19 now and never had a boyfriend ??

[Stephanielady]

Sometimes I think its normal and sometimes I think its strange for someone my age in THESE days to have been single for this long???

 

How old were you when you had your first sweetheart ???

[Garcon1986]

I am a late bloomer and first dated at the ripe old age of 25. I am still learning the ropes.

 

If you are really motivated, maybe workout what kind of guys you like, and then try to meet a few of them? It's not a dark mark on you as a bad person if you haven't dated yet.

[Lotsgoingon]

Literally this is not something to worry about.

 

I had my first real relationship at 19 ... and let me tell you ... looking back, I would have happily delayed ... because I was not very mature ... and that relationship caused a lot of pain ...

 

I have friends who dated first in their 20s ... This really does not matter.

 

What matters is that you start living a rich life, pursuing your interests, learning, growing, meeting people ... giving yourself a chance to meet potential date partners ... do that ... and let go and relax and it'll happen.

[guest569]

It's not strange at all!

 

Same as Garçon, I was 25 when I found my love. Its the sort of thing you can't really force. When you're ready, you're ready. For me I was probably too shy and insecure in my early 20s. By my mid 20s it was a mission to just get out there and see what all the fuss was about..

 

What are you feelings towards dating currently?

[Stephanielady]

I am a late bloomer and first dated at the ripe old age of 25. I am still learning the ropes.

 

If you are really motivated, maybe workout what kind of guys you like, and then try to meet a few of them? It's not a dark mark on you as a bad person if you haven't dated yet.

Oh ok cool. Thank you

[Stephanielady]

Literally this is not something to worry about.

 

I had my first real relationship at 19 ... and let me tell you ... looking back, I would have happily delayed ... because I was not very mature ... and that relationship caused a lot of pain ...

 

I have friends who dated first in their 20s ... This really does not matter.

 

What matters is that you start living a rich life, pursuing your interests, learning, growing, meeting people ... giving yourself a chance to meet potential date partners ... do that ... and let go and relax and it'll happen.

Yeah ok. Maybe ill leave TV and sociak media alone for a while. Enjoy being a teen

[Garcon1986]

There have been actual studies done on peeps. If you continuously compare yourself to other people, you will always find a reason to sulk about yourself. It is a black hole of despair, and catching up with the Joneses - you will never "catch up" in your mind. If you try really hard to build yourself and love yourself genuinely, excellent men will find you.

[Chilli]

Yeah , you got nothin to worry about. l think it's often even healthier when people start a bit later and they often def' seem to be more together than most in the end.

 

Just enjoy life , the rest will follow soon enough.

[smackie9]

There is no "this day and age". I'm 54 and I started dating boys when I was 13/14, had my first everything at 15. It all depends on the individual. I know plenty of people who didn't have their first relationship until their mid to late twenties. So you shouldn't feel you have been left behind. You go at your own pace.

[Lotsgoingon]

And here's a point that comes out a lot on this board.

 

The more you can live a rich life as a single person, the happier you'll be. Period.

 

And ... a side effect is that you will be more attractive to other people and you'll meet a lot of potential dating people.

 

And another side effect is that you'll be less needy and clingy and insecure when you do start dating ... and that is so key ... because one reason people get stuck in bad relationships is that they don't realize they can be unhappy without a relationship ... and so they put up with all kinds of bad treatment.

 

So developing your single life actually not only improves your chances of meeting someone ... better, it improves the chances that you'll get into a high-quality relationship.

 

There are a lot of cultural messages and fantasies out there that say you need a partner to be happy. So when you work on yourself don't be surprised if those messages pop up ... but those messages aren't true. Just politely ignore them and keep living. And yes, there are better things to do than social media.