Phil465 Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 I recently received a invitation to my 10 yr H.S reunion back in my home town which is a 2 hour drive away and fretting over it, because my girlfriend of 9 months really wants to go because she went to her & her friends reunion not long ago and she had a really good time. The reason why I'm reluctant to go is because back in those H.S days I ended up getting into a argument and fight over some ridiculous thing at a beach I can't even remember what about, with a girl I went to school with and bottom line is she ended up beating me up pretty bad.. She is confirmed to be there and I'm worried about what my girlfriend will think if she finds out about it:( Am I making to big of a deal about this and overreacting by being so ashamed about it? I'm just really nervous about seeing this girl again and the whole thing being brought up again in front of my girlfriend.
guest569 Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 I definitely wouldn't go either.. Why is your girlfriend so keen to go?
Author Phil465 Posted September 26, 2018 Author Posted September 26, 2018 I definitely wouldn't go either.. Why is your girlfriend so keen to go? Because she said she had a blast at her reunion & said it would be cool to see were I grew up and meet people I went to school with. She already thinks it's weird why I'm considering not going.
mrs rubble Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 Because she said she had a blast at her reunion & said it would be cool to see were I grew up and meet people I went to school with. She already thinks it's weird why I'm considering not going. I'd tell her the truth. Maybe she'll understand and stop trying to make you go, or help you to get over your fear of meeting up with these people again and stand up for you if anyone were to say anything. 1
guest569 Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 I would just inform her that someone from the school physically assaulted you and you'd rather not see them again. 1
clia Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 Honestly, it's been ten years and most people have probably matured a lot, so I wouldn't even worry about it if I were you. If someone brings it up, just deal with it. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. It was a no win situation for you -- what were you going to do, beat up a girl? I think you should just go to the reunion by yourself. There is no reason to bring your girlfriend of only 9 months considering that she isn't going to know anyone and there will likely be a lot of people you want to catch up with, so you don't want to be stuck entertaining her. (Most people aren't going to want to spend a lot of time talking to the date of a guy they went to high school with when they can be catching up with people they know and haven't seen in years.) Hardly anyone brought a date to my 10 year, and those that did brought a spouse. 1
Happy Lemming Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 My vote is "don't go"... If there were people from High School that you wanted to stay in contact with, you would have. You would have e-mailed, posted on social media or even wrote them a letter/card. You chose to let those high school acquaintances go for a reason, probably because they are not important to you. I call them "walk on" people (like walk on actors in a play or movie); they come into your life briefly and then they are gone. No need to subject yourself to stress to see people you don't really care about in the first place. Tell your girlfriend to mind her own business. 1
Art_Critic Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 I only went to my 20th and after going I wished I hadn't gone... I learned how well I aged and that the same cliques in HS are there IRL 20 years later.... it was boring I did hear that the 10th reunion was the one that women were willing to hookup with just about anybody 1
Emilia Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 I hated high school and wouldn't go, but then again I moved countries back when it was still unusual in my home country so I doubt I'd have much common with my old school mates. Most are probably married with kids in boring, deadend jobs. As to your situation specifically: I don't really think your gf of 9 months has any business of even suggesting to go. I'm not really sure that I would take another half to a first meet after 10 or 20 years. would definitely take someone if it was a laugh and a follow up meet afterwards but you do have the right to deal with your past without someone sticking their nose in. But then, I'm a stickler for boundaries, not everyone feels so strongly. 1
Author Phil465 Posted September 26, 2018 Author Posted September 26, 2018 I think if I do end up going I'll just tell her about it. I might be overreacting over the whole gender thing. It was a long time ago and the fact that it was a girl that I got beat up by might not even matter that much anymore. I know I'll definitely be nervous for sure though even if I don't take her with me.
d0nnivain Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 Explain to your GF that while she enjoyed her time in HS & had a blast at her reunion your experience was different & you'd prefer not to relieve it. then design a fun date for the two of you that night so she doesn't care about your reunion. It's not her decision whether you go to your reunion. 1
kendahke Posted September 26, 2018 Posted September 26, 2018 (edited) First, I'd tell the girlfriend about what happened, then tell her that's the reason why you're not attending your reunion. If you dont' want to go, don't go--I see no reason why you should be made to feel uncomfortable for 3-5 hours for anyone else's amusement. Give your invite to your girlfriend and let her go to it if she wants to go that badly. This year is my class's 40th year anniversary of our HS graduation--and no one took up the mantle to organize a reunion!!! I love it!! Class of 1978 rawks!!!!! Edited September 26, 2018 by kendahke 1
Author Phil465 Posted September 28, 2018 Author Posted September 28, 2018 Yeah, there is no way I would be going to that reunion, not unless you have learned some judo or something and think you could handle the girl today. The moment someone says anything about that incident you are gonna get all insecure and you don't need that crap. Just tell your GF that you have no desire to go to your reunion and leave it at that. That pretty much is exactly what I'm afraid of happening. More than likely I won't go.
coolheadal Posted September 28, 2018 Posted September 28, 2018 I recently received a invitation to my 10 yr H.S reunion back in my home town which is a 2 hour drive away and fretting over it, because my girlfriend of 9 months really wants to go because she went to her & her friends reunion not long ago and she had a really good time. The reason why I'm reluctant to go is because back in those H.S days I ended up getting into a argument and fight over some ridiculous thing at a beach I can't even remember what about, with a girl I went to school with and bottom line is she ended up beating me up pretty bad.. She is confirmed to be there and I'm worried about what my girlfriend will think if she finds out about it:( Am I making to big of a deal about this and overreacting by being so ashamed about it? I'm just really nervous about seeing this girl again and the whole thing being brought up again in front of my girlfriend. I never gone to mine either.. I didn't want to look at those faces again. Now they're older and I did see some pictures of those who had attended it. Oh my good thing I didn't show-up. I am not there to impress. If you had bad experience and the person was going to show-up then I wouldn't go into the fire.. As we say!
guest569 Posted September 28, 2018 Posted September 28, 2018 Hmm I don't have any desire to attend mine either.
Author Phil465 Posted October 6, 2018 Author Posted October 6, 2018 Looks like I could be in the clear. Which is good considering the alternative. At least I won't have to explain that another chick truly has me nervous and a little afraid of her even after a decade.
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