Angel29 Posted September 23, 2018 Posted September 23, 2018 (edited) I had my heartbroken by a friend last year as I told him I liked him and he panicked and made an excuse saying that he led me on. I had anxiety before I told him I liked him as I hated not knowing where I stood. I have just made amends with him after 9 months of not seeing him as I blanked a few times after the rejection I was struggling so had to stay away and I hate animosity. I saw him last night on a night out with mutual friends and we briefly exchanged a few words. I didn't look at him much but when I did, I noticed he was already staring at me. This guy is in his 40s. Why is he still staring when he told me no. How can I lose my feelings for him? Edited September 23, 2018 by Angel29
stillafool Posted September 23, 2018 Posted September 23, 2018 At least he admitted to leading you on so there's no reason for you to be embarrassed. He probably knows you still have feelings for him and was staring to hopefully get in your pants again. How old are you?
smackie9 Posted September 23, 2018 Posted September 23, 2018 (edited) A stare can mean many things....maybe he was wondering if you were OK or not. Whatever reason he couldn't be with you, can't be determined by what he said...maybe he really does like you, but something got in the way and that thing makes him feel foolish. Who knows. Not sure why, after 9 months, you haven't moved on from this. What is making you hang on? is it hope? does it feel like unfinished business? Reading through your other threads you should have taken Olivetree's advice and went to that event with the new guy. You have been carrying a torch or crying for this old guy for years...it's time to let GO. Edited September 23, 2018 by smackie9
Author Angel29 Posted September 23, 2018 Author Posted September 23, 2018 What is making you hang on I saw him the previous week and did not feel anything for him. I don't like him staring as it gives false hope. I also find the staring is rude. I know I should forget him as there are other men who want to date me.
smackie9 Posted September 23, 2018 Posted September 23, 2018 Tell him to stop staring at you, it's creeping you out. That will snuff it out quick.
stillafool Posted September 23, 2018 Posted September 23, 2018 Or never look in his direction when he's around and then you won't know if he's staring or not.
coolheadal Posted September 23, 2018 Posted September 23, 2018 I had my heartbroken by a friend last year as I told him I liked him and he panicked and made an excuse saying that he led me on. I had anxiety before I told him I liked him as I hated not knowing where I stood. I have just made amends with him after 9 months of not seeing him as I blanked a few times after the rejection I was struggling so had to stay away and I hate animosity. I saw him last night on a night out with mutual friends and we briefly exchanged a few words. I didn't look at him much but when I did, I noticed he was already staring at me. This guy is in his 40s. Why is he still staring when he told me no. How can I lose my feelings for him? It's tough my child to loose the feelings. Sometimes meditation helps you to forget and it also helps for you to release the hurt in the form of cry. It seems you need to be release from this guy. He's still in your head and when you see him you think back to the old days with him. You need a change of pace you need to do something different. Travel jump into your car, suv, train, bus whatever you do to get around and just go somewhere you never gone with him prior. Talk to other people share your life with someone else just friends talk it over. Just don't stay locked up in the house thinking about this guy and past events. Just won't help. Go to the movies with a friend and see a comedy or see a stand-up comedy with group setting. Something to get your mind off this guy. Takes time might take weeks, months or year. It all depends on you. I wish you the best! As I say that it has happen to me with a girl I knew. Tough to drop them out of your head. Like I said prior it takes time to release the pain and the hurt out.
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