Fiance's friend hates me and disrespects me

[coolheadal]

WAT?

 

Where is K taking the guys' side?

 

She gets it just fine, and isn't 'going there'. How did you misread what a very rational, articulate and reliable poster offered as her advice? She's plain as day to me (as always).

 

Why do you think that how is she find with what Bob is allowing from Larry.

 

Fiance's friend hates me and disrespects me the title. Bob is the fiance and Larry is the friend. So the friend is taking time away from OP and Bob is not on her side. Where do you get that I said her should be on the side lines. I didn't say it like that. Chill out you two.. Bob needs to respect his woman. Larry needs to go back to this place. Life is simple if you make the right adjustments.

[MidwestUSA]

What? I can't understand this.

 

Word salad, version 10.2. There's a free download if you search it.

[doyathinkso]

Nashier maybe it's time you stopped living together.

 

Let Bob know why you're moving out, and tell him that you hope he and Larry are very happy together.

[stillafool]

You work 12-14 hour shifts? Sounds to me like Bob got lonely and needed someone to fill the gap when you weren't there. And he found that he liked the way the gap got filled. At least he found a buddy and not an affair partner.

 

If you want this to change, you both have to change. At your end of this, start with working reasonable hours so that you can be part of his life. And yes, he has to lift his game as well. But don't be misled into thinking that 100% of the solution falls on Bob.

 

^^^This OP, I think Bob enjoys Larry's company more than yours and is probably tired of the cooking thing.

[SouthernIslander]

Waymint!!!!!!

 

In your house, Larry is opening up his mouth and saying what to you?

 

He'd have been out of that house right then and there and Bob would have been read the riot act since he didn't check his little friend in the moment.

 

No--you are NOT going to sit up in MY house and tell ME when I can talk to the other person who my income is going to help support. No--that's not happening here. And if Larry is that damb grown, he needs to go home and set up the Xbox there and play his stupid games there.

 

And if Bob is that cucked by his friend that he allows him to speak to you that way in your own home? He needs to go, too.

 

Unless Larry is going to drop down and provide Bob with his sexual needs, his behind needs to be banned from your home and Bob needs to be the one to step to his new little friend and tell him where to get go and quick how to get there.

 

That takes some nerve to tell you what you may or may not do in your own home. I'm pissed off for you.

 

OMG....It pissed me off reading this too!

 

Larry would have been cursed and kicked out the first time he came in my house talking crazy to me like that.

 

I can keep my cool a lot but disrespecting me in my own home is a hill I'd die on.

[SouthernIslander]

I strongly encourage you to rethink getting married or insist on pre-marital counseling with visible improvement in terms of boundaries (through is actions) before marrying this guy.

 

The friend's is being rude and disrespectful not only to you but your fiancee. If this is the type of behavior that he puts up with, you'll have to either allow the people in his life to run over you or constantly defend/protect yourself because he won't do it.

[dispatch3d]

Seems like another hurdle to me, especially from the replies in this thread. Also this is the dating section, you should probably be in the relationships section. You might get eaten alive there though so I warned you!

[guest569]

Nashier maybe it's time you stopped living together.

 

Let Bob know why you're moving out, and tell him that you hope he and Larry are very happy together.

 

Yes I actually think this is what I would do. My home is sacred.

[Robert]

Since the thread starter seems to be a drive by we'll close this up and if they return and want it reopened then alert on my post and we will do so, thanks all

 

~Robert