dateme Posted October 7, 2018 Posted October 7, 2018 I went to a bar to hang with friends and watch football. One of the waitresses that I've seen before was there and I didn't really know her. I know a few of the others so I started talking friendly to her. So later when she was off she came over and hung with me. She bought drinks and shared hers with me. As well as her food. Then she wanted to go to another bar and watch the UFC fight. So after drinking for a couple of hours we walked over to another bar and had a drink and watched the fight. After that I walked her back to her car. We held hands a bit then we gave each other a hug. I didn't sense a kiss was happening so I we both said goodnight. So I went into another bar and hung for awhile then texted her and hoped she got home safe. She didn't respond. So my thing is I don't know how the date went. If it was a date. She was saying how she wanted to go hang out more in the future but who knows.
coolheadal Posted October 7, 2018 Posted October 7, 2018 I went to a bar to hang with friends and watch football. One of the waitresses that I've seen before was there and I didn't really know her. I know a few of the others so I started talking friendly to her. So later when she was off she came over and hung with me. She bought drinks and shared hers with me. As well as her food. Then she wanted to go to another bar and watch the UFC fight. So after drinking for a couple of hours we walked over to another bar and had a drink and watched the fight. After that I walked her back to her car. We held hands a bit then we gave each other a hug. I didn't sense a kiss was happening so I we both said goodnight. So I went into another bar and hung for awhile then texted her and hoped she got home safe. She didn't respond. So my thing is I don't know how the date went. If it was a date. She was saying how she wanted to go hang out more in the future but who knows. You too just hangout.. Not a date and the next one is just hangout. Don't buy her drinks for a woman your just hanging with.
Author dateme Posted October 7, 2018 Author Posted October 7, 2018 You too just hangout.. Not a date and the next one is just hangout. Don't buy her drinks for a woman your just hanging with. I didn't buy drinks. And I won't.
lovesiick Posted October 7, 2018 Posted October 7, 2018 Ladies point of view here but I don't think it was a date at all, like what someone else has said its just the both of you hanging out. Why she held your hand I don't know, but I feel like thats what might have made you think it was a date? If a girl is interested in you, trust me she'll make you feel like she is and her not texting back is a sign that she might not be interested in anything more than just casual hanging out.
Author dateme Posted October 7, 2018 Author Posted October 7, 2018 Ladies point of view here but I don't think it was a date at all, like what someone else has said its just the both of you hanging out. Why she held your hand I don't know, but I feel like thats what might have made you think it was a date? If a girl is interested in you, trust me she'll make you feel like she is and her not texting back is a sign that she might not be interested in anything more than just casual hanging out. I myself didn't think it was a date. I was wanting clarification and thanks. Because she kept holding to my hand and telling me how she wants a friend who can do his thing and she do her thing. And kept wanting to get more drinks. I paid for mine and she paid for hers. And I was like I don't want anymore. And she kept saying how she wants to do all these things I like. So I was confused about her intentions. If she wanted friendship that's cool but going about all the extra is way too much. I'll only see her every now and then when I go to the bar. So I'll stick with the regular girls i know.
smackie9 Posted October 7, 2018 Posted October 7, 2018 It could mean something, and then again it may not be. I think she just wanted to do something after work, and you were her opportunity. The only way to know if she is interested is to ask her out on a date. If she says to hang out, you are totally friend zoned. 1
smackie9 Posted October 7, 2018 Posted October 7, 2018 I myself didn't think it was a date. I was wanting clarification and thanks. Because she kept holding to my hand and telling me how she wants a friend who can do his thing and she do her thing. And kept wanting to get more drinks. I paid for mine and she paid for hers. And I was like I don't want anymore. And she kept saying how she wants to do all these things I like. So I was confused about her intentions. If she wanted friendship that's cool but going about all the extra is way too much. I'll only see her every now and then when I go to the bar. So I'll stick with the regular girls i know. OK this is friend zone talk, you know what to do. 2
MidwestUSA Posted October 7, 2018 Posted October 7, 2018 OK this is friend zone talk, you know what to do. Yea, she couldn't make it any more clear than that! Plus she bought all her own drinks. I'll give her credit for not being ambiguous.
Author dateme Posted October 7, 2018 Author Posted October 7, 2018 OK this is friend zone talk, you know what to do. Ok cool. Thanks.
smackie9 Posted October 7, 2018 Posted October 7, 2018 Plus she drove under the influence....not cool at all. 1
MidwestUSA Posted October 7, 2018 Posted October 7, 2018 I myself didn't think it was a date. I was wanting clarification and thanks. Because she kept holding to my hand and telling me how she wants a friend who can do his thing and she do her thing. And kept wanting to get more drinks. I paid for mine and she paid for hers. There's nothing to stop you from asking her to hang out again, if that's what you want. But the above bothers me. Then you walked her to her car. She wants an enabling drinking buddy. I'd pass on this one.
MidwestUSA Posted October 7, 2018 Posted October 7, 2018 Plus she drove under the influence....not cool at all. Beat me to it. I was typing and needed to dump some coffee. 1
Author dateme Posted October 7, 2018 Author Posted October 7, 2018 Good point about the driving. The reason I texted her was to make sure she got home. I called her too and she didn't pick up. She told me earlier we should get an uber. I told her I don't need an uber because I'm not as drunk and as the night goes on I stop drinking 3-4 hour before I drive and then I'm not drunk. So she could have called an uber to leave or she could have drove. Idk. I walked her to her car then before she got in I walked off and went to another bar to hang with my friends for another hour or so. You guys are right it's too much drama already. Thanks.
MaleIntuition Posted October 7, 2018 Posted October 7, 2018 Dude, she was looking for a ONS, she was the one initiating the hand-holding right? Offering you drink, asking if you should get an Uber... She’s not answering because she feels rejected.
Author dateme Posted October 7, 2018 Author Posted October 7, 2018 Dude, she was looking for a ONS, she was the one initiating the hand-holding right? Offering you drink, asking if you should get an Uber... She’s not answering because she feels rejected. I'll just take it as she friend zoned me and is a drunk. And I won't think of it past that point. And I don't care. I'm thankful for everyone letting me know she had too much drama. 1
Author dateme Posted November 1, 2018 Author Posted November 1, 2018 So I've ran into her twice since then. All her friends keep asking if I know her and how good looking she is and have I gotten with her yet. I tell them no and how our hang was. One of our mutual friends went out of her way to say she's just naive. But she's nice. And that she was asking me all these questions to see if I was a good guy. And she kept coming up and hugging on me. I was busy hugging and kissing other women. They kept telling me to ask her out and I'm like not interested. We don't like each other and I think she is too much of a partier. I picked up that she does like me on some level. But I've lost interest. If she did like me she had a weird way of showing it. I'm not a mind reader. And these gray areas are too much. Anyway. Just sharing. Hint to women. If you like a dude you'll have to be more clear up front.
Mrs._December Posted November 1, 2018 Posted November 1, 2018 I didn't buy drinks. And I won't. How's that cheap act been working for ya? She shared her drinks and food with YOU at the first bar, but you're too good to buy her a drink at the next stop? No wonder you haven't heard back from her.
Mrs._December Posted November 1, 2018 Posted November 1, 2018 Hint to women. If you like a dude you'll have to be more clear up front. She likes flirting with you - and probably many others as well. Doesn't mean she 'likes' you. Sheesh.
Author dateme Posted November 1, 2018 Author Posted November 1, 2018 How's that cheap act been working for ya? She shared her drinks and food with YOU at the first bar, but you're too good to buy her a drink at the next stop? No wonder you haven't heard back from her. It works good for me. But no. I don't buy girls drinks.
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