthday Gaeta!!! Your BF reaction is childish but I think it wasn't about the chain... Maybe is the BD that triggered it, or something else, the chain was just the release factor... Not today, but I think it will be good to discuss why he's overreacting. But anyway, today is about you. Have fun on your birthday dinner and pick something nice for yourself 1 1
Art_Critic Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 I try to reassure him it's something minor and I'll drop it at the jewelry store on my way to work. two things... one is that I think you hit the nail on the head about it having to do with your B-Day and now the day is about his chain.. the other is the part I bolded in the quote.. WTF.. he is a man, a grown man and one that shouldn't need to be reassured that the broken chain HE broke and HE wears is fixable.. He shouldn't have even remarked on it and put the chain in his own pocket and went and got it fixed... You are NOT his Mother... I say you leave him at home tonight and call up some of your friends and go out, why let his issues with B-Day's bring you down...
ElKay Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 Maybe the chain was what has been keeping him grounded all of these years and now he's lost without its magical powers?
hippychick3 Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 Happy Birthday Gaeta!! He definitely sounds like a big baby. Hopefully he’ll get over it soon and realize how ridiculous he’s acting. Don’t “own” this problem. It’s his, not yours. You deserve to enjoy your birthday! 1
Author Gaeta Posted October 12, 2018 Author Posted October 12, 2018 The Jeweler told me the chain needs to be sent some place and it will take 3 weeks for repair....geeezz! I am not done hearing about this one. I kept the chain and will look for a local goldsmith. Why am I the one dealing with this eh? This chain seems to really get to him, he lost 2 gold cross in the past year and I didn't hear a peep out of him..........it wasn't my birthday though.
Author Gaeta Posted October 12, 2018 Author Posted October 12, 2018 I say you leave him at home tonight and call up some of your friends and go out, why let his issues with B-Day's bring you down... My night is all planned out already. My daughter organized a birthday dinner in a restaurant with family and friends. He told my daughter he's coming. He better be there lol
kendahke Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 The boyfriend that hates birthdays and holidays ...Means more money in my pocket, LOL!!!
Kellens Posted October 12, 2018 Posted October 12, 2018 Happy Birthday Gaeta! I think it's probably a combination of the chain breaking and it being your birthday. I would be really annoyed to be dealing with his made up "crisis" on my birthday but you seem to be handling it well. I hope he doesn't bring it up at dinner . Have fun! 1
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