I suffer from unrequited love! ! I fell in love with a tinder guy.

[AlinaSmi]

I fell in love with a guy (he's 32, zodiac sign is pisces, I'm 24, also pisces if it matters) from another country, and can't do anything about it( I met him on tinder last summer. I texted him first, and he immediately asked to go on a date the next day. He asked me what I'm looking for, I told him to answer that question first and he said as if he's only interested in serious relationships, and if I was dating for fun then he's the wrong person. I was too shy so I asked him if I could bring my friend with me (he is gay).

 

He got confused at first but agreed as he really liked me. The date went perfect, we we're joking a lot, he was boasting too much though. He even seemed narcissistic, or maybe he wanted me to like him as he was giving compliments to me all the time and taking me to all the fancy places, I almost felt like I'm in heaven. We were sitting on a roof top bar of the hotel, he started kissing me, I told him I'm just too quiet and maybe shy, he said that's just exactly what he's looking for, then he told me as if he didn't want to fall in love but he might come back if I want.

 

Then he added that he wasn't going to sleep with me, but wanted me to stay with him. I was too drunk and naive, so I asked him why, he said he just hadn't planned anything and then he took me to the pharmacy. We came back to his hotel room, started kissing and everything and he suddenly took his shirt he already had taken off and told me to wait for a second as he should see his friends. Then he came back with weed and started smoking (I'd told him I don't use such stuff) and asked me again why I was using the app and if it's for fun. I was surprised and didn't know what to answer so I told him as if it is, asked him the same question, he told me the same, that he had been in a relationship 2 months before (he was using some confusing words), also he had gone on 2 dates before and nothing ever turned out of them and that he rarely ever goes on a date or uses tinder.

 

Everything went perfect, we woke up together, he asked me to stay with him again. I was at my friend's place waiting till he's back from his friends to see me when he texted me to go to his hotel room, that he's going to the airport in half an hour ( he was texting me all the time we were apart that day), I went there and told him I didn't know he's leaving already. He said he didn't either, and then said he's hoping I didn't have much expectations from him. I was shocked and said I didn't. He was surprised and asked how, and I told him that it had been clear to me from the beginning ( I didn't have the courage to ask him about the relationship straight forward).

 

Then he told me how good I am, that any man would be very happy to be with me, that everything would be different if we lived in the same country and that I'm either a good actress or the purest thing he's ever seen. He said he was addicted to drugs, that things in his life are too complicated and such stuff, and behaved as if he didn't care for anything. Then he asked me if I'd get too sad if he never texted me or I'd ever hear from him, of course I said I wouldn't (what else could I say). Then he asked me if I'd like to see him again, I said I wouldn't mind, he laughed as that was a political answer, so I said I would. Then we went down and said goodbye to each other( I texted him later saying I was thankful to him for spending such beautiful and amazing time with him, and that I was still wondering about his question concerning my expectations as he had previously mentioned he's into serious relationship. He didn't answer to that message.

 

Later I liked his photo on fb accidentally ( we're not friends as he seemed to avoid adding me on fb and I never asked), and I texted him that it was by chance and fb suggested his profile through the phone number and that he didn't think I was stalking him. He texted "ahaha It's ok to like me ��". I texted that I had already deleted it and he didn't answer. I don't know why I actually said that, maybe I still felt angry about him. Even later I saw a group photo of him with his friends (they had also seem us together) and his ex on fb, and I got surprised as it had been posted a day before his visit. They even seemed to still like each other's photos on fb and I wonder if they can be now friends or he lied to me.

 

Now his location has been changing a lot on tinder.This might mean he uses tinder. 2 days ago I saw a photo of him with a baby and his gf on his friends profile. I couldn’t see any other photos but the girl had a location emoji on her profile and said “ based at his (name) place. I went mad and I had to text him. I texted him “I know there may be a problem recognizing me, but anyway... You might have a girlfriend or a kid now so I don’t know why I’m texting you right now I just want to say that I was in love with you for a long time after you left..

You can ignore this message as well as you did, I just had to say this to you”, he said sorry I felt miserable because of him, that yes, he has a gf now, and no, no kid as far as he knows, and that he wishes me to find someone close to me who adore me the way I deserve it. I said sorry, I’m drunk, I shouldn’t have done this, he said in vinum veritas, you’ll be fine. I said I hope you’re really really happy and he didn’t answer.

Pleas help me to get over this! Is really distance the case or he just doesn’t like me enough? He even seems to use tinder as his location has been changing during the last 3 months.

I got mad when I saw his gf’s photos with hashtags like “waiting for my love” or “when your man takes you to the most magical place you have ever seen” and her vacation photos with “vacaywithbae” though there is only one photo of them too kissing in a party. I know this is mean, I’m just going mad.

Am I to blame for this or what’s the reason I’m worse than any other girl would be his gf? Os distance the case or he just didn’t like me enough? I really want to know this(

 

I don't want to be mean or something, but I just don't know what to do. Please give any advice!!