Author mixwell Posted September 8, 2005 Author Posted September 8, 2005 Sounds like she's just into you for sex. Believe it or not, some women can have sex without feeling emotional attachment. She repeatedly says she just wants to be friends and she's cool and laid back with you... She's probably not into you for a relationship. Doesn't mean that can't change. But don't go getting all sappy on her. Shockingly, I agree with alpha that you should let this girl be the one to bring up relationship talk. In the mean time, enjoy what you've got and don't get yourself too attached, because she could end up breaking your heart. Wow I never thought a girl might use ME for sex. CRAZY does it seem to you like the might be saying those things because she doesnt want to push me away by actually letting me know she is interested in more than friends Yea theres no way I am going to get emotionally involved right now.. But she does say things like she was thinking about me and also I am kind into asian girls and I mention to her that no asian girls like me. She has commented 2 times that its their loss and her gain.. so whats up with that.. anyways thats all I can think of for now. Peace
crazy_grl Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 Must be one of those flukes of the universe...
crazy_grl Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 Wow I never thought a girl might use ME for sex. CRAZY does it seem to you like the might be saying those things because she doesnt want to push me away by actually letting me know she is interested in more than friends Yea theres no way I am going to get emotionally involved right now.. But she does say things like she was thinking about me and also I am kind into asian girls and I mention to her that no asian girls like me. She has commented 2 times that its their loss and her gain.. so whats up with that.. anyways thats all I can think of for now. Peace Really, it could be either way. If she's naturally very flirty, that could be just normal behavior. When I'm feeling upbeat and flirty (and a bit tipsy), I've said the kinds of things you've been mentioning to both guys I'm into and those I'm not. And the fact that the Asian women won't have you is benefitting her could mean she gets the benefit of continuing to have sex with you, nothing relationship related. The thing that strikes me most is that she said she doesn't think you two would have anything to talk about. Likely translation: she thinks you're just some shallow club rat OR you share no common interests. Continue to talk to her about more substantial topics. You've talked about the two of you going out to clubs/bars, but I don't remember you saying anything about going anywhere else. You could try inviting her out as friends to some other places where you can show her you've got substance. You may want find a way to ask her why she thinks you wouldn't have anything to talk about just in case it's for a totally different reason.
Author mixwell Posted September 8, 2005 Author Posted September 8, 2005 For sure next time we go out I will talk to her more on a serious note.. Most of our convo's have been joking around and what not.. We did have some serious convo yesterday when we first arrived at the pub but when we went outside I sort of switched up and started commenting on the surroundings. I will show her that I am more than a club rat.. haha actually im not really a club rat.. I just started going not too long ago. I used to think they were lame but now that I go to them they are pretty fun. Well she agreed that last night was the first time we had to talk so I think she understands.. Next date will be more serious talking rather than joking around for sure.. I will joke around a little though because thats just me.. Thanks crazy !! PS. Forgot to mention there is a little age difference in us.. She is turning 25 Oct 2 and myself I am 22 as of April.. I don't know if that would matter, I doubt it.
RecordProducer Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 The age difference probably matters to her if she is turned off by younger guys. Don't mistaken sense of humor for lack of seriousness. It should come regardless. And going to club has nothing to do with anything. It's just that she needs a deeper relationshiop, engaged more in intellectual rather than in empty conversations. The sense of humor is actually the best inicator of your intellect.
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