fishthederek Posted October 8, 2018 Posted October 8, 2018 I have been seeing her for about month and a half. We have gone on dates, we have kissed, I sent flowers, she has flirted a bit but not physically, more with stuff that she says. She isn't very girly at all (Which is fine), she's more of a rocker type girl. Wears band t shirts, chucks, all that stuff She doesn't come off as very affectionate but she always is willing to see me, and has gotten really close the past 3 weeks Part of me doubts it though. i just feel like she can be a bit distant at times, but I don't know if that's my mind playing tricks on me. I told her a month ago I was interested and was looking for a relationship and she said she had the same feelings but was very stressed and had alot going on at the time (Grandparent passed away, she moved to a new place) She has never turned down a kiss, or my playing with her hair or anything. She has invited me over for dinner multiple times. What you all think?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 8, 2018 Posted October 8, 2018 I have been seeing her for about month and a half. We have gone on dates, we have kissed, I sent flowers, she has flirted a bit but not physically, more with stuff that she says. She isn't very girly at all (Which is fine), she's more of a rocker type girl. Wears band t shirts, chucks, all that stuff She doesn't come off as very affectionate but she always is willing to see me, and has gotten really close the past 3 weeks Part of me doubts it though. i just feel like she can be a bit distant at times, but I don't know if that's my mind playing tricks on me. I told her a month ago I was interested and was looking for a relationship and she said she had the same feelings but was very stressed and had alot going on at the time (Grandparent passed away, she moved to a new place) She has never turned down a kiss, or my playing with her hair or anything. She has invited me over for dinner multiple times. What you all think? I think you should believe her that she's stressed because she has a lot going on. Give it some time for her life to mellow out.
alphamale Posted October 8, 2018 Posted October 8, 2018 have you banged her yet? sounds like you haven't
Author fishthederek Posted October 8, 2018 Author Posted October 8, 2018 have you banged her yet? sounds like you haven't No and I have no interest in the right now. I'm looking for a long term partner
ChatroomHero Posted October 8, 2018 Posted October 8, 2018 6 weeks. Chill out. If in another 6-8 weeks you still have the same question, I think you will have your answer.
PRW Posted October 8, 2018 Posted October 8, 2018 You come across as the lost puppy hoping she will take you in and adopt you. In your eyes she is the leader. She is going to get bored with you soon and suddenly will pop up with a new guy to your surprise. The new guy will seem more masculine and a bit of a "bad boy". As I often do, I recommend Corey Wayne's book "How to be a 3% Man". It is short and cheap. Get it. There are far too many things you are doing wrong to try to deal with them here. 1
smackie9 Posted October 8, 2018 Posted October 8, 2018 Female opinion here: She may not be girlie on the outside, but on the inside she is. She expects a man to take the lead. Why? because she wants to know that she is desired and has value. You need to step it up and start heating things up.
smackie9 Posted October 8, 2018 Posted October 8, 2018 I have been seeing her for about month and a half. We have gone on dates, we have kissed, I sent flowers, she has flirted a bit but not physically, more with stuff that she says. She isn't very girly at all (Which is fine), she's more of a rocker type girl. Wears band t shirts, chucks, all that stuff She doesn't come off as very affectionate but she always is willing to see me, and has gotten really close the past 3 weeks Part of me doubts it though. i just feel like she can be a bit distant at times, but I don't know if that's my mind playing tricks on me. I told her a month ago I was interested and was looking for a relationship and she said she had the same feelings but was very stressed and had alot going on at the time (Grandparent passed away, she moved to a new place) She has never turned down a kiss, or my playing with her hair or anything. She has invited me over for dinner multiple times. What you all think? The bolded is one of the biggest hints that she wants intimacy from you. 1
Author fishthederek Posted October 8, 2018 Author Posted October 8, 2018 i'll talk to her tomorrow about it
PRW Posted October 9, 2018 Posted October 9, 2018 "Talk to her about it" implies that you are caught up in the drama, that you think "something is wrong". Why? Because if nothing was wrong there wouldn't be anything to "talk about". The fact that you think something is wrong, when she probably doesn't think anything is wrong at all, will get you tossed right in the friendzone. Dude...with women, if they think something is wrong they will bring it up and talk about it. If they aren't bringing it up,...then leave it alone. Don't be the drama woman in the relationship, and make her the man that you follow...ESPECIALLY,...when the woman in the situation already seems a little bit masculine already. When you are dealing with a woman that is a bit masculine you always have to be more masculine than she is. 1
coolheadal Posted October 9, 2018 Posted October 9, 2018 I have been seeing her for about month and a half. We have gone on dates, we have kissed, I sent flowers, she has flirted a bit but not physically, more with stuff that she says. She isn't very girly at all (Which is fine), she's more of a rocker type girl. Wears band t shirts, chucks, all that stuff She doesn't come off as very affectionate but she always is willing to see me, and has gotten really close the past 3 weeks Part of me doubts it though. i just feel like she can be a bit distant at times, but I don't know if that's my mind playing tricks on me. I told her a month ago I was interested and was looking for a relationship and she said she had the same feelings but was very stressed and had alot going on at the time (Grandparent passed away, she moved to a new place) She has never turned down a kiss, or my playing with her hair or anything. She has invited me over for dinner multiple times. What you all think? She's like tom boy type of woman she like to do what you guys do have fun like chuck some beers and play around rough. She already told you what she not like a girly girl is what you looking for if not. Then she's just someone you can take out but more like soft date experience not regular girly type of date. If okay with what she has to offer then continue otherwise, just not much you can do too change this rock chick. At least she wants to kiss you. Invite you over for dinner. Enjoy want you have. Instead of buying her flowers get her a 6 pack. That's what you have and you just have to deal with it yourself. Can't change people and women like her forget it. I myself wouldn't go after one but that's me. Just go arm wrestle with her and see who's the strongest mate!
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