noknow Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 I was in a cafe I met a really cool chick. I didn't see a ring or any boyfriend so I started chatting her up immediately. She's new to the city and is a dentist. We talked about doing stuff, I could show her around town, do crap, yadah yadah yadah. As the cafe was closing, I gave her my number. But I didn't ask for hers. Should I always ask? I kind of got lost in the moment and was just like 'Yeah lets go adventure and......'. It'd be cool if she actually gets back to me. But is it always best to ask for a number? Or does it put too much pressure on that person?
Mrin Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 I was in a cafe I met a really cool chick. I didn't see a ring or any boyfriend so I started chatting her up immediately. She's new to the city and is a dentist. We talked about doing stuff, I could show her around town, do crap, yadah yadah yadah. As the cafe was closing, I gave her my number. But I didn't ask for hers. Should I always ask? I kind of got lost in the moment and was just like 'Yeah lets go adventure and......'. It'd be cool if she actually gets back to me. But is it always best to ask for a number? Or does it put too much pressure on that person? Yes. Or just say hey how can we stay in touch. 1
jjb117 Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 I was in a cafe I met a really cool chick. I didn't see a ring or any boyfriend so I started chatting her up immediately. She's new to the city and is a dentist. We talked about doing stuff, I could show her around town, do crap, yadah yadah yadah. As the cafe was closing, I gave her my number. But I didn't ask for hers. Should I always ask? I kind of got lost in the moment and was just like 'Yeah lets go adventure and......'. It'd be cool if she actually gets back to me. But is it always best to ask for a number? Or does it put too much pressure on that person? It’s always tricky. Most girls usually don’t expect a guy to give them their number and have the girl make the first move. Some girls like it, some don’t, so I think it’s best to always just ask for the number. Yes, there’s always that off chance she might give it to you to save the embarrassment, and then never plan on talking to you (gives you false hope) but at least you’re in control. At the end of the day, if she’s interested, she’s interested.
snowboy91 Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 If you want to be more certain, ask for the number, because if you get it it puts you in control. She can always refuse either on the spot or later on (and don't harass her if she decides not to message you back!) All you can do is wait and see if she messages you. No big deal if she doesn't - you only met her once, she could have a BF, she could be not looking, she just might not be interested in you. Or she might be interested. You just don't know, time will tell.
Author noknow Posted October 1, 2018 Author Posted October 1, 2018 Ok, that feeling of control makes sense. I'm not expecting her to get back to me at all. She was a 10/10, the hottest girl I've EVER talked to. I'm talking like she's on the cover of a magazine, and she is a freaking Dentist. I was more impressed how easy it was to start a conversation out of nowhere. I usually don't do this, but this girl was a BOMBSHELL I just had to. And it turned into a really good time. So it was a MAJOR confidence boost. Even though it didn't lead to anything. A man can dream though, a man can dream...
rightondude Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 man great job but I wish you would have got that number, then you would have known the interest would have been mutual. but awesome job brother!
smackie9 Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 First impressions count....and simply offering your number doesn't give a good impression. Women, even women who like equality, like a man to take the lead and ask her for her number or like the other poster said ask how she would like to keep in touch. Many women have come on here questioning a man's intentions or question their effort when they say, here's my number get in touch with me if you want to hang out sometime. They are not feeling very desired or important enough.
d0nnivain Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 If you know her name & that she's a dentist you can probably find her through the licensing board However since she hasn't called you she may not be interested. In the future it is always better to leave with a way to contact the other person rather than having to passively wait for them.
Author noknow Posted October 2, 2018 Author Posted October 2, 2018 First impressions count....and simply offering your number doesn't give a good impression. Women, even women who like equality, like a man to take the lead and ask her for her number or like the other poster said ask how she would like to keep in touch. Many women have come on here questioning a man's intentions or question their effort when they say, here's my number get in touch with me if you want to hang out sometime. They are not feeling very desired or important enough. I've started noticing this recently. Women, DO like to be lead. The guy pretty much always has to lead. I don't know what it is but it's just programmed into females and I've just noticed it. If a women is attracted to me, I pretty much lead right away and she WILL respond. I'm trying to master this. My confidence has increased and I think my leading ability will increase over time as well. Something my past girlfriend told me was that she liked to be told what to do. This ties into to everything I've mentioned about leading.
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