Lotsgoingon Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 I know plenty of women, including high-powered, beautiful, financially well-off women in their 20s, who dated and married "average-looking" guys. Usually the guys were really smart and or really interesting. Reasonably fit. The behavior you claim is against evolution happens all the time in my view. All the time. It's not even unusual. Just go out on a Friday night somewhere ... heck read the wedding columns of people in their 20s. I worry about all these reference to evolution to explain modern life. Clearly humans evolved to change, to think ... to drive cars ... fly planes ... perform major engineering feats ... create algorithms ... And most obviously, we have evolved to love the internet, love whipping out small devices from our pockets and typing with our thumbs ... to watch Netflix ... and to shop on Amazon.
Gretchen12 Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 I think all of the dating forum and the breakup forum can be distilled down to this one fact: We (humans) don't choose what we're attracted to, we can't even explain it, and what attracts us is not always good for us. If not for this inconvenient little fact, there'd be very few threads on here. 2
Versacehottie Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 I've always seen it this way. And I really have seen it. Aftermath of a breakup has nothing to do with it. Ok, if you think it has nothing to do with your breakup specifically. It is something i've noticed a bit in your thread about the guy you broke up. Your belief system does affect the results and interactions you have. Idk, it's seems silly to "want" to be right about this, when the presumption and beliefs behind your thought process determine that you will remain frustrated and alone. You can be "right" while as evidence in front of you are plenty of people who have not had the same experience as you say is how things are. It would seem wise to at some point consider that the belief system itself and how it guides you through your own life is a big part if not THE reason you are achieving or failing to achieve the results you are getting. i.e. you believe a person is not to be trusted or will not do as you like so you try to control them and you will get a person who cannot be trusted and makes you do a lot of the leg work and resents you for trying to control them. Just saying. 2
Versacehottie Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 Too exhausting. I have to post this, I love it too much. It's really true. People are not that admirable. I don't know how people who live in this world, have dated and who've read as much relationship b.s on these forums can doubt anything about anyone. again, do you really believe that? This is one big reason you are having problems then. The majority of people want to to date people who uplift and that they find inspiring and at points mostly positive. Sure there ARE people who like to meet their negative match and go one like that but it's a much smaller percentage of people, probably requires a large metropolitan area to find them and wears thin pretty fast. You are not playing the best odds going with this strategy. Plus it can't be that fun dating someone with this outlook. 1
Larry56 Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 I think all of the dating forum and the breakup forum can be distilled down to this one fact: We (humans) don't choose what we're attracted to, we can't even explain it, and what attracts us is not always good for us. If not for this inconvenient little fact, there'd be very few threads on here. Wrong. It is explainable. In fact many men and women have researched this concept - the ones who don't understand it are the ones with the least interest in psychology. 1
MaleIntuition Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 Wrong. It is explainable. In fact many men and women have researched this concept - the ones who don't understand it are the ones with the least interest in psychology. No, they have not. A blog post is not research. Neither is a news article.
shydad Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 People are not that admirable. I admire most of the people I know. It's really hard to find people who are genuinely not nice. I'd conservatively guess 95% or more of the population is made up of people who are pretty cool. 4
guest569 Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 I don't think I know any men with this mindset. People like what they like, and commit to the people they want to commit to. If you think they are 'trash' that's charming, but it's also none of your business. 2
elaine567 Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 (edited) I am not sure why few see Fair comments as being true as this forum is full of exactly what she describes... Edited September 27, 2018 by elaine567 1
kendahke Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 Too exhausting. I have to post this, I love it too much. It's really true. People are not that admirable. I don't know how people who live in this world, have dated and who've read as much relationship b.s on these forums can doubt anything about anyone. The guy in this video says something about why blaming others all the time is destructive.
