What the hell is going on?

[jadedalways645]

I met this girl a 6 months ago at this party that my friend was throwing. We hit it off and she left the next day to go back to college. 3 months ago I was at this same friends house and she was there. I noticed that she was all over me and my friends noticed it too. I introduced myself to her and she said she remembered me from 6 months ago (although for the life of me I thought I had never met her before). We really hit it off again and we exchanged numbers. I was going to wait a while to call her but she called me 2 days later. We hung out that night and she tried to have sex with me but I felt she was too drunk and turned her away (I'm sorry but I still consider sex to be a thing to be shared in a relationship not like a handshake). After that night we started dating and started spending every waking moment together. It took me about 3 weeks before I started realizing that I had some serious feelings for her. I started seeing her as an equal and treated her as such. I told her that I was starting to have feelings for her and I got scared and told her I was going to disappear for a little bit. She said that was cool but I could tell that she was very upset. The next morning she shows up and next thing I know its been 2 1/2 months and I am living with her and she is paying for everything and treating me like a king and I was treating her like a queen. We did everything together, so much that people didn't ask if we were going out but for how long. When people asked about us, neither one of us could really say whether we were boyfriend/girlfriend or just friends. A month into the relationship I started making advances and she was she wasn't rejecting me but she seemed scared and would push me away and I would stop trying because I did not want to put pressure on her.On the nights we would talk about it (which wasn't many and usually when we were drunk) she said she saw me as more than just a friend but she couldn't commit yet. So I backed off because I had a really good thing going.

 

Then I started talking to some people that knew her past.

 

Turns out she used to be a raving slut and had slept with more guys than I have met in my entire life (which is a freaking lot). To make things worse, all my friends told me that she was making advances on them but they (I hope this is true) turned her away. Well this made me feel bad and we asked her if this relationship was just friends are we free to date other people. She said yes but I started dating others and she didn't and me, thinking that we were just friends, would tell her about them and she would never want to talk about it and would get angry about it. So needless to say I am getting very confused. And truth be told, when I was out with the other girls, all I could think about was her. It seems to me that she has a really active lust for sex but she does not want me to know about it. She gets uncomfortable when the topic of sex comes up and she gets really mad when I tell her what the people she hangs out with (I can't call them friends because friends don't treat each other that way) tell me about her.

 

She just went back to college and she wanted me to go with her but I couldn't because of responsibilities down here. She was upset but she understood. I am afraid that maybe I didn't do something right (I have only had 2 girlfriends that didn't last very long) and I might lose her. She will not talk about anything dealing with me and her but she confides to me everything.The best way to describe the relationship we had (have) is we were boyfriend/girlfriend with sometimes physical contact.

 

Now my life could be an ABC after-school special and I have lost so many people close to me that I have a stack of obituaries an inch and a half thick.

But this girl got me back in college, carried me for 3 months, and was around me so much that my friends started calling me to see if I was being held hostage by her. We are polar opposites but I have never met anyone so interesting before.My head and friends are telling me to end it but my heart tells me I could be making the biggest mistake of my life.

 

PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!

[DesertDweller]

Why is there pressure to end the relationship? Why can't you guys just start again, at a slower pace; carry on a long-distance relationship/friendhip and see what happens?