MilosUplift Posted September 28, 2018 Posted September 28, 2018 I am new to this forum, and I am here because i am very close doing something very very stupid... 4 Years ago I met my ex-girlfriend in a night club and our romance exploded, I was a bouncer there and didn't know what will the future bring for me, she is 5 years older then me. But she took me even if I was a bouncer because I have big ambitions and I was 21 at that time... We were having a blast in our relationship, we were best friends! We loved each other so much! Then I left my job and become an entrepreneur, I was selling sneakers online in my country. On of the first that started doing that! Started earning a lot of money, and then things become very lose... I did not appriciate anymore things that we used to do, walks, cuddling, even having sex. I started spending a lot of money and then one day my business got basically deleted from Internet.
Author MilosUplift Posted September 28, 2018 Author Posted September 28, 2018 I am new to this forum, and I am here because i am very close doing something very very stupid... 4 Years ago I met my ex-girlfriend in a night club and our romance exploded, I was a bouncer there and didn't know what will the future bring for me, she is 5 years older then me. But she took me even if I was a bouncer because I have big ambitions and I was 21 at that time... We were having a blast in our relationship, we were best friends! We loved each other so much! Then I left my job and become an entrepreneur, I was selling sneakers online in my country. On of the first that started doing that! Started earning a lot of money, and then things become very lose... I did not appriciate anymore things that we used to do, walks, cuddling, even having sex. I started spending a lot of money and then one day my business got basically deleted from Internet. In the meanwhile i met another women that lived and worked were close when me and my gf were living... She was working in a bar which regulary visited and I feel in love with that women from the moment I seen her... To speed up... I left my girlfriend and I am now with bartender girl.... she loves me sooo much, and will do anything for me... But I can't stop thinking of my ex... In my town I am one of the so called hot studs (not saying with ego) But like a lot of girls want me here in my city...I can point finger and have it... Everybody told me what I was doing with my ex girlfriend with my looks, but i loved her, and the main reason I left her because i had a mental breakdown when my income got from 8000 euros to 0... Just wanted to be alone and the bartender girl came up and help me a lot! Then i left her and got back with my ex, and then i again got with the bartender girl... I love them so much! But in this situation only my ex can fullfil me because she is a business women, and i am tending to be a great businessman... So I left my ex girlfriend 3 times to be with the bartender girl... Bartender girl took care of me very well, she did everything... while my ex girlfriend was a bit messy... didn't have that womenizing thing in her.... but i love her very much... and love the bartender too... but I can see my self in the future only with my ex... Yesterday I found out that she is dating some guy and that they kissed, I wanted to die! I know we are ment for each other,,, I want to to regain our best friendship again and love! What should I do!??!?! Please people
Zahara Posted September 28, 2018 Posted September 28, 2018 Ok, you want to die. The only reason you want your ex-girlfriend is because she's with another man. You're just being territorial and it's bruising your huge ego. It has nothing to do with love. You left your ex 3 times -- it's absolutely ludicrous to declare you love someone very much and want to be with them when you've dumped them several times. You need to get your head screwed on right. You should let them both go and allow them to be with a men that understand the meaning of commitment and the value of love. 1
Orokotikki Posted September 28, 2018 Posted September 28, 2018 Zahara is right, it sounds like you are only in love with yourself, or with romance. You need learn self control and integrity, to move beyond being controlled by the emotion of love, and learning to handle the more fulfilling decision to love. 1
Author MilosUplift Posted September 29, 2018 Author Posted September 29, 2018 Ok, you want to die. The only reason you want your ex-girlfriend is because she's with another man. You're just being territorial and it's bruising your huge ego. It has nothing to do with love. You left your ex 3 times -- it's absolutely ludicrous to declare you love someone very much and want to be with them when you've dumped them several times. You need to get your head screwed on right. You should let them both go and allow them to be with a men that understand the meaning of commitment and the value of love. Everything fell apart when i my income got to 0, when i couldn't provide anymore... Yes my ego is big....but somehow deep down inside I think that we are meant for each other... our carriers and paths collide.... I always left here because i found sympathy with the other women... and the third time i broke up it was because my other girl threaten me that she will expose me and send texts to my ex about everything.... I can not sleep... its 4 AM while i'm writing this.... simply just want to lay next to her, and be best friends again... I would even propose.... Am I in a state of insanity? You know when you have the feeling in you that she is the right one.... I just don't want to live in regret if I let her go...
Zahara Posted September 29, 2018 Posted September 29, 2018 (edited) Your declarations are frivolous. You only feel this way because she’s with another man and your ego can’t take the fact that she’s likely not going to be there to cater to you anymore. All attention should be on you. If she was still sitting at home twiddling her thumbs and playing your game, you’d be content bouncing back and forth. A man who loves a woman “very “much” doesn’t treat her like a disposable object. The justification that you leave a woman you love very much because you feel sorry for another woman is weak. It doesn’t fly. Your “love” is selfish, unhealthy and immature. Best that you step away from both these women and work on yourself. Learn from this and figure out what it is you really want. I don’t think you know what a committed and loving relationship entails. Edited September 29, 2018 by Zahara
sdraw108 Posted September 30, 2018 Posted September 30, 2018 If you really "love" your ex-girlfriend then you should stay as far away from her as you possibly can. When you love someone, you should want what is best for them. It should be obvious even to you that all you will bring your ex is hurt and pain.
Author MilosUplift Posted September 30, 2018 Author Posted September 30, 2018 Your declarations are frivolous. You only feel this way because she’s with another man and your ego can’t take the fact that she’s likely not going to be there to cater to you anymore. All attention should be on you. If she was still sitting at home twiddling her thumbs and playing your game, you’d be content bouncing back and forth. A man who loves a woman “very “much” doesn’t treat her like a disposable object. The justification that you leave a woman you love very much because you feel sorry for another woman is weak. It doesn’t fly. Your “love” is selfish, unhealthy and immature. Best that you step away from both these women and work on yourself. Learn from this and figure out what it is you really want. I don’t think you know what a committed and loving relationship entails. I agree, i made a huge mistake... I havent been true to myself.... we belong to each other, we have so much thing in common... please is there a way to get her back? She still reply to me, and i can see that she has feelings in those texts but then again she is deneing them in each of them. Please help me with a solution..
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