ljn1650 Posted October 9, 2018 Posted October 9, 2018 Throughout the years, my ex has tried to contact me, an example - he has messaged my friend a year or two ago on facebook telling her what a mistake he made, he messed up, and that he wanted to message me - she advised him it was not a good idea. it was left at that, and i didn't act on this information. And he liked any pictures my friends posted of me prior to that and afterwards. He eventually found me on the one social media i have, messaged me saying something along the lines of I'm not very easy to find on social media and asking how I am. I decided to reply in the hope he would get it out of his system and say what he wanted to say, but he carried on chatting to me like nothing ever happened, and menial chat. I eventually asked him what he wanted exactly and asked had he been trying to contact me for something based on him looking for me on social media - and there has been radio silence ever since - no reply - nada! I believe I was justified in my question as the situation when we last saw each other was very messy and he behaved very badly towards me. Why would he just ignore me all of a sudden? Was my question too difficult for him?
Gretchen12 Posted October 9, 2018 Posted October 9, 2018 Why do you care? Do you want to hear from him? Why haven't you moved on? I have an ex that continues to contact me for the past 15 years. I wouldn't care if he goes silent.
preraph Posted October 9, 2018 Posted October 9, 2018 He was hoping he could just slide back into your bed no questions asked, I suppose, and then when you asked what he wanted, he knew that was just his fantasy.
LifeBeginsAt40 Posted October 9, 2018 Posted October 9, 2018 I did this a long time ago. My first ever girlfriend. I broke it off with her after about 14 months together. I was 23, she was 20, I was immature and wanted to go chase women thinking that the grass was greener on the other side. A year later we bumped into each other randomly at a university re-union weekend. I was passed out asleep in my car and as it was the same car that I had when we were together, she knew it was me. She let herself in, woke me up and within a few minutes we were eating each others faces (and other parts...). The reason I say this is that it set in motion about 6 years of me longing after her. A few months after that weekend I decided to text her and basically say that I miss her and wanted her back. She had unfortunately started dating another bloke in that time. This made me want her even more, and for a number of years I couldn't get her off my mind. Ironically despite being the dumper, it probably messed me up far more than it did her. As to your situation, I would probably boil it down to two things: 1) He's horny and wants to get laid. He sees you as potentially an easy target, and thinks well I have nothing to lose - if she ignores me etc then just move along, but maybe, just maybe we'll meet up and I'll get some of the good stuff. 2) He actually genuinely misses you and wants to connect again. From what you have said, this scenario is quite likely. Maybe he has grown up (as I did) in those years, and feels as though you could be the one. As per the poster above, I guess the question for you is why do you care? If you were treated badly and have no desire to go there again, then why care if he goes quiet? Who knows why he hasn't got back to you. Maybe he feels that he has no chance of option 1 above and therefore isn't going to waste any more time pursuing. Maybe he lost his phone. Who knows. 1
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