Got dumped because of a scar on my face

[hambozo]

Gf dumped me because of a scar on my face

Gf dumped me because of a scar on my face

Hello everyone.. i don’t know where to start

well Me [25M] ex [22F] dumped me because of a scar on my face

i had a scar on my face because of an car accident when i was 5 years old ... i had onlu 2 relationships my whole life .. first one i was a rebound and she used me to get over her ex bf and told people we were never together ( it’s ok ).

 

my scar looks red and really ugly like i got it from a knife fight and people do always judge me because of it and ask about it ( even the taxi driver) .

i tried everything like plastic surgery, lasers and alot more and nothing worked for redness .

 

my gf dumped me and was honest .. you are the sweetest guy and made me feel like angel but sorry i can’t handle you scar and it embarrasses me in public and her friends made fun of her for being in a relationship with a scarface .

 

i always hate my life because of this scar ... im tired and always stay at home to avoide people there just no solution for it and i don’t blame my ex she was crying when she told me the truth ... the real problem is people judment im a very nice person and people just think im a bad guys who got this scar from a fight

 

TlDR ; Got dumped because of a scar on my face and i don’t think there would be any girl who loves me and accept me .. i don’t know why im writing this post just want to let it out .. Thank you

[Chassit]

If she is that petty, find another. If she is embarrassed by that then run, as far and fast as you can.

[d0nnivain]

I am so sorry that you have endured a life of discrimination due to this disfigurement. It's wholly unfair & must be very painful.

 

However, people who can't see past the scar are not worth your time.

 

Since it is of such prominence to you, seek out a plastic surgeon & see what can be done to diminish it. There are probably techniques to minimize it.

 

When you feel better about your appearance & stop being so obsessed with your scar you will also attract more people into your life who can see past it. Part of the reason they can't, is that you can't.

[thr1986]

First-off, when you said “I don’t blame her” regarding your ex girlfriend- you need to shake that idea from your head. She is absolutely a shallow person. I know you can’t see that right now but eventually you will. There is nothing wrong with you. You seem like a sensitive, nice guy. Do NOT let this scar stop you from feeling good.

 

You need to focus on all the other attributes you have and FORGET the scar. Please google the model “Winnie Harlow”. She has made her skin condition something completely benign. You don’t have to feel bad because you have a scar. You CANT help it. You have ONE life to live. Please enjoy it and don’t let this girl make you feel bad because of her shallow character.

[smackie9]

That's what the young ones are like...stupid. Don't sweat it you will find a woman that is mature and doesn't care what other people think.

[Ruby Slippers]

i always hate my life because of this scar ... im tired and always stay at home to avoide people there just no solution for it and i don’t blame my ex she was crying when she told me the truth ... the real problem is people judment im a very nice person and people just think im a bad guys who got this scar from a fight

People can be so disappointing. It's natural to withdraw from a mean old world that judges people for meaningless reasons like appearance.

 

However, the best people don't do this. Your pool of romantic potentials will be narrowed, but you can find a great girl who will love you for you. There are all kinds of men with major physical issues dating and married to lovely women.

 

Ideally you'll build the inner strength to be confident in spite of the scar. Until you get to that point, maybe later in life, have you tried scar-covering makeup? Dermablend is a well-known product used to cover tattoos, scars, etc., supposedly works very well.

[fromheart]

Thats a really horrible person. Your far better of without her being anywhere near your life. I'd advise you to tell her this.

 

A real woman will not be concerned with the scar.

[kendahke]

She is the wrong person for you in so many ways.

 

Anyone who is still running the validity of their relationships past their committee of friends is too immature to be in an adult relationship. If she's grown, she doesn't need her friends telling her what to do or who to date. And if she's embarrassed by your scar, then you really don't want this sickening energy in your sphere.

 

There is someone out here who will love you despite your scar.

[Kelliousme]

Stop hating your scar and start embracing it. Your ex gf is too shallow and retarded. If she cares about your scar so much.. why'd she go out with you? Smh.

 

But be glad she's gone. Anyone who dumps for reasons as vain as this is not worth your time! And I'm definitely sure there will be a woman out there who would love you and your scar

 

Not sure if you watch anime but a lot of main characters or side characters that are pretty popular have scars on their face. If I ever see a man with a scar on his face, yeah sure first thought I'd have is probably how he got the scar.. but at the same time I wouldn't think it's ugly. Anime has taught me that scars can make a man hot and unique!

[Logo]

Forget her. She's not worth your time.

 

And since her friends are calling you "scarface", then they are so much uglier on the inside than they can ever imagine. So much so, that you should keep telling yourself, I'm better looking than they could ever be.

 

Put differently, I'd rather be with a kind, mature and intelligent woman who has a lazy eye than be with a woman who looks like a super model, but is shallow, mean spirited and a drama queen.

 

 

You're young. Don't let it phase you. You're in the prime of your life. Brush it off like it was an annoying fly on your shoulder and move on.

 

Start looking for another girlfriend TODAY.

 

Your ex is like that crazy guy that cuts you off in traffic while talking on the phone and then has the audacity to call you, an a***hole.

 

 

And you know what? A lot of women dig scars and find them sexy. I kid you not.

[fromheart]

Rather have a beautiful woman with a scar and a heart of gold, then a barbie doll with two tons of emotional baggage.

[dream of me]

I'm sorry she hurt you. Having to live with a scar is difficult, mostly because people can be do indiscreet! A cousin of mine used to have a red pigment on half her face, when people inquired about it made me feel awkward because it's such a rude thing to ask someone! None of their business.

