mj53 Posted October 10, 2018 Posted October 10, 2018 Here is the situation. Just over a month ago I asked out this girl who I have liked for quite some time. I asked her if she would like to get a coffee, which she said yes to and gave me her number without any hesitation. The next few days we were messaging each other to mainly finalise the arrangement of the date, but also to get to know each other a bit. During our texts she sounded very keen and was looking forward to the date. However, a couple of days before the proposed date she cancelled telling me something had cropped up and she couldn’t make it. Although I believed she was genuinely telling me the truth, there was something also telling me she was just brushing me off, mainly because she didn’t offer an alternative time. So, as I’m quite a straight forward guy I questioned her whether she was actually interested. I did this because I didn’t want to bother her and waste her time if she wasn’t. Anyway she responded saying she was interested, but due to a personal issue she couldn’t. She then told me she would like it if I asked her again in a few weeks. Three weeks went by and she started adding me on social media, so I thought I might as well ask her again. I messaged her asking her out, but this however received no response. It has now been a whole week without a reply and I'm now unsure what to do. Should I just assume she is not interested and move on.
mortensorchid Posted October 10, 2018 Posted October 10, 2018 Whatever her personal issues are or are not, she's not that into you. She would have made the time to see you if she wanted to but she … Doesn't want to and/or she's not making it a priority. I think you're done.
dispatch3d Posted October 10, 2018 Posted October 10, 2018 I couldn't keep asking her out with that feedback. That would be the end of it for me. I also don't like those interactions in general - girls that somehow string me along and get me to keep asking them out yet never actually GO out. The relationship isn't progressing and I'm hung up on them - bad results in my opinion...
OnlyHonesty Posted October 10, 2018 Posted October 10, 2018 I questioned her whether she was actually interested. I did this because I didn’t want to bother her and waste her time if she wasn’t. Anyway she responded saying she was interested, but due to a personal issue she couldn’t. She then told me she would like it if I asked her again in a few weeks. Guys, when a girl flakes, or blows you off without good reason, walk away for good. Also, look at how her words fail to match her actions. There was no point asking her if she was still interested because her actions already showed that she wasn't. However, asking her to verify is likely to have her respond in either a vague way, or a safe way to avoid confrontation or embarassment. What you need to do is have an abundance mindset. The scarcity mindset = ''ask me out again in a few weeks'' So she thinks you will have time, and a free space in your diary to ask her out again in a few weeks? The reason why she said this is because you communicated a scarcity mindset to her. 1
Highndry Posted October 11, 2018 Posted October 11, 2018 Yes, drop this one like a hot potato. Don't even reach out to her anymore. The women who are interested in you will make that abundantly clear, and will never flake.
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