Andrew312 Posted September 9, 2005 Posted September 9, 2005 Ok heres my issue. Got a lovely girls number at her work a few weeks back. For some reason we seemed to click and instantly there was no awkwardness so to speak. Rang her a few days later and we set up a date for the following Friday. Had a great day and evening with her. Rang her the following Tuesday and set up Wednesday. Unfortunately she had to cancel early on Wednesday because of college commitments. Rescheduled for Sunday and went out for dinner/coffee and had a great time, talked and talked and made out a bit afterwards. All seemed great and I said I would ring her during the week with my new number as I had broken my mobile phone. Well I rang her on Tuesday, left a message and nothing, rang her Wednesday and Thursday and nothing. Sent a couple of texts as well and nothing. At first I was worried I was having problems with my new phone as some other people have had issues leaving me messages etc etc but now I am starting to wonder. Its now Thursday night and I am starting to get worried/annoyed. I sent her a text saying let me know whats happening because I do not want to keep bugging her and I hope she is ok. I just don't know whether I should keep trying her the following days or just leave it and see what she does. She did not seem at all like the kind of girl that would blow you off or at least let you know what the deal is, she is a very nice intelligent sort. I know she is always very busy with work and with collge but still, a call or message? I would prefer is she would let me know one way or another cos being rejected while feeling bad feels a lot better than not knowing what the hell is going on! She is a stunning looking girl so I really can't be sure if I am the only one dating her but considering her workload and type of person she is, I would say we have been exclusive the last few weeks. I guess I am asking advice from people who have been in similar situations. I have never been in a situation like this and used to chucke at the thought of people who were, but man now I know how it feels and I wouldnt wish it on anyone. Its really bad. Advice?
PizzaGuy Posted September 9, 2005 Posted September 9, 2005 Well I rang her on Tuesday, left a message and nothing, rang her Wednesday and Thursday and nothing. Sent a couple of texts as well and nothing. Way too much calling and texting in such a short period of time. You sound too needy and desperate. Give her a chance to call you back. Do not try again until she calls you back and make sure your phone is working properly.
Merin Posted September 9, 2005 Posted September 9, 2005 Well Andrew, that sucks! However if you've left her voicemails and explained that you were not certain your VM was working AND you've text her as well... then unless there is something wrong with her phone or she's had an emergency of some BIG sort then I would say this girl has blown you off. At this point I woud do nothing more. She knows how to reach you.... Also one more thing... unless or until both parties have taked about and agreed to be exclusive it isn't.... Hang in there
whichwayisup Posted September 9, 2005 Posted September 9, 2005 Don't call her or IM her anymore. She's aware you're trying to get intouch with her so let her contact you. It hurts and who knows what is going through her head...Maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe things moved too fast for her and she's taking some time to think it out... Don't panic quite yet. Time will tell...If another week goes by and you've not heard from her then chances are, sadly for you, that maybe she changed her mind. Or, maybe something did happen to her and even then, you'll still have to wait for her to email or IM you. Hang in there, keep busy to get your mind off of things.
Author Andrew312 Posted September 9, 2005 Author Posted September 9, 2005 Yeah I know you are both right and it does suck! I guess it’s just a shock to the system as I do/did really like her. I just find it quite disrespectful that she won’t at least let me know whats goin on. I would be much more at ease if she just said she wasn’t into me so I could go down other paths with a clear head. All signs were good on our dates, her talking about stuff we would do next time etc, and I am a real gentleman. It is so frustrating but I also do hope nothing bad has happened. I do not know any of her friends etc so can’t get any info that way. I am so going to be more understanding of other people when they grow through similar things now.
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