Am i being played, do i need to try harder, or is it going nowhere

[TwistedUser]

I feel embarrassed about writing this as it’s a stupid little issue but I just want other people’s advice and help.

A month ago I went to a party and met a very beautiful Colombian girl. I cant remember much because I was a bit drunk but she was quite friendly to me when I approached her. I just left it at that. Something I noticed which will be a very frequent observation, she was always on her phone texting and was always approached by aggressive latin men.

 

Last week I was invited to a party and she was there again. It seemed like she was trying to get closer to me to gain attention. I was talking to my friend and she butted in making fun of my Spanish. We started talking again. A lot in fact. She even started showing me photos of her family and stuff. She was a bit flirtly and touchy. When she had to go I asked for her facebook. Again, she was on her phone a lot and approached a lot.

 

As chance would have it the next day I went to another bar and saw her there with her friends. Her friends really like me. We where both drunk. Same deal very flirty. This time she went to the bar to get me a glass of water when I told her I had a sore throat. When she went home kissed her on the cheek and again I don’t know because I was a bit drunk, it seemed like she wanted to kiss me again but on the lips, but because I am a shy man and all my friends where around I was scared of possible rejection. Again, she was on her phone a lot and approached a lot.

 

The next day I sent her a text. She responded almost immediately. I sent her a lengthy text and she again responded immediately, with a bigger text message. I respond and then she never read it or got back to me.

I figured she is ignoring me, and was a bit down in the dumps and moved on.

 

Two days later is posted a funny photo of me. She responded with a like (laughing). I found this a bit strange as two days ago she never responded to my text or read it, but had time to like a photo. At this stage she still did not read my message

The next day she finally reads my message. Basically, it’s been 6 days and no response.

 

I did something stupid, I sent her a follow request on Instagram. She accepted it almost immediately, however she has not sent a request to follow me back. This was like 2AM in the morning. I know im stupid.

Maybe I am clutching at straws but I don’t really know what is going on. On one hand it seems like there is no interest to me, and at best just friends. I guess she cant fully ignore me as we share a lot of common friends and her friends like me. Or, is this a case of a latin women playing hard to get and ‘testing’ men. Or she is playing games and likes the attention?

 

Either way I know we will meet again (and often), I guess I just play it cool and never mention any of this. I wonder if I should try kiss her lol

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[MidwestUSA]

You might be better able to gauge the situation if you were to run into each other when not drunk.

 

There's no telling what's going on. Alcohol lowers inhibitions, and makes people do things they normally wouldn't.

 

As for the social media, it means nothing. People collect/give likes and followers as if it's some measure of their worth.

 

I'd say her non reply to your message tells you what you need to know.

[Mardelis]

You might be better able to gauge the situation if you were to run into each other when not drunk.

 

 

This^^

 

 

I also had the same thoughts. You seem to get drunk quite a bit. You don't even remember the details of what you did the times before. Try approaching the situation, try approaching HER with a clear head and you just might have more success figuring out what's going on. Also maybe she isn't getting a good impression if you're so drunk you can't remember things.

[d0nnivain]

Stop thinking the on line activity has real meaning. See how things go when you see her in person sober.