Need help reading her remarks.

[mixwell]

Okay so I have been hanging out with this girl that I met at a club recently. Well we have hooked up and had sex and what not. Before that she said she just wanted to be friends and what not in an email but her actions were the opposite.. Well yesterday we hung out again and we were talking and then there were some silences. Now I'm not the type that feels I have to say something or feel awkward about it. She said she didn't feel like we would work out because we didn't seem like we had anything to talk about.. We were just joking around about our environment and what not but I guess she wanted to talk about something more meaningful. We went outside to smoke and there were two other girls outside and later on she was saying that they were staring at me.

 

She was like " you could have any girl you wanted in here tonight" And also joking around saying that she would hook me up with one of them and I was like nah im good.. So as a joke her and I went over and sat kind of close by those girls and she was saying out loud " So tell me about that 3 some you had" those other girls were like looking back and what not so I was just playing along. We were kissing and what not outside and she was like "at least we have this right?" meaning the kissing and what not. This chick is really awesome..

 

I feel soo comfortable around her like I don't have to try and impress her and do stupid things like most guys do. We connect very well besides the comment she said about conversation. I was pretty buzzed from drinking and usually when I am I just have fun and joke around so thats that. The thing is that her actions are complete opposite. We came back to my house and were kissing and what not.. She seems way into me. She is like all over me when we are kissing and says im soo hot and im such a stud and this and that. Well we had incredible sex after that and she is a champ in that department no doubt !!

 

The thing is though is that I don't know why she says odd things but then acts like shes crazy about me. I talked to my friend and he said those comments are her trying to judge my interest in her. For the most part I am playing it cool, not acting over excited about things and what not. .The most I have told her was that i think shes cute and cool as hell. I think she might be trying to feel me out maybe by seeing if I would take her bait.. does that make sense ? Could it be that she doesn't want to appear like shes too into me ? I can tell when it comes to being physical that she is but her words try to indicate that she could care either way

 

I always look at actions over words anyways.. Its really exciting because this chick is different in a way that she isn't like other girls I have dated and it actually turns me on.. She says I have an amazing personality and what not (not to sound cocky but I do have a great personality and im a fun guy to be around).. So what do you guys make of this ?? Any input is appreciated..

 

Thanks,

 

Peace

[alphamale]

I always look at actions over words anyways..

just keep on doing what you've been doing MIXWELL. Remember the equation: words=10% and actions=90%....

 

Keep her guessing, don't be predicatable, be a challenge and play hard to get, keep your spine and self-respect intact and soon enough she will be in love with you. heh eh heh eh heh

 

p.s. most women are taught to give mixed signals so get used to it!

 

alpha

[JS17]

She sounds confused. I'm making a guess but it sounds like she wasn't sure about a relationship in the beginning and that's why she mentioned being just friends. It seems like now that she's a bit more involved she might be testing the waters to see if she can take that statement back.

 

If you want a relationship with this girl, more than just sex, maybe you can talk to her about it, find out what she really wants. Maybe she's waiting for you to say that you want a relationship first.

[alphamale]

She sounds confused.

I don't think so JS17. If a woman is f***ing a dude there is no confusion on her part.

[JS17]

They can be confused about what KIND of relationship that they want but they are not confused that they do want some sort of relationship.

[alphamale]

They can be confused about what KIND of relationship that they want but they are not confused that they do want some sort of relationship.

let me remind you JS17 that the majority of females need some sort of emotional connection to have sex with a dude.....so this woman does have some sort of connection with MIXWELL. Most of the women I have dated have done and said same things that she is to MIXWELL at the beginning but as long as they were sleeping with me they eventually fell in love.

[JS17]

let me remind you JS17 that the majority of females need some sort of emotional connection to have sex with a dude.....so this woman does have some sort of connection with MIXWELL. Most of the women I have dated have done and said same things that she is to MIXWELL at the beginning but as long as they were sleeping with me they eventually fell in love.

 

No reminder needed but thanks Alpha I would agree that she has some sort of emotional connection but isn't the question whether she wants to be serious or not? To that I would say, she might be into a serious relationship but you'd have to talk to her to find out. If the question is, is chickadee into Mixwell then I would say most definitely.

[alphamale]

To that I would say, she might be into a serious relationship but you'd have to talk to her to find out.

I would recommend that MIXWELL not bring this up right now...it is too early and not the right time. He should keep it light and casual right now and play it cool and let her chase him. She should be bringing up the idea of a relationship if and when she is ready, not him.

[mixwell]

Well I have been emailing her back and forth today and I brought up about how she said having a conversation and things in common.. Well personally when I start drinking and get buzzed I tend to just joke around more and not really have serious conversations. Thats just me. It almost sounds as if she is disecting me to see if I am relationship material.

 

We talked about our ex's (i know not good but it was not big deal) and I was telling her how we had nothing in common. Well she mentioned that and said having things in common is a must and she isnt sure if we have anything in common. I then responded and told her that last night was the 1st time we actually had a chance to really talk. Other than that the other 2 times we hung we went to a club so we didn't really talk too much. For now I will just keep up how I am..

 

Maybe next time we hang out I will actually talk to her about something meaningful. Last night when we went outside I was just kind of making fun of people and observing my environment (which is what I usually do when I drink) We'll see how it goes. I think we might hang out tomorrow if we don't have any plans. Everytime I have hung out with her we were drinking.. haha.. anyways thats about it for now. Thanks for the input both of you. ALPHA you seem like you know what your talking about..

 

You must have read the same ebooks I have read.. David DeAngelo and I have also ready "the System" by Doc Love... Very interesting literature and very educational.. If I hadn't read these I would most likely act like a douche bag like most other guys do that don't understand.

