CulinaryGirl Posted September 8, 2005 Share Posted September 8, 2005 Help! I have recently been "seeing" a guy who I feel is terrific. I want our relationship to go further, and I believe he does as well. Short history: Man's been divorced twice...last one was almost 2 years ago. He is slow to get involved, which I understand and am completely willing to work with. However..... His ex-wife (who cheated on him and is always making attempts to get him to come back to her) is constantly calling him and asking him for advice and help and wanting him to bail her out of situations she's in because she seems rather incapable of living her own life. He still is friends with her and I can tell that her repeated attempts to get him to assist her frustrate him. He wants to tell her to live her own life, but he also knows that she can be a good person and he wants to be helpful to her. For example, I spent the night with him last night and we were in the midst of being intimate and his cellphone rang and it was her...he ignored it and didn't answer it...10 minutes later she called AGAIN...he ignored it. However, after we were finished being intimate...he got up and called her to find out what her problem was. He proceeded to spend the next 15 minutes on the phone listening to her complain about her family and how awful they are...while giving several exasperated sighs and being cut off when he was trying to talk. He hung up with her and came to bed and the first thing he said was 'I should have never gotten involved with her and her f*&*#d up family." I'm understanding to a point because I have an ex that I speak to occasionally. But, really, this is starting to slowly eat away at me and make me want to grab the phone out of his hand and say 'Look...*I* am with him now and you are eating in to our little time that we have together...back off!!' I feel as if I have no control over this issue. I don't want to stop seeing this man, but I don't know what to do. I told him I'm understanding, which is true to a point...but the understanding is starting to wear off a bit.... Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
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