 

Anyway. I think scars are bada$$. My boyfriend has a scar on his face, and in the past I have been attracted to someone with lots of red acne scars. I've also been insanely attracted to someone with a prosthetic. The right woman will love this and will love you even more because of it, trust me.

[No_Go]

Go to a make up store (I know you are a man, but it doesn't matter), and ask for camouflage foundation. If you can't find one, ask here I'll give you brands.

There are professional grade ones for severe scars but you probably are ok with a cosmetic store one. Applied properly, it will greatly conceal the scar (redness etc), and it will bother you less in your day to day life. Your improved confidence will make you land on a woman faster.

[2much4]

Im so sorry this happened to you. Your ex is a horrible person.

 

I don't know what it's like having a scar, but I have a big birthmark on my face. It looks like my face is split in half.

It's only as bad as you make it, really. I love my birthmark. If someone makes a nasty comment about it, I know this person is no good to be around.

 

It's your face, your scar is part of who you are and part of what makes you unique and special. You should be proud of it!

[basil67]

I don't believe that the scar was the problem. If it was so hideous to her and her friends, she wouldn't have accepted a date with you in the first place. There's something else going on with her.

 

At any rate, you're better off without her.

[2much4]

The right woman will love this and will love you even more because of it, trust me.

 

Completely agree with this. Don't try to cover it up...

[No_Go]

Im so sorry this happened to you. Your ex is a horrible person.

 

I don't know what it's like having a scar, but I have a big birthmark on my face. It looks like my face is split in half.

It's only as bad as you make it, really. I love my birthmark. If someone makes a nasty comment about it, I know this person is no good to be around.

 

It's your face, your scar is part of who you are and part of what makes you unique and special. You should be proud of it!

 

Yeah, scars are part of us. But so is body hair, infinitely long nails, dandruff etc. But we don't keep these things visible, right? We also shower although our natural smells are part of us. Put braces on although crooked teeth make us unique...

 

If he covers up his scar, he'll put little effort and get big return (increased confidence which is crucial for men in mating). He'll have plenty of time to show his scar to his future partner and accept it, but now he needs confidence fix more than anything.

[Guildford]

Tell the next girl you date that it is a dueling scar from you college years at Heidelberg. No, that's not a good idea. My wife had some scares that worried her, and I told her she should say to the world: this is me, take it or leave it but don't take part of me and pretend the rest is not there. I accepted the whole package and we have been married for decades.

 

I agree with FromHeart, "Rather have a beautiful woman with a scar and a heart of gold, then a barbie doll with two tons of emotional baggage."

 

Find a new girlfriend.

[Chris2016]

I don't believe that the scar was the problem. If it was so hideous to her and her friends, she wouldn't have accepted a date with you in the first place. There's something else going on with her.

 

At any rate, you're better off without her.

 

^ I think it's this.

And it would make her a terrible person for pointing the finger at you/your scars, as the reason for breaking up with you.

Edited October 5, 2018 by Chris2016

[Hopeful30]

Bro, it's a f*cking scar, since when do people even notice those?

 

I have scars. Physical, emotional, some even spiritual. Scars are what make us beautiful.

 

If a woman can't see past that, then she ain't no real woman.

 

Over and out.

[preraph]

There's a whole lot of women out there who do not care what others think. Your girlfriend was apparently reliant on the opinion of others for her self-worth, so she couldn't have someone imperfect on her arm. That's her weakness, not yours.

 

When is the last time you saw anyone about the scar? I only ask because dermatology has had so many advances the last few years. Aside from making sure you've done all you can do, you should use makeup to conceal it as much as possible. Especially if it's mainly the redness.

[major_merrick]

Scars are part of what makes you...you. If the girl dated you initially (not like she could have ignored the scar) then the scar was just an excuse, not the actual reason for the breakup. I'm surprised that there's nothing the doctors can do for the red pigmentation issue.

 

My husband has a scar on his face - white, not red. I don't think it ever caused him a problem, but he does grow his beard in a way that hides the line. Depending on the location of yours, you've probably thought of something like that. To me, my husband's marks give him character because each one tells a story of something he survived - a situation that he overcame. The one that means the most to me is a scar from a bullet he took saving my life - physical evidence of love and friendship. I've got scars too - deep marks on my back where my father beat me until I bled, scars on my arms from fighting. All that is evidence of my survival against the worst the world could throw at me.

 

Start framing it as part of your story - your survival, your struggle against the odds. People who are worth anything will understand and respect that. People who don't are trash and not worth your time.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

I have a female friend in her late forties who has experienced this as well (same reason as you - car accident as a young child). It's so sad to hear that people actually would reject someone for this reason, but it has happened to her.

 

However. I will say, with her at least, the reason she's still single in her late forties has nothing to do with outside scars, but her attitude and personality. If she was warm, friendly, and less judgmental of others, I doubt anyone would ever reject her because of some scars on her face.

 

Don't lose hope. You're still young. Work on your self-confidence, kindness, etc. and you will find someone who loves your insides AND your outside.

[Noproblem]

I am sorry but this girl is not worth your sadness or your time.

 

I am sure you will find people that will love you despite of your scar.

 

I encourage you to keep on trying putting oils such as shea oil( the one imported from Africa) and also, coconut oil.

You just need to apply the oil every day and night for a year or so, constantly, and this will eventually help. But this is solely for you, not to get any girls or friends.

 

If people can't accept you with the scar, then that is their choice. You are still 25 and you will find people that will accept you as a whole.

 

Also, notice if you hate the scar, this will show on you, if you embrace the scar, people will embrace it too.

 

by the way, do you mind showing pictures of the scar?