SBM1111 Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 (edited) Is it too early to ask someone on Monday to go on a date Saturday? I don’t want to come across too needy or desperate or like I don’t have a life. They are busy all week and so am I with work etc Ps this is not a first date we have been seeing each other on off two months Edited October 1, 2018 by SBM1111
preraph Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 No. I think giving as much notice as possible is nice. There are some people who might not quite know their availability yet, because of work or something else, but that can happen anytime.
smackie9 Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 you have been dating off and on for two months....you feel you are being turned down because you don't give enough notice? Is she always telling you she's busy?
Author SBM1111 Posted October 1, 2018 Author Posted October 1, 2018 you have been dating off and on for two months....you feel you are being turned down because you don't give enough notice? Is she always telling you she's busy? No I don’t. I’m a she. And no he doesn’t always tell me but I just don’t want to come across as too needy or like I have no one else or putting him first by asking him so early in the week
PRW Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 I always say to plan dates about a week out. Set the date on a Monday or Tuesday for a weekend date. It is kind of a no-brainer.
d0nnivain Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 No it's not too early. What is causing all the doubt?
Author SBM1111 Posted October 1, 2018 Author Posted October 1, 2018 No it's not too early. What is causing all the doubt? Fear of rejection
d0nnivain Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 You have been seeing each other for 2 months, why do you still fear rejection? Something is off here. 1
Author SBM1111 Posted October 1, 2018 Author Posted October 1, 2018 You have been seeing each other for 2 months, why do you still fear rejection? Something is off here. I fear he is pulling back a little as he hasn’t asked me out in a week and he usually does. So I’m taking a chance and asking him but I’m afraid he’s loosing interest and will brush me off that’s why
d0nnivain Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 Ahhh He could be pulling back to see if you step up & ask / treat him. If he is ghosting better to find out sooner then later. Go ahead & ask.
PRW Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 Ahhh He could be pulling back to see if you step up & ask / treat him. If he is ghosting better to find out sooner then later. Go ahead & ask.Or the insecurities that are driving all this fear have already been displaying themselves in tons of other ways,...and he is running from it. If I was seeing a woman that was always in such a state of fearfulness, it would have me exhausted after 3 months. To the OP: A week doesn't amount to squat. Yes it would catch attention if it wasn't common, but that is just because a pattern was started and now broken. But all by itself, stand-alone, a week is not a long time. Instead of worrying about asking him out, just call him, by a voice call, and ask how things are going, and see what his response is and how his voice sounds. You don't have to ask him out.
BC1980 Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 The only way to know if he's lost interest is to ask him to do something. Just ask him casually, and you'll have your answer. Not asking doesn't change the way he feels. 1
Author SBM1111 Posted October 3, 2018 Author Posted October 3, 2018 So I asked he said he has plans this Saturday. He did suggest we could meet tonight (Wednesday) if he didn’t end up going to (abc) with his mates (he was unsure at the time) and I said yes that would suit but I haven’t heard from him since. He hasn’t text back in 24 hours but he hasn’t been online either. I know he has an exam today so assume that took priority. Either way I still don’t know what his plan is for tonight as he did indicate it was possible. Should I hold out see if he texts and if he doesn’t move on?
stillafool Posted October 3, 2018 Posted October 3, 2018 So I asked he said he has plans this Saturday. He did suggest we could meet tonight (Wednesday) if he didn’t end up going to (abc) with his mates (he was unsure at the time) and I said yes that would suit but I haven’t heard from him since. He hasn’t text back in 24 hours but he hasn’t been online either. I know he has an exam today so assume that took priority. Either way I still don’t know what his plan is for tonight as he did indicate it was possible. Should I hold out see if he texts and if he doesn’t move on? He basically said he would meet with you if he didn't end up going with his mates. It doesn't sound like he has tentative plans with his mates but is still willing to put them before seeing you. I agree that he is backing off. He should rather see you.
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