notsohappy Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 ...My lovely ex-GF, who has a lot of baggage, has now accused me of sexual assault. She broke up 2 months ago after we got drunk and had sex. I did not follow no contact, even though she asked me to, and now I have made her mad, and she has thrown this allegation at me. Obviously in strict NC mode now. The variable to this is this...she is a perfect case study for post traumatic stress syndrome, and it is pretty obvious to my therapist that this is a reaction not to me, but to her past. SHe (my therapist) really thinks that the ex will call me back down the road. My question is this....if (and it is still a big if) she does call back, would I be a fool to listen to her after the allegation she has made?
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 From what I understand, repeatedly sticking your hand in a loaded bear trap will always hurt you, no matter what approach you use. Think of this situation like a bear trap: you will only subject yourself to pain if you allow yourself to put your hand in it again by accepting her contacts. No new contacts = No new hurts... Keep up your healing process. Hopefully you have talked to your therapist about how to protect yourself against false allegations!
alphamale Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 ...My question is this....if (and it is still a big if) she does call back, would I be a fool to listen to her after the allegation she has made? If you continue a relationship with this nut-case then I would have to question your own mental health and judgement, NOTSOHAPPY.
bluechocolate Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 nut-case or bear trap - take your pick me - I'd never speak to her again
Art_Critic Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 accused me of sexual assault. She sounds like a keeper to me !!! Just think in a few months if you continue to contact her you might not be able to post on LS from jail.. This is where a kook like that will put you
Author notsohappy Posted September 8, 2005 Author Posted September 8, 2005 ...believe me...the no contact is strict. Maybe I just need more reinforcement that she is crazy. Unfortunately, I do love her, never had an indication of anything like this. And if I was foolish enough to get reinvolved...would have to be therapy and other changes.
Merin Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 Claiming you sexually assualted her is a BIG DEAL. This isn't the same thing as her telling all her girlfriends you're an assclown or something... this is serious. What happens if she decides to press formal charges against you? Dude, leave this girl alone and even IF she decides to call you again sometime there is no way in hell you need this kind of drama and trouble in your life.
fundamental Posted September 9, 2005 Posted September 9, 2005 My question is this....if (and it is still a big if) she does call back, would I be a fool to listen to her after the allegation she has made? Answer = YES
Recommended Posts