Shyguy94 Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 Hello everyone, So this goes back over a year or so but it’s something I occasionally think about, how I may have missed a very obvious signal from a girl while we were dating. So I met this girl at my old job, it was my last day before getting laid off so I figured I’d take my chance and ask out this girl who was working a semester for us as a student, so there wouldn’t be any awkward encounters in the halls if she rejected me. Thankfully she says yes, we exchange numbers and arrange to meet up the next day. Turns out she went to school out of town and was working here on a placement for another month roughly. Knowing this we didn’t really want to get in a serious relationship knowing that it would end in a month, but we still went out pretty frequently as friends. One day we went to a movie. For the first little while she was being cuddly and was resting her head on my shoulder. After a while she eventually put one of her legs basically right in my lap as if to have me rub her leg, so I put my hand on the inside of her knee/thigh and started gently stroking. Soon after that she sat back in her chair a bit to the point her legs were basically wide open. Now this is where my question comes, was she trying to signal me that she was ready to go? Did she want me to keep going up her leg and play with her a little? Looking back at it I’m convinced this was the case and I let one slip by but what do you think?
Mardelis Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 I think it couldn't have been any clearer if she had a megaphone between her legs and said "Come ON IN!"
Author Shyguy94 Posted September 26, 2018 Author Posted September 26, 2018 I think it couldn't have been any clearer if she had a megaphone between her legs and said "Come ON IN!" Thanks lol. I was young, naive and definitely pretty shy so at the time it felt like just cuddling, but after really thinking about it I realized what a dope I am, thanks for the confirmation lol. Live and learn.
kendahke Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 Even if it did seem like a "megaphone" to grab the kitty, you did best by erring on the side of caution and not taking it there.
Lotsgoingon Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 Let's back up here ... Just because a woman signals that she wants physical touch does NOT mean you should respond. (And of course many men misinterpret signals.) You might not have been ready to touch her and touch her in a public place. That's fine ... and that's important information and that is not cowardly. You don't want to touch someone else unless YOU are really into it. You have to feel comfortable. I would have gotten nervous at her "suggestion" ... because I have found that if a woman is that aroused that quickly on a first date (during a movie no-less--not at the end of the night) then something's up ... She's either insecure or really needy or troubled ... or horny in a way that doesn't specifically involve me. So first all, you don't say whether YOU felt comfortable. If you didn't, that's logical and fine ... not some sign of hesitation or cowardice. In fact, that's a sign of maturity and discretion on your part. So I reject the assumption behind your question: which is that you got a clear signal to touch her ... and you "should have" read the signal and touched her. Actually, I don't think I've ever gone out with a woman who signaled me to touch so early on in a first date who turned out to be anything but trouble. And if she was so turned on and wanted you to touch her, then that energy should have been there at the end of the movie. So no, I don't think you messed up in any way. I think you may have dodged a bullet. 2
SevenCity Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 Even if it did seem like a "megaphone" to grab the kitty, you did best by erring on the side of caution and not taking it there. That’s beta. No way I wouldn’t have not tried. Escalate and see how she takes it. You would be shocked at how far women are willing to go if you lead. If she’s not into it, you back off. As a man you don’t wait for permission. 1
rightondude Posted September 27, 2018 Posted September 27, 2018 you should have licked that popcorn butter off your fingers and slid em into them Jordache jeans pronto, sorry brother you blew it.
Recommended Posts