bouncyslime Posted October 11, 2018 Posted October 11, 2018 So a few months ago (may-june) I texted with this girl every day and then got into a really big argument and to the point which we completely stopped talking to each other. Around the end of august, we started talking again but don't text. When homecoming rolls around, she rejects 4 other guys who ask her out. The entire next week she starts staring at me during class and then asks what dress to wear so I take that as a queue to ask her out. She rejects me, but with this one she doesn't tell anyone that I asked her out and her closest friend was shocked to hear she rejected me. A few hours later this friend texts me that she's good friends with those guys and didn't want to hurt their feelings by going with me. At this point because we too have been friends for a few years I text her if we can still be cool and still be friends to which she instantly says yes. I just don't really know what to make of the situation. If anyone could help I would appreciate it.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 11, 2018 Posted October 11, 2018 She wants to be friends, as she said. No hard feelings. And believe me, she didn't reject you to preserve all these other admirers' feelings. When we ladies are really into you, we're not going to turn you down for that reason. It sounds to me like she enjoys your attention but she's not that into you. 1
ChatroomHero Posted October 11, 2018 Posted October 11, 2018 Never analyze the reason, just the result. If she turned down 4 guys and then turned you down, don't assume you were the special one out of 5 that she really wanted to go with as I am sure he reasons to the other 4 would be similar. The thought that she could not take a date she wanted to because more than one person likes her is silly. 1
smackie9 Posted October 11, 2018 Posted October 11, 2018 Stay away from girls who have orbiters....you will only get caught in that orbit going around, and around and around...never landing. 2
SouthernIslander Posted October 11, 2018 Posted October 11, 2018 Never analyze the reason, just the result. If she turned down 4 guys and then turned you down, don't assume you were the special one out of 5 that she really wanted to go with as I am sure he reasons to the other 4 would be similar. The thought that she could not take a date she wanted to because more than one person likes her is silly. Agree. Be cordial when you see her but that’s it. I wouldn’t ask her out or show any interest at this point.
elaine567 Posted October 11, 2018 Posted October 11, 2018 You're her friend, if you want to be more than that, then stay away, as you will only get more and more hurt here. She has made her position plain, you are in the "reject" pile. Friend, great - lover, NO way. It may be hard but at least you now know. You can stop wasting your time. Find some other girl to invest your time and energy in, one who wants YOU. 1
ChatroomHero Posted October 11, 2018 Posted October 11, 2018 her closest friend was shocked to hear she rejected me. A few hours later this friend texts me that she's good friends with those guys and didn't want to hurt their feelings by going with me. One thing to add is never rely on a woman's close friends. A lot of times they might be well meaning, or think you may be a good couple, despite what the friend really tells them. They'll tell you to keep trying, or if the girl told her friend she has no interest, the friend may feel bad and make up an excuse to make you feel better. She may think you make a good couple but the one you want just doesn't "see" it yet, when in truth she is not interested and won't be interested. I have had women where I was interested in their friend tell me to go for it or she's weird she may need time so be patient, or "She hasn't said anything bad about you"... where I can tell the girl was not interested. The woman herself did not want to do a hard rejection and our mutual friend was even less interested in passing along a hard rejection she wasn't involved in. A week later the girl is dating someone else and when you ask her friend about it, she'll say... I don't know, she's weird, the other guy won't last, I don't like him...you can do better than her if she wants to date a guy like that.
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