Author rejected1 Posted January 2, 2019 Author Share Posted January 2, 2019 Book Club Guy and I are official. We were dating and spent a lot of time together, but last night he said he wanted me to be his girlfriend, and I said yes. So there is that. I didn't expect to start a new relationship so quickly, but I guess things happen for a reason. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rejected1 Posted January 13, 2019 Author Share Posted January 13, 2019 A little update... Things with book club guy are going great. We hang out three to four times a week. Next weekend I'll be spending the night at his place for the first time, as he spent Friday night at my place, this weekend. We text constantly. He's funny, charming, and we are both super nerds: reading, drawing and playing card games. We really share so much in common. He is not without his quirks, but nothing I can't accept. So everything so far is going well on that front. But. There is always a but. My ex-fiance, dumped his girlfriend or she dumped him, I really don't know and it's irrelevant. He is jealous. And since I finally told him to stop harassing me or I'd get a restraining order. All this is "news" is coming from a mutual friend who really means well. He is saying he wants another chance with me. He misses me and regrets ever ending our engagement. I'm still not 100% over him, and I know time is the only thing to close that gaping wound, but I've been feeling angry. I didn't act on those feelings, but I realize that closing that chapter of my life is the healthiest thing I could have ever did. To those who said that in time, I'd realize my relationship wasn't as strong as I thought. It's true. While we had great times, I realize over the past year before our break up we had been drifting apart. I realize we weren't as compatible as I believe, really didn't' spent a lot of time together, and while we didn't argue, we really didn't communicate. I'm going to put my effort into the book club guy. I took things slow for a few months, but I really like him, and now that my feelings for the ex are wavering, I feel like I can really give him the honest part of me. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
nolanola Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 I'm really happy for you, to read your update. I can't help but be a bit jealous that you've found someone that sounds like a good guy. It feels so lonely to know that my ex is dating someone and sitting in the catbird seat while I'm hurting and feeling like I don't measure up. I have re-read your thread a bunch of times to try to get inspiration that I can get better and move on. Some days it feels really impossible. Link to post Share on other sites
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