 

Peace

[JS17]

well there ya have it mixwell, you can take your advice from a player or a nice girl. my recommendation is to take alpha's advice, you'll probably have a lot more fun.

[alphamale]

Thanks for the input both of you. ALPHA you seem like you know what your talking about..

 

You must have read the same ebooks I have read.. David DeAngelo and I have also ready "the System" by Doc Love...

No, actually I am 40 years old so my advice comes from some very hard-learned real world experiences.... books are nice but experience is better

[JS17]

What are those books?

 

Nevermind, I just looked it up. Very shallow. *sigh*

[mixwell]

I am just going to give it more time and not push the issue.. I think bring anything up about a relationship with her would make her run the other way. Other than the night we met we have only hung out 2 times.. So its way too early to tell. If I had to make a decision based on how she is now I wouldn't mind dating her..

 

She is one of the more laid back girls I have dated/hooked up with.. she actually commented on the email saying she just wanted to be friends.. She said she was a busy girl and didn't have time for a relationship so who knows.. Right now I am just enjoy what we have for the moment.. I mean the sex is awesome and she is a cool chick so I am just enjoying the ride. Okay I will try to post on here if we hang out tomorrow and see how goes it... im out..

 

peace

[mixwell]

What are those books?

 

Nevermind, I just looked it up. Very shallow. *sigh*

 

 

Why are they shallow ? I tend to notice that the information in those books are true in most aspects. By using some of the information in this book and applying them with this girl for example I have raised her interest level. She even told me. For example.

 

When she said she wanted to be friends and asked if I still wanted to go to the club with her that day i said yeah ill go and said maybe you can find a chick for me.. So i just played it off and made a joke about it.. Before I might have said no or let her know that it bugged me.

 

She actually complimented me on the way I responded to that and found it attractive. And by acting casual instead of persuing her it seems like it has gotten her more into me as well. thats just what I have noticed personally..

[alphamale]

Why are they shallow ? I tend to notice that the information in those books are true in most aspects.

I agree MIXWELL. When women read Cosmo mag or some other book on how to meet, get and hook men they never, ever say that is "shallow". But when a man reads a book on how to meet, get and hook women it is deemed "shallow".

 

Talk about double standards

[JS17]

I'm not saying it doesn't work. If your purpose is to "get" girls then by all means use them.

[JS17]

I agree MIXWELL. When women read Cosmo mag or some other book on how to meet, get and hook men they never, ever say that is "shallow". But when a man reads a book on how to meet, get and hook women it is deemed "shallow".

 

Talk about double standards

 

I wouldn't know, I don't read Cosmo or other women's magazines. But I'm a sucker and I still believe that just being yourself is the way to go. Then again, I've never gone looking for just casual sex.

[alphamale]

But I'm a sucker and I still believe that just being yourself is the way to go.

Well JS17, if youre a man and you are Tom Cruise then being yourself is just fine and will get you a lot of women. Unfortunately, most men are not Tom Cruise so we need a bit of help.

[JS17]

Tom Cruise scares the bejesus out of me, I wouldn't want anyone to be him

 

I only commented on this thread because it seemed like Mixwell actually liked this girl. I didn't think he was just playing her. Again, dumb naieve JS rears her head Guess you guys really are after only one thing *shrug*

[whichwayisup]

Better Tom Cruise than Mel Gibson!

[RecordProducer]

Mixwell, it's not good that she said that. You're obviously sexually compatible, but not intellectually, in her eyes at least. The fact that she said that also means that she is emotionally not so into you either; otherwise she wouldn't have said that. Women don't say stuff like that to seem "not so interested in the guy."

 

If she said that, it means she meant it. It's not about silence as much what you talk about when you talk and what you say to her. Maybe she prefers to talk about books, human nature, life, world disasters, the political scene, etc. while you talk about more down-to-earth topics. I don't want to count all the "maybes" that cross my mind because I don't want to hurt you, but it's definitely not a good sign.

[alphamale]

If she said that, it means she meant it.

When it comes to romantic relations with men very few women mean what they say....their actions are what reveal their true intentions.

[crazy_grl]

Sounds like she's just into you for sex. Believe it or not, some women can have sex without feeling emotional attachment. She repeatedly says she just wants to be friends and she's cool and laid back with you... She's probably not into you for a relationship.

 

Doesn't mean that can't change. But don't go getting all sappy on her. Shockingly, I agree with alpha that you should let this girl be the one to bring up relationship talk. In the mean time, enjoy what you've got and don't get yourself too attached, because she could end up breaking your heart.

[alphamale]

Shockingly, I agree with alpha

[mixwell]

 

I only commented on this thread because it seemed like Mixwell actually liked this girl. I didn't think he was just playing her. Again, dumb naieve JS rears her head Guess you guys really are after only one thing *shrug*

 

Woah Woah !! Where on any of my posts do you get the feeling that all I want is sex ? Thats the thing.. I do like this girl.. If I just wanted sex from her then I wouldn't be asking for advice on here.. The sex is the thing that is no problem for us. Thats why I am confused about her when she makes comments about hooking me up with other girls but then is all over me physically.

 

As weird as it sounds I hope this is more than just sex because she is an awesome girl so far and I wouldn't mind if things went a little further in due time. I think she might be saying the comments about the girls because she might not want to scare me away by actually saying she interested in me.

 

She doesn't know where I stand as far as relationships. So maybe she thinks if she told me she liked me and wanted to date me would push me away but I'm open minded about it and I think I am ready to start dating again.

 

Peace