Versacehottie Posted September 25, 2018 Posted September 25, 2018 Yes, you're completely right. I think the fact that I moved to a completely new city and have no friends here is making me even more anxious here. I only made one girlfriend here and met him so maybe that's why I'm overthinking things. I stopped looking into his social media and yes, I might be looking into things too quickly. This is a pattern of mine, where I meet someone I like and want to rush things, which ends up me being with really toxic people who took benefit of that, something I take responsibility for now. I won't speak to him about him, because he's not my boyfriend and I have no right to do so. He would probably think I'm weird if I do. I'll just take things slowly when he comes back and look into meeting new people in the city as well. Thank you so much for your advice, it helped me alot. Glad it helps. I'm not saying shut your eyes and be foolish with your choices either. But everything is a risk no matter what so you just have to walk the fine line of balancing the risks and not letting your anxiety take over (which usually destroys your chance for what you want). I didn't realize you had moved to a new city. So yes absolutely make more new friends, do or find some hobbies you enjoy or push yourself to try some out. It's amazing what the sentence "oh i can't that night I have xyz" because it's really true does to rebalance things with a guy who is interested. IMO, you always want to show that you have other things important to you (including friends & family) going on--based in reality. That way a guy will have to show he is priority-worthy to get time with you. That usually sets the foundation for a guy who is way into you and treats you well. A simplified version but yes this! (and i do not mean by game-playing, i mean by actually having other things that occupy your thoughts going on). Ok good luck. Keep us posted. 1
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