cheeselouise Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 Help a girl with no game. I am interesting in a coworker and I have a feeling that he likes me back. It is hard to get to know him because I hardly get to see him, just when we walk around. I hardly know the guy but I have gotten this feeling before where you feel like the other person likes you too. I have zero game. I mean ZERO. All of my past occurrences with this has lead me to not act like myself around the person or completely avoid them. My goal with anyone is to make them laugh but I know almost nothing about him. How do I court him? I feel like the way I have been acting recently is cold because I get so nervous, and I don't want to miss this chance once again. I want to at least get to know him, not like flirt or things like that necessarily. Just overcome this irrational fear and nerves. Thank you in advance.
dispatch3d Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 Probably need more details to give advice, rather than a general how do I get boys/men to like me. The short answers are along the lines of be yourself, talk to him more, etc....
Garcon1986 Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 Think about times where you can see the old chap where it's a low pressure scenario? Where there are no strings attached? Then walk up to him and ask him if he wouldn't mind if you sat down with him. Have a chat and sort out what he likes to do. Results come when you stop focusing on them. It gives of a vibe of being uncomfortable with yourself. Who will like you if you, the authority on the subject of yourself, give off the impression of not liking yourself? I suggest simultaneously trying to chat up random ladies just for the sake of building social confidence in chatting up random people. Your first conversation topic can be about an observation regarding your surroundings. I know the feeling, the feeling of nervousness of whether or not you are going to pass his tests. We guys feel the same way about you women. Work on your confidence as hard as you can, as if your life depended on it. You don't have to tie down the old bloke to marriage on your first conversation. Just sort out if he is as exciting as you think he is. Set small goals.
Mardelis Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 If this coworker is someone you will see every day, then do not get involved. Most relationships fail. When they do, and you're forced to see the person on a regular basis afterwards, it can be anything from really awkward to extremely intolerable. There's a lot of other people out there to date. 1
d0nnivain Posted October 2, 2018 Posted October 2, 2018 Organize an office happy hour. Get someone who knows him to make sure he's on board with attending. Talk to him outside the office. See what that gets you. 1
mortensorchid Posted October 3, 2018 Posted October 3, 2018 I learned these things the hard way : Coworkers are NOT FRIENDS. It's easy for you to think that they are because you spend more time with them than you do anyone else, but they are not. RUN AWAY FROM THIS OR ANY OTHER SITUATION WHERE YOU WILL SOCIALIZE WITH A COWORKER OUTSIDE OF THE WORKPLACE SETTING.
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