Funny things you realize when you are finally set free for good

[Brokenheartedman12]

Hey all and I hope all is well, I’ve been here for advice a few times lol. Things are great I’m finally free of sadness and whatever else lol. Funny things I realized. 1) I was in a very toxic relationship I was always the blame and I believed I was the bad guy. 2) she would give me bs for being 21 in school college still meanwhile some guys we knew were 22 and graduated with jobs that HAD NOTHING to do with what they went to school with, well now she’s with a 25 year old in college..... wait what?! Not bashing the guy or anything but they are in the same grade level im just pointing out she gave me a hard time for graduating at 22 and she goes for a guy still in school ? 3) she always cried when our mutuals would exclude us than get mad at me for trying to be the bigger man and include them in our friend outings( I didn’t always ask her first but why cry about it and than get mad for inviting the people that “mean so much to you” * 4) I still see her at work and don’t even bother saying hi or anything anymore we aren’t on bad terms and I ended all the toxic nonsense and made aminz with her, but I’m at the point where I have nothing left to say to her and I want to keep the toxic and petty hs bs in the past! (I was losing hair dating this girl!) 5) there’s way better girls out there and I finally see that!!! Got an interview with my real career in a few weeks!!! Life’s pretty good rn

[Metroknox]

Congrats man!

 

I can't wait to reach that stage. I just hit a little over 3 months post break up, and I am just now starting to feel like myself again. I still think about her everyday, but don't really feel depressed anymore.

 

Hopefully she won't come back once you're fully healed, as that seems to be the pattern lol.

[preraph]

Yay, you've finally reached the end goal of no longer giving a crap what she's doing and not doing things a certain way in case she's watching. Onward and upward!

[Brokenheartedman12]

Congrats man!

 

I can't wait to reach that stage. I just hit a little over 3 months post break up, and I am just now starting to feel like myself again. I still think about her everyday, but don't really feel depressed anymore.

 

Hopefully she won't come back once you're fully healed, as that seems to be the pattern lol.

 

You’ll get there just keep doing things you like, I’m sure she will she never really left cause I still see her but I look at her kinda in a grossed out way cause even if she did come back I don’t want something I already had and than jumped to another guy after. Just like my cars once I sell them I don’t want them back!

[Brokenheartedman12]

Yay, you've finally reached the end goal of no longer giving a crap what she's doing and not doing things a certain way in case she's watching. Onward and upward!

 

Feels amazing !!

[Chassit]

Honestly, I am 2 months in and I still despise her.

 

Have any advice?

[an0nym0us123]

4 months past for me and getting easier. Another thing you realise is what you really had. They always show their true colours after the breakup!

[biswadeepmondal]

Hey all and I hope all is well, I’ve been here for advice a few times lol. Things are great I’m finally free of sadness and whatever else lol. Funny things I realized. 1) I was in a very toxic relationship I was always the blame and I believed I was the bad guy. 2) she would give me bs for being 21 in school college still meanwhile some guys we knew were 22 and graduated with jobs that HAD NOTHING to do with what they went to school with, well now she’s with a 25 year old in college..... wait what?! Not bashing the guy or anything but they are in the same grade level im just pointing out she gave me a hard time for graduating at 22 and she goes for a guy still in school ? 3) she always cried when our mutuals would exclude us than get mad at me for trying to be the bigger man and include them in our friend outings( I didn’t always ask her first but why cry about it and than get mad for inviting the people that “mean so much to you” * 4) I still see her at work and don’t even bother saying hi or anything anymore we aren’t on bad terms and I ended all the toxic nonsense and made aminz with her, but I’m at the point where I have nothing left to say to her and I want to keep the toxic and petty hs bs in the past! (I was losing hair dating this girl!) 5) there’s way better girls out there and I finally see that!!! Got an interview with my real career in a few weeks!!! Life’s pretty good rn

5 months down here brother and I can only say it gets better with time, I'm of same age as you are and can relate to how **** it feels to be treated like that, dont worry good days lies ahead and don't entertain her if she returns. She is most probably with her rebound. Just workout and be chilled out.

[biswadeepmondal]

Congrats man!

 

I can't wait to reach that stage. I just hit a little over 3 months post break up, and I am just now starting to feel like myself again. I still think about her everyday, but don't really feel depressed anymore.

 

Hopefully she won't come back once you're fully healed, as that seems to be the pattern lol.

try to cut off all contact, remove all pics and things associated with her or memories. Delete her number(which is no doubt very very tough) and gradually reduce all interaction to zero. Dont worry soon it shall be 6 months and you almost start forgetting her by then.

[Brokenheartedman12]

5 months down here brother and I can only say it gets better with time, I'm of same age as you are and can relate to how **** it feels to be treated like that, dont worry good days lies ahead and don't entertain her if she returns. She is most probably with her rebound. Just workout and be chilled out.

 

She returned in January and asked me to take her out and sent pics of us while we were together I declined all of it. I was done with it but I just didn’t need to constantly hear she was still making videos bashing me a year later. Than she’d tell me how she accidently call her new bf by my name it was annoying. Soooooooo glad I’m over it! I need a mature girl to grow with not hs petty stuff

[biswadeepmondal]

She returned in January and asked me to take her out and sent pics of us while we were together I declined all of it. I was done with it but I just didn’t need to constantly hear she was still making videos bashing me a year later. Than she’d tell me how she accidently call her new bf by my name it was annoying. Soooooooo glad I’m over it! I need a mature girl to grow with not hs petty stuff

hahahahahahah calling her new bf by your name xD xD.

true facts -

1. yes you are correct she is very immature, for her grass is always greener on the other side, leave her like that, people like her seldom learn or even if she does it will take her while. Infact now you can be sure it's her loss that she broke up, its good for your ego actually and will give you boost.

2. She is still in her fantasy world, may be she is troubled and lonely from inside that's why she is doing all these stuff but its not your headache, you deserve a mature woman who can keep her **** and not go round and round.

3. Just try to figure out what her intentions are -

A) is it her asking to click pic to make her current bf jealous?

B) Or is it genuine liking for you?

C) Or she is try to have you under her control to make you first comfortable and

then bash you telling how poor your career choices are?

4. One thing i couldn't understand is it happened in January but why are you still thinking of her now? Its unhealthy on your part mate, and this is still holding you back in the toxicity you want to leave. She is draining you man and don't let her to do unless and until you genuinely feel that she is changing for good( because we all make mistakes and learn) and becoming more responsible and mature.