break03 Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 Hi All, My ex gf and I were together for eight months (I'm 34, she's 25). Over some insecurities and weird behaviour, she proposed it twice and I broke up with her (I really was not thinking through). One week later I regretted it and asked her back. She said she didn't see a future together. For two months we hooked up twice a week then she went hot and cold. Still almost every time I see her, There's at least kissing or we get intimate ( I believe this has happened 90% of the times I meet her). During those three months after break up. Twice I acted clingy and jealous in front of her friends, and that really turned her off (but still, she was mad one day and flirting with me the next week). I got a sinus surgery a 12 days ago and she came visit two days ago. Things got intimate (She was still telling me she doesn't know how she was at my apartment like that with me). As I want her back and she does not, we agreed that it was better for both of us if we kept our distances and don't contact each other. I really miss her and still believe she might be the one. Got any opinions?
Orokotikki Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 Sorry if my advice is a little vague and broad, but that is as the situation seems to me. Do guy things with guys until you are ready to start dating. Also, block and unfriend her from everywhere - it isn't ACTUALLY NC if you don't. Work on yourself and consider what it is you really want out of life, set some goals and work toward them, when you feel confident start admiring all the fantastic women the world has to offer.
Author break03 Posted October 2, 2018 Author Posted October 2, 2018 Thanks for your advice. Maybe you're right. Regarding NC... My believe is that blocking her everywhere is kinda overkill. We have a couple of friends in common. I don't plan to bump with her. But doesn't blocking shows her I'm being childish? Like I can't handle the situation. Best Regards,
Orokotikki Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 Nope, just shows you're serious and not receptive to any overtures. Also shows that you're winning the game that is won by not playing.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 She proposed what twice before? Breaking up? What were the insecurities and other weird behaviours? It sounds to me like she would have continued to enjoy your affection and attention until she met the next guy she wanted to date, so you are wise to remain out of contact. And no, blocking doesn't look childish. It looks like you accept that it's over.
BC1980 Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 NC is always the best. Everyone eventually figures that out.
Mardelis Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 Just in case you might be wondering- blocking and no contact is not done in order to try to win the person back.
BC1980 Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 Just in case you might be wondering- blocking and no contact is not done in order to try to win the person back. True. If you're doing NC to get a person back, you're not committing to it. You're playing games.
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