bsimmer3000 Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 sorry its long but this is as short as i can make it. Ok heres my problem i meet a girl in mexico and she was from virginia usa and we hit it of really well and she came to england to visit me for 10 days as and we feel for each other in a big way. it felt like love @ first sight for both of us and we was so crazy about each other. well the day came when she had to go home and we were both so upset and she said would i come to her's for 3 months and i said i sure would. i was ready to give up everything for her and i did i sold my car i sold all my belongings and i also bought my tickets. i said to her again and again are you 100% sure that this is what you want. she used to send me amazing e-mails everyday saying how much she loved me and how we were ment to be together and that she feels as if i was the man for her. The last e-mail i had from her was about a week after she started uni and i knew it was a busy time for her and that i had known that it was going to be hard to keep in contact like we were before. well a week passed and i had 0 contact with her and was really worried about her i called and called and text and e-mailed but got no reply. well i called her mum and told her what was up and she said that from what she knows tia couldnt have ever been so happy about me coming so i told her mum to get her to call me. well that night i was on the net and tia signed on. she seemed distant and no where near as happy as she had been every other time i had spoken to her. i said is everything ok and she was yeah its fine. but i could she she was crying. i said tell me whats up and she said that she didnt think she wanted me to come anymore. well this was a blow and i nearly fainted. i was like ok whats the problem. she said that she wasnt strong enough to cope with uni,work and a relationship and that be being so far away wernt helping. well i said ok i will get the first flight to yours in the morning to sort this out and she said no that aint gonna help. she said she stlll loves me and misses but she was unsure why she was feeling like this. she was finding it hard to finish it and i loved her so much that i said ok lets end this and stay friends my heart was broken but as long as she was happy then i would be happy(well sort off) problem is now she talks to me like she has never even had any type of feeling for me and it feels as if i dont even know her. i really love this girl and i have no idea how she feels about me. does she love me like before but just knows that whilst she is @ uni it just aint gonna work or maybe she meet someone else i just have no idea how to think or feel she never gives me proper answers to questions. any body got any ideas on what i should do. any ideas are better than no ideas. i still have ticket for novmber 1st and i would so want to sort this out and @ least be able to visit her if she was single and keep being good friends until she may one day find time for me. basilcey i dont want to lose her. i lover her so much and i need to know how she feels about me? Thanx People Baz
AmberAriesMom Posted September 9, 2005 Posted September 9, 2005 You sold everything? To go hang out with her for 3 months? Don't you think that was a bit drastic? No doubt you scared the crap out of her! Tell her you're sorry you freaked her out and try to be friends. Don't leave home to do it!
confused1134 Posted September 11, 2005 Posted September 11, 2005 I think the best advice is.....Dont trust a womans feelings early on. The ones who fall into it quickly, fall out of it even quicker..I can relate. I had a woman telling me she loves me, the emails, the text messages, and on and on.. I was the greatest this, the greatest that...And she is 35 yrs old! All within one month...I was laid back initially, but soon, I also felt she was the one for me. Needless to say, after about 2 months, she told me she is scared, feels smothered, loves me to death, misses me, and is sorry..Not sure if she is ready for a relationship...Hearing sorry really pissed me off. That is said when bumping into someone, not when you completely get someone to open up to you, fall in love with you, and then just say "sorry, I shouldnt have said those things, sorry if i hurt you"
Outcast Posted September 11, 2005 Posted September 11, 2005 It's not just women - anybody who falls too fast is suspect IMHO. Or, rather, people who fall too fast and don't understand that the early feelings of 'love' may not be real are suspect.
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