carhill Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 When men commit to trash - the sex is good enough to overlook the rest. Then, much later after children are done, they may not care about sex but like their lifestyle enough to stay married and play the game to do so. Affairs, alcoholism, drug use, mental illness, just plain mean, you name it. The guys learn to tune it out. That's a male thing. That same lifestyle/image reality stops the woman unless she's sufficiently socially powerful to hook up a BBD with her sexual allure. With billions of guys on the planet, there's an opportunity around every corner. And best of all, it's completely legal
smackie9 Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 Sexiness appeals to men....it is what it is. I wouldn't call these women trashy....I think that is in the eye of the beholder. 4
Author Fair Posted September 27, 2018 Author Posted September 27, 2018 Sexiness appeals to men....it is what it is. I wouldn't call these women trashy....I think that is in the eye of the beholder. It boils down to poor character. The women they chase are never faithful, truthful or discerning or sometimes even particularly attractive. A lot of women who sleep with everything are downright ugly. They're not Hollywood's definition of sexy at all. But Men can't handle a woman who has too much going for her so this is the kind they run after. 1
stillafool Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 It boils down to poor character. The women they chase are never faithful, truthful or discerning or sometimes even particularly attractive. A lot of women who sleep with everything are downright ugly. They're not Hollywood's definition of sexy at all. But Men can't handle a woman who has too much going for her so this is the kind they run after. Why would anyone need a person who is Hollywood's definition of sexy rather than their own version of what is sexy. These women may not seem sexy to you but are obviously sexy to these guys because she is what they want. How do you know these women sleep with everything? Looks are subjective. Men will go after women who, in your definition, has a lot going for her, if he's attracted to her. I doubt most men want a woman they have to "handle" anyway. To be honest you sound very bitter. 3
alphamale Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 the more a woman has to offer the harder it is for her to find a suitable man
Author Fair Posted September 27, 2018 Author Posted September 27, 2018 the more a woman has to offer the harder it is for her to find a suitable man My point exactly. Is it her fault?
MaleIntuition Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 It boils down to poor character. The women they chase are never faithful, truthful or discerning or sometimes even particularly attractive. A lot of women who sleep with everything are downright ugly. They're not Hollywood's definition of sexy at all. But Men can't handle a woman who has too much going for her so this is the kind they run after. Yes, all men are the same. And they want the same. But yeah, no one likes boring and bitter. 2
Author Fair Posted September 27, 2018 Author Posted September 27, 2018 . To be honest you sound very bitter. Loveshack is a place to talk and vent. Very few threads here don't sound bitter... but a few written words don't sum somebody up entirely.
Author Fair Posted September 27, 2018 Author Posted September 27, 2018 Yes, all men are the same. And they want the same. But yeah, no one likes boring and bitter. I can only say I must have struck a truth with this post judging by the heated male reactions. It's true men can't handle a woman who has anything over on him. I mean, I once had a boyfriend who was threatened by the fact that I could draw...
Woggle Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 Maybe these trashy women don't paint the entire male gender with the same brush. Women who are anti male are a big turnoff. 4
kendahke Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 They're not Hollywood's definition of sexy at all. They don't have to be. No one is required to be this. But Men can't handle a woman who has too much going for her so this is the kind they run after. Another blanket statement that has no basis in fact and no data to support it. Hurt feelings or being bitter don't count as fact. 2
kendahke Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 a few written words don't sum somebody up entirely. No, but the same theme posted over and over and over does 2
MaleIntuition Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 I can only say I must have struck a truth with this post judging by the heated male reactions. It's true men can't handle a woman who has anything over on him. I mean, I once had a boyfriend who was threatened by the fact that I could draw... The truth is that no one likes boring - seeing as boring is subjective that one should be pretty self explanatory. You are blinded by your own biases and are clearly not interested in introspection. Did you miss the fact that women are also telling you that you are wrong? This attitude doesn’t help you. If you want to be more successful in dating, work on self improvement instead of blaming everyone else. 4
smackie9 Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 Ya I know the type..getting all jelly. One time I went to bar with my husband to meet up with a group. I was wearing a cute (not revealing) sweater, jeans and boots. I looked hot from what my husband said and ya the guys were checking me out...I over heard those girls from the group, saying I was a $%^t. Not the first time I have been accused of that when I am quite the opposite. It's insulting and not fair to pass that kind of judgment without having any proof to back that up. I was with my husband for f&^% sakes. 1
guest569 Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 I am not sure why few see Fair comments as being true as this forum is full of exactly what she describes... That women who sleep with a range of men are trash? That all men in the world only commit to trashy women? That all women in committed relationships are trash and looking to cheat? The trashy women look trashy, men don't care about looks. All the single women are Marilyn Munroe lookalikes but would be nagging, boring wives and theyre somehow good qualities in a relationship and men don't know what they're missing by passing up on the boring nags. And also, wah. Insert evidence here. 2
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