Oceans112 Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 (edited) Hello, I’ve been dating this girl for a few months and something happened this weekend that I want advice from. We’ve been dating since early June, and were getting along great until we had a miscommunication where we didn’t talk for a week or so. During that week we weren’t talking, another guy asked for her number and wanted to go out, to which she stated she wasn’t looking for anything and would only go out as friends. They went out to an entertainment center and then he asked her to come back to his apartment to watch a movie, and tried pulling a move on her. She said she asked him to stop and that was that. She admitted this to me after I started talking to her again. At the same time, he had also asked her to go to a concert set for two weeks after this “date”to which she had also said yes to. I believe he asked her to the concert before they went out. Despite him making the move on her, she still went to the concert with him this past weekend. I had asked her to let me know if she was seeing anyone and she said no, she was not interested in him as anything more than a friend. The concert was this past Saturday. She texted me a few times during the concert, but then I didnÂ’t hear from her again until 10:30 Sunday morning. When I asked her over text how everything went, she said she hated it. I told her I was sorry to hear that and she said she brought it on herself. When I spoke to her on the phone today, she didn’t want to talk about the concert. She said the guy was creepy and that she left and was talking to random venue workers (including a security guard for 30 minutes) until eventually going back to her seat. I asked her how the guy was creepy, and she said he was leering at the singer. That was all I got. She then stated she didn’t want to talk about it anymore. We reached a point of awkwardness and I got off the phone. She texted me a bit later and apologized for being cranky, but said she was upset that I wanted to talk about her evening when she did not. Things are a little tense right now and I’m not sure what to do. Advice? Thanks for reading. Edited October 2, 2018 by Oceans112 Typos
Poutrew Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 Sorry, but your GF has been having sex with this other dude. She went to this guys apartment and he 'tried' to make a move on her? More likely, he was successful. Then even though she knows he was up to no good, they next go to a concert together and then you loose track of your girl until the next day? It doesn't take much imagination to figure out what they were doing that night. Oh, of course she says she hates it... then she will admit to just kissing, but it wasn't good. Then groping, and she hated it, then full on sex, but not to worry OP because he has a micro penis, and can't ejaculate - and she hated every slippery moment of it, and wished she were with you instead... oh and by the way, she said she will go out with him one more time, to his vacation home in the 'burbs for the weekend... You are being played like a violin, and for a fool. Ditch this witch and find someone who will not play games with you...
Larry56 Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 I dunno about the above poster to me. Hello - Playboy Larry here. A woman who is not really interested in you (enough to go out with another guy) after a few months is someone, I'm sorry to say this...clearly doesn't like you as much as you like her. The fact you even seemed OK with it shows to her and me that you don't have a lot of confidence and no boundaries. She's thinking in her mind that you're a bit of a simp. Sorry if that's harsh but it's the truth. Dunno if they boned but definitely looks like someone who doesn't have alot of attraction to you. I'd dump this person right now.
Andy_K Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 Hello, I’ve been dating this girl for a few months and something happened this weekend that I want advice from. We’ve been dating since early June, and were getting along great until we had a miscommunication where we didn’t talk for a week or so. During that week we weren’t talking, another guy asked for her number and wanted to go out, to which she stated she wasn’t looking for anything and would only go out as friends. They went out to an entertainment center and then he asked her to come back to his apartment to watch a movie, and tried pulling a move on her. She said she asked him to stop and that was that. She admitted this to me after I started talking to her again. A girl who is into you doesn't go on dates (she knew full well what this was) with other guys a few days after you have a disagreement. And then back to his place. The only reason you're getting this fake story now that nothing happened, is that she's in damage control because you two started talking again. The concert was this past Saturday. She texted me a few times during the concert, but then I didnÂ’t hear from her again until 10:30 Sunday morning. So she was so distraught during this time that she didn't bother reaching out to the guy she knows cares about her? If you believe that, you're as naive as she is pretending to be.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 I am not sure what advice you're looking for, exactly. The situation seems pretty clear, even if it's painful for you to recognize. You two are evidently not together right now, and she has been going out with another guy. Her interest is not with you anymore, OP. It doesn't matter if she thinks he was "creepy" or not (which I doubt, if she keeps going out with him) - what matters is that she is accepting dates from other guys. I think you would be wise to read the writing on the wall and call it a day with her. Out of curiosity, what was this disagreement about that sparked this "break" to begin with?
Author Oceans112 Posted October 2, 2018 Author Posted October 2, 2018 I dunno about the above poster to me. Hello - Playboy Larry here. A woman who is not really interested in you (enough to go out with another guy) after a few months is someone, I'm sorry to say this...clearly doesn't like you as much as you like her. The fact you even seemed OK with it shows to her and me that you don't have a lot of confidence and no boundaries. She's thinking in her mind that you're a bit of a simp. Sorry if that's harsh but it's the truth. Dunno if they boned but definitely looks like someone who doesn't have alot of attraction to you. I'd dump this person right now. Thanks Larry. I wouldn’t tell you I was ok with it. I expressed that. She told me she had already committed to going and so she went. She was reluctant to really tell me anything about the concert, then abruptly shut down. Yes - I’m considering call it off. I really like her and enjoy her company, but it is what it is.
Author Oceans112 Posted October 2, 2018 Author Posted October 2, 2018 (edited) I am not sure what advice you're looking for, exactly. The situation seems pretty clear, even if it's painful for you to recognize. You two are evidently not together right now, and she has been going out with another guy. Her interest is not with you anymore, OP. It doesn't matter if she thinks he was "creepy" or not (which I doubt, if she keeps going out with him) - what matters is that she is accepting dates from other guys. I think you would be wise to read the writing on the wall and call it a day with her. Out of curiosity, what was this disagreement about that sparked this "break" to begin with? Thanks Expat. Agreed. I’m looking for a sounding board as much as I am advice. It’s tough because I do have feelings for her. She kept insisting that it wasn’t a date with him,even when I referred to it as such. I even asked “Does he know that?” I mean, what dude wastes a concert ticket on a girl he knows he’s not getting anywhere with? That’s a longer story, but in short it came down to some people she was hanging out with. Edited October 2, 2018 by Oceans112
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