Magicmontazzle Posted September 29, 2018 Posted September 29, 2018 Just some advice please. I am new to online dating so not really sure what to make of this situation. Met a guy few weeks ago on Tinder - been on two datss. Both went well with us being last person in bar. Had a kiss but not intimate. He arranged a third date for this Saturday. On Thursday he told me he was ill so wanted to reschedule. He was still at work though. Date rearranged for Wednesday. He has been texting every day. Just wanted to see if anyone thinks this sounds a wee bit suspicious? Giving him the benefit of the doubt for now. Opinions please! X
Zahara Posted September 29, 2018 Posted September 29, 2018 (edited) Chances are he’s truly ill, or has other plans or is taking another woman on a Saturday date. The latter being it’s Tinder so he’s likely dating others. Sometimes you can get bumped. Likely scenarios. Who knows what the truth is — he may truly be ill even though he was at work and doesn’t feel the need to share any more information with you. It doesn’t matter though. You’ve only been on two dates. Still getting to know him while you’re out there living your life and meeting other men. Don’t take it so seriously and start creating paranoia in your head over a guy you met twice. Just let it take its course. Edited September 29, 2018 by Zahara
smackie9 Posted September 29, 2018 Posted September 29, 2018 There is a wicked cold going around my office right now too. It's that time of year when kids are back in school, so the parents are bringing those flu germs into work with them to share with everyone else. To boot he is being consistent with his communication, and rescheduled the date. I see nothing wrong at all. 1
hippychick3 Posted September 29, 2018 Posted September 29, 2018 Just some advice please. I am new to online dating so not really sure what to make of this situation. Met a guy few weeks ago on Tinder - been on two datss. Both went well with us being last person in bar. Had a kiss but not intimate. He arranged a third date for this Saturday. On Thursday he told me he was ill so wanted to reschedule. He was still at work though. Date rearranged for Wednesday. He has been texting every day. Just wanted to see if anyone thinks this sounds a wee bit suspicious? Giving him the benefit of the doubt for now. Opinions please! X 6 days seems like a long time to plan to be recovered from his "illness." Considering he was at work still and not in a hospital bed, I'd be suspicious that he didn't tentatively reschedule for sometime this weekend. My guess is that he has another date Saturday night.
Mardelis Posted September 29, 2018 Posted September 29, 2018 It's only a 3rd date. He doesn't have that much invested in you. Even if he's BSing you, you gotta take it from where it comes. He might be checking out other girls, might be unsure how much further he wants to take it with you, etc. I suggest you not spend so much time and effort thinking about him and what he's doing and why he's doing it. Keep putting yourself out there and if you hear from him then fine, and if not well that's ok too because you're not sitting around waiting for him. Potential dating partners pick right up on desperation and neediness which is a real put off, those who act somewhat aloof and disinterested tend to be the most attractive, it's just how it works. 2
guest569 Posted September 29, 2018 Posted September 29, 2018 I would take his word for it. given its a third date and doesn't want his sickness to ruin things. Some workplace cultures guilt people into working while sick so they don't let the employer or colleagues down.
stillafool Posted September 29, 2018 Posted September 29, 2018 It's only a 3rd date. He doesn't have that much invested in you. Even if he's BSing you, you gotta take it from where it comes. He might be checking out other girls, might be unsure how much further he wants to take it with you, etc. I suggest you not spend so much time and effort thinking about him and what he's doing and why he's doing it. Keep putting yourself out there and if you hear from him then fine, and if not well that's ok too because you're not sitting around waiting for him. Potential dating partners pick right up on desperation and neediness which is a real put off, those who act somewhat aloof and disinterested tend to be the most attractive, it's just how it works. Plus you're on Tinder, a hook up site. Be thankful you had 3 good dates with him. If he doesn't get back to you just next him.
preraph Posted September 29, 2018 Posted September 29, 2018 If you met him on Tinder, he likely is dating other women. Too soon to demand otherwise. He could be ill and still go to work but need to rest when he gets home. All you can do is wish him well and see if he cancels on you again and it becomes a pattern.
Author Magicmontazzle Posted October 1, 2018 Author Posted October 1, 2018 Thanks guys. He texted very early Sunday morning - either his Saturday night date went very badly or he is feeling right as rain again! Play in by ere.
d0nnivain Posted October 1, 2018 Posted October 1, 2018 I'd give him the benefit of the doubt but my guard would be up.
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